marriage.
I'm someone who is under 18, yet my parents keep bringing up marriage and having kids and all that. it makes me super uncomfortable and they still bring up this topic even though I told them I was uncomfortable with it many times. I always bring up a counterargument like, "What am I supposed to do if I don't fall in love with anyone? Do I just force myself into a random marriage with someone I don't even like?" and they told me...
"That's not possible, everyone falls in love. It's not possible for someone to not develop feelings for another person", something along the lines of that. What? No. That's incorrect. Out of 7 billion people on the face of this planet, there's no one in the world who hasn't not fallen in love with anyone? Is that what you're trying to tell me? And the topic of marriage keeps on coming up, and I get more and more uncomfortable with it. When I ask, "well, what if I didn't love anyone?" she "tsk-tsks" me or shrugs.
I feel stuck because they tell me life is worthless without marriage or kids, but the process of having kids and the effect on your body afterwards seems so hard to deal with; especially postpartum depression and adding weight from your stomach expanding so much. I feel like I'll be depressed if I don't marry and have kids, but I also feel like I'd be depressed if I did the opposite and lived by myself. I hate this so much. I can't get rid of this mindset no matter who I talk to or what I think of.
My dad told me that if I get married, I'm going to be owned by my husband. What? Huh? What do you mean "owned"?? I might as well be put on a leash and have a dog tag with the writing "If found lost, please return to (husband's name)". Wtf??
My mom told me the only reason I was born a girl was to marry a husband and give life to a kid. I feel literally worthless. What's the point of existing at this point??? I don't even feel like I'm supposed to live a regular humanly life, I feel like I'm getting an education and working hard to just to end up as a housewife and baby maker.
My science teacher makes me feel more comfortable than my parents. He accepts the fact that I don't want to get in a relationship with anyone or feel attraction, and he told me it's totally okay and you can live a perfectly happy and normal life even without marriage. This is one of the only thoughts that distracts me from everything else, and makes me a little happier. He deserves everything, and I think he's awesome.
(Thought I'd post this to make me feel a little better).
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I'm someone who is under 18, yet my parents keep bringing up marriage and having kids and all that. it makes me super uncomfortable and they still bring up this topic even though I told them I was uncomfortable with it many times. I always bring up a counterargument like, "What am I supposed to do if I don't fall in love with anyone? Do I just force myself into a random marriage with someone I don't even like?" and they told me...
"That's not possible, everyone falls in love. It's not possible for someone to not develop feelings for another person", something along the lines of that. What? No. That's incorrect. Out of 7 billion people on the face of this planet, there's no one in the world who hasn't not fallen in love with anyone? Is that what you're trying to tell me? And the topic of marriage keeps on coming up, and I get more and more uncomfortable with it. When I ask, "well, what if I didn't love anyone?" she "tsk-tsks" me or shrugs.
I feel stuck because they tell me life is worthless without marriage or kids, but the process of having kids and the effect on your body afterwards seems so hard to deal with; especially postpartum depression and adding weight from your stomach expanding so much. I feel like I'll be depressed if I don't marry and have kids, but I also feel like I'd be depressed if I did the opposite and lived by myself. I hate this so much. I can't get rid of this mindset no matter who I talk to or what I think of.
My dad told me that if I get married, I'm going to be owned by my husband. What? Huh? What do you mean "owned"?? I might as well be put on a leash and have a dog tag with the writing "If found lost, please return to (husband's name)". Wtf??
My mom told me the only reason I was born a girl was to marry a husband and give life to a kid. I feel literally worthless. What's the point of existing at this point??? I don't even feel like I'm supposed to live a regular humanly life, I feel like I'm getting an education and working hard to just to end up as a housewife and baby maker.
My science teacher makes me feel more comfortable than my parents. He accepts the fact that I don't want to get in a relationship with anyone or feel attraction, and he told me it's totally okay and you can live a perfectly happy and normal life even without marriage. This is one of the only thoughts that distracts me from everything else, and makes me a little happier. He deserves everything, and I think he's awesome.
(Thought I'd post this to make me feel a little better).
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marriage.
I'm someone who is under 18, yet my parents keep bringing up marriage and having kids and all that. it makes me super uncomfortable and they still...
Are you intersex?
I am intersex and wondered if me being intersex is part of the reason I am asexual. I also wondered how many other aces were intersex too. So I decided to make this poll.
