screams in heteroromantic Ace YYYYYEEEEESSSS
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Yes, I'm asexual. Yes, I watch porn. We exist
What are you gonna do about it?
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@asexualityonreddit
What are you gonna do about it?
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@asexualityonreddit
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Yes, I'm asexual. Yes, I watch porn. We exist
What are you gonna do about it?
Asexual but I can’t stop thinking about sex and romance
I guess I’ll just start this by saying a few months ago I was questioning my sexuality. I found out I really identify with asexuality by learning more about it and going through this thread. It just made so much sense except for the fact that I do think about sex and relationships pretty often. I don’t feel romantic or sexual attraction to anyone and never have so it confused me a little. I was a little confused thinking I was actually a fraud and not apart of the ace community because I think about sex but I don’t actually want it. Then I found out about aegosexuality and realized I identify with that.
That’s just a little bit of context and back story to help you better understand. But what this post is about is the fact that even though I have come to terms with being ace, i can’t seem to shake the FOMO on never being able to experience what I can’t seem to stop thinking about. I’ve realized I’ve gone my whole life admiring and being jealous of allos because I can’t feel what they feel. I can only dream about what they get to experience and it makes me feel empty.
It almost feels forbidden to say. Please don’t get me wrong, I love the ace community and being apart of it makes me feel less alone because I now can finally put a name to the feelings I feel (or in this case the feelings I don’t feel). But here’s how I can best describe what I do feel. When I see a couple i feel happy for them, but I also feel sad. The sadness that I feel isn’t because I want what they have or that I’m sad that I don’t have an SO. It’s a sadness at the fact that I’ll never get to experience that kind of love for the simple fact that I don’t feel sexual or romantic attraction. It’s something that you see in movies, tv shows, on social media, and with the people around you in your everyday life. I’ll always hear about it and see it, but I can only wonder what it’s like and be happy for those that get to experience it. It’s almost like it’s a food that everybody raves about but you can’t taste it. It’s not something you can’t live without tasting, but that doesn’t mean you don’t wonder about it and feel and little left out because you don’t understand the hype.
Basically I’m a hopeless romantic who doesn’t feel romantic attraction if that’s even a thing. I have accepted the fact that I am ace. Now all I have to do is work on being content with it. I just thought I’d share this here because it’s apart of my ace journey. Just in case there’s an ace out there that might be feeling the same just know you’re not alone!
https://redd.it/sg8dt2
@asexualityonreddit
I guess I’ll just start this by saying a few months ago I was questioning my sexuality. I found out I really identify with asexuality by learning more about it and going through this thread. It just made so much sense except for the fact that I do think about sex and relationships pretty often. I don’t feel romantic or sexual attraction to anyone and never have so it confused me a little. I was a little confused thinking I was actually a fraud and not apart of the ace community because I think about sex but I don’t actually want it. Then I found out about aegosexuality and realized I identify with that.
That’s just a little bit of context and back story to help you better understand. But what this post is about is the fact that even though I have come to terms with being ace, i can’t seem to shake the FOMO on never being able to experience what I can’t seem to stop thinking about. I’ve realized I’ve gone my whole life admiring and being jealous of allos because I can’t feel what they feel. I can only dream about what they get to experience and it makes me feel empty.
It almost feels forbidden to say. Please don’t get me wrong, I love the ace community and being apart of it makes me feel less alone because I now can finally put a name to the feelings I feel (or in this case the feelings I don’t feel). But here’s how I can best describe what I do feel. When I see a couple i feel happy for them, but I also feel sad. The sadness that I feel isn’t because I want what they have or that I’m sad that I don’t have an SO. It’s a sadness at the fact that I’ll never get to experience that kind of love for the simple fact that I don’t feel sexual or romantic attraction. It’s something that you see in movies, tv shows, on social media, and with the people around you in your everyday life. I’ll always hear about it and see it, but I can only wonder what it’s like and be happy for those that get to experience it. It’s almost like it’s a food that everybody raves about but you can’t taste it. It’s not something you can’t live without tasting, but that doesn’t mean you don’t wonder about it and feel and little left out because you don’t understand the hype.
Basically I’m a hopeless romantic who doesn’t feel romantic attraction if that’s even a thing. I have accepted the fact that I am ace. Now all I have to do is work on being content with it. I just thought I’d share this here because it’s apart of my ace journey. Just in case there’s an ace out there that might be feeling the same just know you’re not alone!
https://redd.it/sg8dt2
@asexualityonreddit
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Asexual but I can’t stop thinking about sex and romance
I guess I’ll just start this by saying a few months ago I was questioning my sexuality. I found out I really identify with asexuality by learning...
I never understood why people in the LGBTQA community wanted random characters in media to be queer...
... until I understood my own sexuality. Now all my favorite characters in tv-shows and movies are ace in my headcannon. I keep finding proof as to why they might be asexual and it makes me so happy!
Even if the writers of the show don't intend to give a character a certain sexuality, I still find "proof" that they're ace. Even the slightest possibility that someone is asexual in a tv show gives me butterflies.
I'm happy that I now know why people do this and insists that some characters have this and that sexuality. It gives us the feeling of being included (even if it's not intended but whatever) and it's such a great feeling!
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... until I understood my own sexuality. Now all my favorite characters in tv-shows and movies are ace in my headcannon. I keep finding proof as to why they might be asexual and it makes me so happy!
