purity culture and asexuality
I grew up in the 2000s-2010s and I tentatively say I was a victim of purity culture. I had the ring and the high I got from thinking I was better than everyone else makes me so embarrassed to this day. As a teen, I started labeling myself as a sex repulsed asexual and sometimes I think that I was just, being performative but I know now, as an atheist and an adult that I still am asexual. I feel comfortable in my identity and I am sex repulsed but I feel so bitter at the idea of not being able to stick it to big purity culture and be a whore. Like this isn't a joke, I wish I was not sex repulsed, I am so resentful of the way purity culture harmed me. I did turn out to be asexual but sometimes I still wonder if thats just because of my fear of intimacy because I didnt allow myself to explore. I'm happy where I am all in all but idk, tldr; i wish i could be sexually active out of spite
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I grew up in the 2000s-2010s and I tentatively say I was a victim of purity culture. I had the ring and the high I got from thinking I was better than everyone else makes me so embarrassed to this day. As a teen, I started labeling myself as a sex repulsed asexual and sometimes I think that I was just, being performative but I know now, as an atheist and an adult that I still am asexual. I feel comfortable in my identity and I am sex repulsed but I feel so bitter at the idea of not being able to stick it to big purity culture and be a whore. Like this isn't a joke, I wish I was not sex repulsed, I am so resentful of the way purity culture harmed me. I did turn out to be asexual but sometimes I still wonder if thats just because of my fear of intimacy because I didnt allow myself to explore. I'm happy where I am all in all but idk, tldr; i wish i could be sexually active out of spite
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Hey, bros, what are your sensual desires?
I’ve noticed that I like to dream about kissing someone’s neck or cuddling, hugging them or brushing their hair. I think if someone does that for me, these actions are pleasing too. What are your most desirable actions?
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I’ve noticed that I like to dream about kissing someone’s neck or cuddling, hugging them or brushing their hair. I think if someone does that for me, these actions are pleasing too. What are your most desirable actions?
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Fam look at these asexual flag trinkets I've been making 🥺
I'm just so proud of them bc I think they're so cute, like I put one on my bag and I love it so much 🥺 (I do sell them, so if anyone wants, I can drop links)
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I'm just so proud of them bc I think they're so cute, like I put one on my bag and I love it so much 🥺 (I do sell them, so if anyone wants, I can drop links)
https://preview.redd.it/a0qkktdu24hd1.jpg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1cc9bc477b322bf22d659ea2e753152fec69107e
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I'm working on an OC who's an Asexual Detective. The head kinda feels off though
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Cuddles > Sex
But the moment I share this opinion, I get allos trying to say “oh but sex is so good” or “oh just do both” or “you’re just not doing it right” like I don’t think you quite understand where I’m coming from with this
Or I just get people going “OMG fuck no you’re weird”
And I tried explaining the term “allosexual” to one of them and they’re like “oh, so… sexual?” Like intentionally ignoring correct terminology and the reasons why we need it
Like I’m not even sex repulsed but the lack of understanding from allos might actually drive me there one day ffs
Good lord at least my wife gets me.
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But the moment I share this opinion, I get allos trying to say “oh but sex is so good” or “oh just do both” or “you’re just not doing it right” like I don’t think you quite understand where I’m coming from with this
Or I just get people going “OMG fuck no you’re weird”
And I tried explaining the term “allosexual” to one of them and they’re like “oh, so… sexual?” Like intentionally ignoring correct terminology and the reasons why we need it
Like I’m not even sex repulsed but the lack of understanding from allos might actually drive me there one day ffs
Good lord at least my wife gets me.
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wanna hear a joke?
What do you call a fighter pilot that has never had sex?
An ACE pilot!
(My jokes suck)
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What do you call a fighter pilot that has never had sex?
An ACE pilot!
(My jokes suck)
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Writing a book about an aroace character
Hi, I am thinking of writing a short book about an aroace character that is mainly about love. It is going to be based on experiences mixed with an educational flair about many different perceptions of love and how it works and applying it to a real life situation. I myself can only imagine how it is to grow up as an aroace person, which is why I want to learn about your experiences growing up (small kid to teens), so I can make the story as authentic as possible. A big thanks in advance to everyone who answers, because I am experiencing a little bit of a writers block atm, cause I want to make this book authentic. <3
I have posted this to multiple subreddits if you are wondering, but I want to reach a few people, so I am trying to post it to a few subreddits.