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I am intersex and wondered if me being intersex is part of the reason I am asexual. I also wondered how many other aces were intersex too. So I decided to make this poll.
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Based on a true story. (This was before I came out to them as Aego)
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Yes, I'm asexual. Yes, I watch porn. We exist
What are you gonna do about it?
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What are you gonna do about it?
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@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Yes, I'm asexual. Yes, I watch porn. We exist
What are you gonna do about it?
Confessed my Sexuality
Yesterday I told to one of my best friend that, I'm Asexual. She was shocked. She acted like she didn't expect me to be.
Then she asked me a lot of questions about the asexuality and stuffs.
I never knew confessing the asexuality would be this hard😶.
Finally to my astonishment, she also said me that she's an ace too 🤩. It's just that she didn't knew the term and she thought she herself was wierd not being getting attracted sexually.
There are lot of asexuals out there, they just don't know.
And finally, our bond got stronger 😊. It is really great to have a friend with same sexuality.
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Yesterday I told to one of my best friend that, I'm Asexual. She was shocked. She acted like she didn't expect me to be.
Then she asked me a lot of questions about the asexuality and stuffs.
I never knew confessing the asexuality would be this hard😶.
Finally to my astonishment, she also said me that she's an ace too 🤩. It's just that she didn't knew the term and she thought she herself was wierd not being getting attracted sexually.
There are lot of asexuals out there, they just don't know.
And finally, our bond got stronger 😊. It is really great to have a friend with same sexuality.
https://redd.it/sfwtc3
@asexualityonreddit
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Confessed my Sexuality
Yesterday I told to one of my best friend that, I'm Asexual. She was shocked. She acted like she didn't expect me to be. Then she asked me a lot...
screams in heteroromantic Ace YYYYYEEEEESSSS
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@asexualityonreddit
Yes, I'm asexual. Yes, I watch porn. We exist
What are you gonna do about it?
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@asexualityonreddit
What are you gonna do about it?
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@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Yes, I'm asexual. Yes, I watch porn. We exist
What are you gonna do about it?
Asexual but I can’t stop thinking about sex and romance
I guess I’ll just start this by saying a few months ago I was questioning my sexuality. I found out I really identify with asexuality by learning more about it and going through this thread. It just made so much sense except for the fact that I do think about sex and relationships pretty often. I don’t feel romantic or sexual attraction to anyone and never have so it confused me a little. I was a little confused thinking I was actually a fraud and not apart of the ace community because I think about sex but I don’t actually want it. Then I found out about aegosexuality and realized I identify with that.
That’s just a little bit of context and back story to help you better understand. But what this post is about is the fact that even though I have come to terms with being ace, i can’t seem to shake the FOMO on never being able to experience what I can’t seem to stop thinking about. I’ve realized I’ve gone my whole life admiring and being jealous of allos because I can’t feel what they feel. I can only dream about what they get to experience and it makes me feel empty.
It almost feels forbidden to say. Please don’t get me wrong, I love the ace community and being apart of it makes me feel less alone because I now can finally put a name to the feelings I feel (or in this case the feelings I don’t feel). But here’s how I can best describe what I do feel. When I see a couple i feel happy for them, but I also feel sad. The sadness that I feel isn’t because I want what they have or that I’m sad that I don’t have an SO. It’s a sadness at the fact that I’ll never get to experience that kind of love for the simple fact that I don’t feel sexual or romantic attraction. It’s something that you see in movies, tv shows, on social media, and with the people around you in your everyday life. I’ll always hear about it and see it, but I can only wonder what it’s like and be happy for those that get to experience it. It’s almost like it’s a food that everybody raves about but you can’t taste it. It’s not something you can’t live without tasting, but that doesn’t mean you don’t wonder about it and feel and little left out because you don’t understand the hype.
Basically I’m a hopeless romantic who doesn’t feel romantic attraction if that’s even a thing. I have accepted the fact that I am ace. Now all I have to do is work on being content with it. I just thought I’d share this here because it’s apart of my ace journey. Just in case there’s an ace out there that might be feeling the same just know you’re not alone!
https://redd.it/sg8dt2
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I guess I’ll just start this by saying a few months ago I was questioning my sexuality. I found out I really identify with asexuality by learning more about it and going through this thread. It just made so much sense except for the fact that I do think about sex and relationships pretty often. I don’t feel romantic or sexual attraction to anyone and never have so it confused me a little. I was a little confused thinking I was actually a fraud and not apart of the ace community because I think about sex but I don’t actually want it. Then I found out about aegosexuality and realized I identify with that.
