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Actually had an okay experience at the OBGYN

Context: I am a sex repulsed asexual. Haven't gone to the gynecologist in 7 years. I know that's really bad, so I made myself go. I get seriously triggered when people touch me in areas that are sensitive. The last time I went to the gynecologist, the doctor didn't care that I was in pain and didn't care that I didn't want to be touched. I was crying and shaking and the doctor could not have cared less.

This doctor that I went to this time was very patient with me. Asked me if I was doing okay every 10 seconds, and checked in with me all the time to see how my pain was. Basically, I actually had an okay experience for once in my life. I still have an adversion to the OBGYN because I don't like being touched, but at least I have a doctor that's patient and understands me. I know I've seen posts here about the situation so I just want to say it depends on the doctor you get. Some don't give a shit, and some will actually care about your well-being. Thankfully I found one, and I hope the sex repulsed people here will find someone too. ❤️❤️ Just know you are not alone.

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Does anyone else find comfort in books with a found family trope?

I love books that don’t center on romance and sex (but it’s okay if there’s still some romance), but rather focus on a group of people who come together for some sort of common goal and go on adventures. I was wondering if anyone else finds comfort in that trope and if anyone has book recommendations?

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What is lesbian and asexual called?

I see people who are asexual but not aromantic go by things like biromantic or panromantic, is there a lesbian equivalent for that?

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ONLY INTIMACY IS BY SEX RAHHH 😡

I was reading this amazing slow burn romance and the buildup was just insane and then when they FINALLY confess, they don't stare into each other's eyes, they don't hug, they don't cuddle, they just immediately go to sex aaaahhhhhhhg why is everyone like this why is every romance story just sex aaaaahahhhhhhh fuckkkk whyyyyyyy 😭😡😭

It's like, to me, sex can achieve about 1% of the intimacy that can be achieved by basically any other means; and so for such an amazing story, building up such an incredible potential for romantic/emotional exchange...to only be completely short-cutted by the sex (which again, to me, just people rubbing their organs against each other) is just so AAAHHHHH (incredibly disappointing and sad, considering I read romance for the mental-emotional connection between the characters. I understand sex is supposed to be peak intimacy and is for many people and these characters, but gosh darnit if it's the exact opposite for me)

So. Many. Stories. Ruined for me like this goshhhh, I wonder so often if I'll ever be able to date/romance someone if for every person the peak of intimacy is sex godshgoodness. Like brilliant date? sex. Passionately in love? Sex. Missed each other for a long time and just reunited? Sex.

HOW AM I GONNA BE INTIMATE WITH ANYONE RVER IF IT'S ALL JIST SEX SEX SEX GOSHHHHA.


And it seems so rare to find fellow asexuals, all the awesome people I meet and no one on the that I'm interested ace spectrum, or if they are they're also aro :((

I get that I'm being somewhat hyperbolic in my thinking; after all, even allosexuals have among them people who see cuddling and talks as just as important, or who aren't so interested in sex...but still.... :((

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So what exactly is a "crush"? Now that I look back at it, I think everyone was talking about sexual attraction...

(So this is my first proper post on reddit so bear with me. Also, English isn't my first language...)

This is a bit of a stupid overthinking spiral I had in the shower today over the word "crush" in the shower today lol...

(19 F) In the last few months, I realized I'm ace (although as I look back at life, there were so many signs that I missed but I didn't know what asexuality was to label them) and I am sure of my asexuality but it's still confusing sometimes because I've felt romantic & even sensual attraction (never dated anyone btw).

Back in middle school, 'crushes' became a big deal. When my friends asked me about my crush, I did like a guy so I said his name. The attraction was NEVER-EVER sexual thank you. I found him super cute & charming & when we got partnered up for a project, I felt all the butterflies & whatever. I used to wonder how nice it would be to go on dates, hold hands, cuddle, talk to him all day long, etc. Had a few crushes after him. My latest crush was on a friend & I was head-over-heels for her oh god... Had all the romantic & some sensual feels but never sexual.

I've heard many aromantic people say that they never had crushes but after I saw some ace people said it too, I got confused. So are these 2 scenarios above "crushes" or is there another term for it? I know queerplatonic attraction is called a "squish" so is a "crush" the equivalent of sexual attraction or does it include other non-platonic attractions as well? Because now that I look back at my school days, I think everyone meant "who are you sexually attracted to" when they said "who is your crush" lol...

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Any alloromantic asexuals here?

Anyone else here feel romantic attraction but not sexual attraction?

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Share your favorite 'romantic', non-sexual songs

Just looking for those sort of romantic songs about emotional and or mental connection and sweet moments instead of hard core sexual stuff or hints at that.

Please share your favorites, from whatever genre you're interested in.

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It’s weird honestly. Why do people care about sex so much. It’s so odd

I’m trying to live my life and all my friends are talking about sex and having a girlfriend like damn there’s more to life then that shit bro. Why is the media so obsessed with it. Idk I find it odd and kinda disgusting. It feels like I can’t relate to people my age yk. Thanks for the rant ? I guess lol

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A Message From Your Local Asexual!
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A Message From Your Local Asexual!!
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A message from your local asexual!
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I don't think it's why I am the way I am but...
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How is s*x supposed to feel?

I’m asexual, but comfortable enough that my boyfriend and I have been having sex.

So I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to be feeling… It’s not bad necessarily, but I’d hesitate to call it good, sometimes it’s nice but, mostly just kind of A Lot I guess. And at some angles it definitely does hurt a little. It just feels weird?

I’m not sure if this is an ace thing or a more universal thing, if anyone is comfortable sort of explaining what it feels like, I’d be grateful!

Or has any tips I guess!

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We can do something like that
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ACE Books 📚📖

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How can I succinctly and clearly tell a room full of high schoolers that being asexual is ok?

I’m going to be discussing sex and sexuality to a group of about 80-100 high schoolers, and one of the brief caveats I want to go over (before I get into the meat of the message) is that if a student is thinking that something is wrong with them because they’re not relationship/sex crazy “like everyone else is,” that they might be asexual and that is okay. Is there anything more I would need to say, besides that? It seems like enough to me, but I don’t identify as ace. If you knew you were asexual by the time you were a teen, what could someone have said to make you feel supported and loved?

For context: this is in a conventional Christian church setting. If you’d like to know more about what else I’m planning on saying during the message, feel free to ask.

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