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Hi, I am thinking of writing a short book about an aroace character that is mainly about love. It is going to be based on experiences mixed with an educational flair about many different perceptions of love and how it works and applying it to a real life situation. I myself can only imagine how it is to grow up as an aroace person, which is why I want to learn about your experiences growing up (small kid to teens), so I can make the story as authentic as possible. A big thanks in advance to everyone who answers, because I am experiencing a little bit of a writers block atm, cause I want to make this book authentic. <3
I have posted this to multiple subreddits if you are wondering, but I want to reach a few people, so I am trying to post it to a few subreddits.
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New account but not new to this subreddit
Just wanted to introduce myself, I had to delete my old account because I posted about myself on a bad sub and apparently those people hate people who are different. I was constantly being harassed and my only option left was to delete my account.
I am 34 years old and Asexual 100% and kind of aromantic. I am an AAA, Asexual, Aromantic, and Autistic. I’d live to answer any questions anyone might have.
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Just wanted to introduce myself, I had to delete my old account because I posted about myself on a bad sub and apparently those people hate people who are different. I was constantly being harassed and my only option left was to delete my account.
I am 34 years old and Asexual 100% and kind of aromantic. I am an AAA, Asexual, Aromantic, and Autistic. I’d live to answer any questions anyone might have.
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Where are all the ace men?
I‘m (f32) casually swiping through bumble from time to time (I am craving a romantic connection) and there don’t seem to be ANY men interested in someone who is on the asexual spectrum.
It’s the first time in decades that I decided to openly state that I am „grey-ace“.
I wouldn’t have to write that in my profile as I am a kind of sex-favorable demi person, so my relationships might work pretty „normal“/allo (from the outside).
But I’m recently very proud about my asexual identity and I want to scare away all the hypersexual men, so I decided to give it a go and write it in my bio.
I’ve never had any problems to get dates before. Currently no one seems to be interested. I get matches but many men delete them (I guess after reading my profile text properly).
I’m honest with you - I‘d expected more men to be - maybe secretly - ace and happy to meet someone who’s on the spectrum too. I see tons of men who are looking for casual sex and seem to prioritize sex on top. But can it be real that there are no ace men at all? Especially physically attractive men?
It really confuses me, like how is sex so important for seemingly every goddamn man? Where are the ace people?
Idk what to do, I don’t really want to hide my sexuality but I guess people just don’t know how different asexuality can be and that it doesn’t have to mean no sex…
How do you handle dating apps?
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I‘m (f32) casually swiping through bumble from time to time (I am craving a romantic connection) and there don’t seem to be ANY men interested in someone who is on the asexual spectrum.
It’s the first time in decades that I decided to openly state that I am „grey-ace“.
I wouldn’t have to write that in my profile as I am a kind of sex-favorable demi person, so my relationships might work pretty „normal“/allo (from the outside).
But I’m recently very proud about my asexual identity and I want to scare away all the hypersexual men, so I decided to give it a go and write it in my bio.
I’ve never had any problems to get dates before. Currently no one seems to be interested. I get matches but many men delete them (I guess after reading my profile text properly).
I’m honest with you - I‘d expected more men to be - maybe secretly - ace and happy to meet someone who’s on the spectrum too. I see tons of men who are looking for casual sex and seem to prioritize sex on top. But can it be real that there are no ace men at all? Especially physically attractive men?
It really confuses me, like how is sex so important for seemingly every goddamn man? Where are the ace people?
Idk what to do, I don’t really want to hide my sexuality but I guess people just don’t know how different asexuality can be and that it doesn’t have to mean no sex…
How do you handle dating apps?
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
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Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
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**Do any of these resonate with you?**
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* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
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These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
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**Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?** Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
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[**More signs that you are Aro:**\](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro/)
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[**Honeymoon Phase:**\](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
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[**Types of attraction (might be incomplete):**\](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/
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**Hi everyone!**
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Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
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**Do any of these resonate with you?**
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* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
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These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
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**Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?** Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
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[**More signs that you are Aro:**\](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro/)
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[**Honeymoon Phase:**\](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
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[**Types of attraction (might be incomplete):**\](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/
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Why is everything sexualised
Was talking to people about tattoos but apparently tattoos are sexual so I can't??
Same with anatomy, clothes, hair, makeup can't discuss shit with people without them saying it's sexual and I'm not allowed to talk about it.
It's so fucking annoying omg
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Was talking to people about tattoos but apparently tattoos are sexual so I can't??
Same with anatomy, clothes, hair, makeup can't discuss shit with people without them saying it's sexual and I'm not allowed to talk about it.
It's so fucking annoying omg
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