I just came out to my parents

It went surprisingly well, they told me they still love me and all that. I’m pretty sure they don’t know exactly what an asexual is, but they refused when I offered to explain exactly what it is.

Update: they knew what it was thankfully

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I like an asexual girl (but I'm not)

Hello! I'm a 23yo lesbian and I have such a big crush on a girl of my age. We have such a cool connection and I want to make a move but some months ago she told me she's asexual and I don't know what to do. I want to kiss her, to sleep with her and to give her caress and massages, just feeling each other but maybe that's not what she wants.

That's the first thing that's stopping me to ask her out (second thing is I'm scared she doesn't like me back and I mess our frienship). I totally respect her so I don't want to make her unconfortable asking her what does she like to do with a partner before asking her out. But, in case she said yes, it would be a bit difficult for me try not to think about kissing her nor sleeping with her (I would never do anything without consent, for sure, I mean as in it would be frustrating wanting to do it but not doing it).

So I wanted to ask you if you think it's better just not to ask her out and let my crush go away, to ask her what she wants in a partner and if we fit then ask her out or I ask her out and in case she wants to date me too, I ask her about her boundaries.

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Horny marvel? But why tho

Lately in movie podcasts I've noticed a trend in people complaining about marvel movies being "sexless". Considering I am watching the movies to see my faves do the fun action in cool suits, I've never had a problem with this. Like I genuinely don't understand the need to see them make out or have sex or whatever when the few times they attempted it contributed nothing and distracted from the overall plot (looking at you Steve Sharon kiss).

And honestly, it's not like they're ever going to give me queer kisses so I'm game for them to keep me write the fic myself.

Point is, why do people want sex in superhero movies?

Eternals had a bit of a sex scene and all the uncomfy feels came back for me. Even if marvel put more intimate scenes, it's not like you would see much anyway as they are 4 quadrant PG-13 movies. So what are people expecting??

I don't understand...

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No position tops riding Yoshi around Isle Delfino
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Gravity Falls is a real gem
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Is it a bad idea to wear my ace ring at my Lutheran homophobic high school?

I’ve been wearing it for about a week and the only person who noticed is my ace friend and I sorta pointed it out to them. Other people know I’m ace, and no homophobes or faculty have bugged me about it and it’s not a widely known thing among non lgbtq people. I think I’m good I just wanted a second opinion because I’m not out to my parents or I would ask them

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Recruiting someone who can code in JavaScript or React (or whatever) to help me code a dating app for Asexuals

Basically what the title says. I’m sitting on this idea, and it’s all written out, planned, and ready to go. Problem is, I can’t code. It’ll take too long to learn (I’m impatient and there’s a huge demand and by the time I learn, there may not be) and well, I get massive headaches and super frustrated when trying to code. We could be business partners. Split the profit, if any, evenly and I will help as much as I can with the coding as I can, even if it’s bringing you food and coffee/tea, water, etc. (if we can meet in person, if not, then order you something on DoorDash) and I will definitely and enthusiastically work on design, PR, and advertising, and anything else that goes into this project. I thought I’d just put myself out there because I don’t want this ADHD brainchild to go to waste, it’s too precious! (Jk, but kinda serious). I promise I am super dedicated to this and I won’t bail or leave you with all the work! I also promise that I will be open to any suggestions and ideas for improvement or just design change and all that, the original idea is just a rough draft, after all. (I’m 29F, I live outside of Philly, btw) Any takers?

https://redd.it/shuh6k
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No idea what to title this lol
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when you've finally befriended someone of the opposite sex and EVERYONE thinks you're dating

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People saying I'm not ace enough

I'm asexual and I do sex work, people seem to be bothered by this even though I've stated that I don't have any sexual attraction to the people I sell to/sleep with and that I simply do it for money. People have told me that I'm not asexual enough to tell people that I'm asexual because of me doing sex work and it just feels super invalidating.

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Some ace vibes, not gonnalie
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They´ll never get me :P
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Coming out as ace in a long term relationship?

I’m in a long term relationship (nearly 5 years) and have been thinking for a long time that I might be asexual. It all makes sense when I look back at how I’ve felt my whole life so I’m almost certain this is something I identify with.

Does anyone have any advice on coming out to a partner as asexual (or just coming out in general) after you are already in a long term relationship?

Thank you in advance!

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Do you listen to sexual music as a form of performance? Like, Drag for sexuality?



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As a sex neutral ace… mmm yes
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Curious question to aces that are into men

What do you guys feel whenever you see a shirtless man? (not in photo but live) Do you guys feel indifferent or something?

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What is with the influx of shows about women’s sex lives?

Obv sexually charged shows have always been a thing but I swear I saw like 3 ads for new shows all about young women’s sex lives in the same day. ‘Single drunk female’, ‘The sex lives of college girls’ ‘sex/life’. Like I get we’re trying to normalize women liking sex and embracing their sexuality but like,,calm down. Can’t relate or connect to any of it. I’d love to see a romcom about an asexual woman in a relationship or something like that.

Edit: In case anyone might be wondering, this isn’t a hate post. I’m not a fan of sexual themes in media but I don’t exactly hate them either. I’m very happy women expressing their sexuality as a normalized thing. I was just surprised to see several of the same kind of thing come out all at the same time is all.

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Thought this would fit right in here

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hearing my dad say hurtful things about my orientation rn

hes in the other room, on the phone catching up with an old friend. its the ignorant things to say bingo. “she says now her choice is to become asexual..... no sex.... yeah she says its one of those queer things that they're making now, back in our day they just called it celebacy...”

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Sorry if this is cringey, but it made me chuckle
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