Even if the writers of the show don't intend to give a character a certain sexuality, I still find "proof" that they're ace. Even the slightest possibility that someone is asexual in a tv show gives me butterflies.
I'm happy that I now know why people do this and insists that some characters have this and that sexuality. It gives us the feeling of being included (even if it's not intended but whatever) and it's such a great feeling!
https://redd.it/sg8zbg
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
I never understood why people in the LGBTQA community wanted...
... until I understood my own sexuality. Now all my favorite characters in tv-shows and movies are ace in my headcannon. I keep finding proof as...
Is it unethical to “compromise” with an ace girlfriend?
My girlfriend of 7 years and I have recently come to the realization that she may likely be some degree of asexual. She says she has had sex with me because she knows I enjoy it…she says she sort of enjoys it “sometimes” but the majority is duty sex, I guess. She never initiates and just isn’t independently interested. I would get more descriptive of the situation here but I am extremely sleep deprived due to depression related to this. WOULD continuing to “compromise” in this way even be ethical? From the point of view of someone who ace…..is such an arrangement hell?
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My girlfriend of 7 years and I have recently come to the realization that she may likely be some degree of asexual. She says she has had sex with me because she knows I enjoy it…she says she sort of enjoys it “sometimes” but the majority is duty sex, I guess. She never initiates and just isn’t independently interested. I would get more descriptive of the situation here but I am extremely sleep deprived due to depression related to this. WOULD continuing to “compromise” in this way even be ethical? From the point of view of someone who ace…..is such an arrangement hell?
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Is it unethical to “compromise” with an ace girlfriend?
My girlfriend of 7 years and I have recently come to the realization that she may likely be some degree of asexual. She says she has had sex with...
My mom confused asexuality with non-binary.
Basically, my mom told my dad that I’m non-binary (I’m not) because she doesn’t understand the difference between that and being ace. And I’m not ready to come out as ace to my dad yet, so I just kinda went with it as best as I could while also clarifying I’m not non-binary, I just hate my body.
But either way, so not cool of her to out me at all considering I told her not to mention it to my dad specifically.
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Basically, my mom told my dad that I’m non-binary (I’m not) because she doesn’t understand the difference between that and being ace. And I’m not ready to come out as ace to my dad yet, so I just kinda went with it as best as I could while also clarifying I’m not non-binary, I just hate my body.
But either way, so not cool of her to out me at all considering I told her not to mention it to my dad specifically.
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My mom confused asexuality with non-binary.
Basically, my mom told my dad that I’m non-binary (I’m not) because she doesn’t understand the difference between that and being ace. And I’m not...
Horrible "Representation"
I hope I picked the right tag? I'm not being aphobic, the show I'm gonna talk about is though.
Okay I just wanna rant about this. House M.D. was one of my favorite shows, and I was watching an episode today. There was a patient that was said to be asexual and in an asexual relationship with her partner. The producers decided to have the husband suffer from a brain tumor that caused his asexuality and that the wife was just silently complying the whole time and wasn't actually asexual. The entire plotline turned into the doctors "fixing" them and ridiculing the ace community, as well as being extremely aphobic. Disgusting.
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I hope I picked the right tag? I'm not being aphobic, the show I'm gonna talk about is though.
Okay I just wanna rant about this. House M.D. was one of my favorite shows, and I was watching an episode today. There was a patient that was said to be asexual and in an asexual relationship with her partner. The producers decided to have the husband suffer from a brain tumor that caused his asexuality and that the wife was just silently complying the whole time and wasn't actually asexual. The entire plotline turned into the doctors "fixing" them and ridiculing the ace community, as well as being extremely aphobic. Disgusting.
https://redd.it/sgg3r3
@asexualityonreddit
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Horrible "Representation"
I hope I picked the right tag? I'm not being aphobic, the show I'm gonna talk about is though. Okay I just wanna rant about this. House M.D. was...
Not a real interaction, just a fictional argument I’ve had in my head
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Why are my 2 asexual friends having sex?
I apologize in advance for my ignorance. I mean nothing harmful by this post, and I am trying to learn more about the asexual community.
So, my 2 asexual friends are dating each other. I know that they have sex because I can hear their bed squeak (a lot) when I visit my other friend in his dorm. (We all go to the same college.) I do not understand why they are having sex if they are both asexual.
I did some googling and I am hearing that sexual attraction is different from sexual desire. Asexuals experience no sexual attraction, but they may have sexual desire. Is this correct? I think I’m just not understanding how sexual attraction and desire are 2 different things. Could someone explain to me how/why they are different?
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I apologize in advance for my ignorance. I mean nothing harmful by this post, and I am trying to learn more about the asexual community.
So, my 2 asexual friends are dating each other. I know that they have sex because I can hear their bed squeak (a lot) when I visit my other friend in his dorm. (We all go to the same college.) I do not understand why they are having sex if they are both asexual.
I did some googling and I am hearing that sexual attraction is different from sexual desire. Asexuals experience no sexual attraction, but they may have sexual desire. Is this correct? I think I’m just not understanding how sexual attraction and desire are 2 different things. Could someone explain to me how/why they are different?
https://redd.it/sgl0us
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Why are my 2 asexual friends having sex?
I apologize in advance for my ignorance. I mean nothing harmful by this post, and I am trying to learn more about the asexual community. So, my 2...