That’s just a little bit of context and back story to help you better understand. But what this post is about is the fact that even though I have come to terms with being ace, i can’t seem to shake the FOMO on never being able to experience what I can’t seem to stop thinking about. I’ve realized I’ve gone my whole life admiring and being jealous of allos because I can’t feel what they feel. I can only dream about what they get to experience and it makes me feel empty.
It almost feels forbidden to say. Please don’t get me wrong, I love the ace community and being apart of it makes me feel less alone because I now can finally put a name to the feelings I feel (or in this case the feelings I don’t feel). But here’s how I can best describe what I do feel. When I see a couple i feel happy for them, but I also feel sad. The sadness that I feel isn’t because I want what they have or that I’m sad that I don’t have an SO. It’s a sadness at the fact that I’ll never get to experience that kind of love for the simple fact that I don’t feel sexual or romantic attraction. It’s something that you see in movies, tv shows, on social media, and with the people around you in your everyday life. I’ll always hear about it and see it, but I can only wonder what it’s like and be happy for those that get to experience it. It’s almost like it’s a food that everybody raves about but you can’t taste it. It’s not something you can’t live without tasting, but that doesn’t mean you don’t wonder about it and feel and little left out because you don’t understand the hype.
Basically I’m a hopeless romantic who doesn’t feel romantic attraction if that’s even a thing. I have accepted the fact that I am ace. Now all I have to do is work on being content with it. I just thought I’d share this here because it’s apart of my ace journey. Just in case there’s an ace out there that might be feeling the same just know you’re not alone!
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Asexual but I can’t stop thinking about sex and romance
I guess I’ll just start this by saying a few months ago I was questioning my sexuality. I found out I really identify with asexuality by learning...
I never understood why people in the LGBTQA community wanted random characters in media to be queer...
... until I understood my own sexuality. Now all my favorite characters in tv-shows and movies are ace in my headcannon. I keep finding proof as to why they might be asexual and it makes me so happy!
Even if the writers of the show don't intend to give a character a certain sexuality, I still find "proof" that they're ace. Even the slightest possibility that someone is asexual in a tv show gives me butterflies.
I'm happy that I now know why people do this and insists that some characters have this and that sexuality. It gives us the feeling of being included (even if it's not intended but whatever) and it's such a great feeling!
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... until I understood my own sexuality. Now all my favorite characters in tv-shows and movies are ace in my headcannon. I keep finding proof as to why they might be asexual and it makes me so happy!
Even if the writers of the show don't intend to give a character a certain sexuality, I still find "proof" that they're ace. Even the slightest possibility that someone is asexual in a tv show gives me butterflies.
I'm happy that I now know why people do this and insists that some characters have this and that sexuality. It gives us the feeling of being included (even if it's not intended but whatever) and it's such a great feeling!
https://redd.it/sg8zbg
@asexualityonreddit
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I never understood why people in the LGBTQA community wanted...
... until I understood my own sexuality. Now all my favorite characters in tv-shows and movies are ace in my headcannon. I keep finding proof as...
Is it unethical to “compromise” with an ace girlfriend?
My girlfriend of 7 years and I have recently come to the realization that she may likely be some degree of asexual. She says she has had sex with me because she knows I enjoy it…she says she sort of enjoys it “sometimes” but the majority is duty sex, I guess. She never initiates and just isn’t independently interested. I would get more descriptive of the situation here but I am extremely sleep deprived due to depression related to this. WOULD continuing to “compromise” in this way even be ethical? From the point of view of someone who ace…..is such an arrangement hell?
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My girlfriend of 7 years and I have recently come to the realization that she may likely be some degree of asexual. She says she has had sex with me because she knows I enjoy it…she says she sort of enjoys it “sometimes” but the majority is duty sex, I guess. She never initiates and just isn’t independently interested. I would get more descriptive of the situation here but I am extremely sleep deprived due to depression related to this. WOULD continuing to “compromise” in this way even be ethical? From the point of view of someone who ace…..is such an arrangement hell?
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Is it unethical to “compromise” with an ace girlfriend?
My girlfriend of 7 years and I have recently come to the realization that she may likely be some degree of asexual. She says she has had sex with...