How you Identify is Valid
I hope this post reaches you if you need it.
If you are struggling with your identify, as ace or aro or anything else, I just want to let you know that however you decide to identify (or not, you don't even have to label yourself) is valid.
As long as YOU are comfortable identifying as X, then YOU ARE X. You are the only one who knows how you feel. You are the only one who has lived in your body and lived your life. You don't need to prove to us, anyone else, or even yourself, that you are X. If X feels right to you, even just in this moment, you can take the identity of X. Tomorrow, or in an hour, if X doesn't feel right anymore, then maybe you aren't X and that is okay. Discovering yourself will never be a linear journey and I don't believe it'll ever end. It's just a matter of getting to a place where you feel the most comfortable with yourself.
You are ace. / You are aro. / You are X
DM me if you need someone to tell you that.
P.S. X is not an actual sexual identity, it's a sexual identity place-holder :P
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I hope this post reaches you if you need it.
If you are struggling with your identify, as ace or aro or anything else, I just want to let you know that however you decide to identify (or not, you don't even have to label yourself) is valid.
As long as YOU are comfortable identifying as X, then YOU ARE X. You are the only one who knows how you feel. You are the only one who has lived in your body and lived your life. You don't need to prove to us, anyone else, or even yourself, that you are X. If X feels right to you, even just in this moment, you can take the identity of X. Tomorrow, or in an hour, if X doesn't feel right anymore, then maybe you aren't X and that is okay. Discovering yourself will never be a linear journey and I don't believe it'll ever end. It's just a matter of getting to a place where you feel the most comfortable with yourself.
You are ace. / You are aro. / You are X
DM me if you need someone to tell you that.
P.S. X is not an actual sexual identity, it's a sexual identity place-holder :P
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How you Identify is Valid
I hope this post reaches you if you need it. If you are struggling with your identify, as ace or aro or anything else, I just want to let you...
Media is too big
VIEW IN TELEGRAM
God this guy is a mood! Lets make him our unofficial mascot! All I felt watching this was asexual vibes!
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Where do you actually live?
Curious to see if there are any other martian asexuals currently dealing with both the dust storms and a lack of sexual attraction.
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Curious to see if there are any other martian asexuals currently dealing with both the dust storms and a lack of sexual attraction.
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really bad imposter syndrome
Idk if anyone else experiences this but i've been getting a really bad imposter syndrome since i realized i was ace a few months ago. Like I constantly find myself thinking "You're ace because you've never felt any kind of sexual attraction" often for no apparent reason or when I see someone aesthetically attractive/my crush. Like it feels like I'm repressing some sort of hidden allosexuality even though I really have never before felt any sort of sexual attraction. It really sucks and takes up a lot of my brain power, wish it would go away :/
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Idk if anyone else experiences this but i've been getting a really bad imposter syndrome since i realized i was ace a few months ago. Like I constantly find myself thinking "You're ace because you've never felt any kind of sexual attraction" often for no apparent reason or when I see someone aesthetically attractive/my crush. Like it feels like I'm repressing some sort of hidden allosexuality even though I really have never before felt any sort of sexual attraction. It really sucks and takes up a lot of my brain power, wish it would go away :/
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really bad imposter syndrome
Idk if anyone else experiences this but i've been getting a really bad imposter syndrome since i realized i was ace a few months ago. Like I...
I am Asexual
After years of thinking something was wrong with me, I finally understand that I am Asexual and I accept it. I am glad to have found this community.
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After years of thinking something was wrong with me, I finally understand that I am Asexual and I accept it. I am glad to have found this community.
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I am Asexual
After years of thinking something was wrong with me, I finally understand that I am Asexual and I accept it. I am glad to have found this community.
Can aces experience physical attraction without it being sexual attraction
So I am still trying to figure this thing out. Van I find someone physically attractive but not be sexually attracted to them? I.e. I feel like I need to find someome attractive (nice to look at) to be in a relationship with them (among a lot of other attributes obviously), but that doesn't mean I want to have sex?
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So I am still trying to figure this thing out. Van I find someone physically attractive but not be sexually attracted to them? I.e. I feel like I need to find someome attractive (nice to look at) to be in a relationship with them (among a lot of other attributes obviously), but that doesn't mean I want to have sex?
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Can aces experience physical attraction without it being sexual...
So I am still trying to figure this thing out. Van I find someone physically attractive but not be sexually attracted to them? I.e. I feel like I...
Friend got me an ace flag! Just need to get some hooks to hang it up!
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I get treated as a straight man and I'm sick of it.
Hi I'm 23 male and Asexual I don't know what type of Asexual I am but I do know that a light peck on the cheek is a little too much for me but on the other hand I'd love to have a partner as long as there's no sexual intimacy. I've been called a lot over the years for the way I feel, Incel and liar are probably the most hurtful but I take it on the chin because even if it hurts I know it's not true but every now and then people push a little too much and I just break. I'm a pretty plain looking guy I wear shirts and jeans and have a beard, I watch sports, play video games and I make sex jokes even though I barely know what I'm joking about half the time but I know my friends find it funny and it's a nice feeling to make them laugh.
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Last I night I went too far apparently because I made a drunken reference to the Simpsons movie. Here's the scene, it's my flatmates birthday party and it's coming to a close most guests have gone home or passed out but I'm awake with my flatmates and 3 guests 2 of which are in a relationship and the 3rd guest is currently vomiting his guts out. The boyfriend who we shall call Steve says we are crowding vomit boy we agree and head back to the living room. Steve's girlfriend who we'll call Jess starts talking to me we chat about all sorts and inevitably I am asked "Are you seeing anyone?" I explain my sexuality probably not in the best way as I am drunk "So like think of it this way, mountains are beautiful but you don't wanna fuck em" she then asks "Do you think I'm beautiful?" I say "Yeah of course you are!" at this moment vomit boy vomits very loudly and it lasts a good wee while it's followed by dead silence. Me being drunk and an idiot say "maybe we should kiss to relieve the tension" quoting Homer from the movie I think it goes well she laughs and says "Steve would batter you" I say still not understanding she obviously didn't get the reference "Oh definitely to be honest you could also probably batter me" after that we talk some more vomit boy is finally asleep and Steve and Jess leave. About 20 minutes later I'm still up and get a text from my flatmate "dude what the Hell did you say to Jess, Steve says he's gonna kill you" I'm sobering up at this point so I explain my situation and my sexuality again this time to Steve over the phone he says "Aye well it's not funny don't talk to my girlfriend like that" I say "Okay man but you realise I would never do that even if I wasn't Asexual because it's wrong" he says "Aye, sure" and hangs up.
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I get a talking to from my "Supportive" flatmates and Steve texts one of them saying "Look it's fine all is forgiven lets just move on" but I can't because not only was my sexuality completely ignored even by my friends but my morals were also questioned. I don't know what this feeling is but it's horrible I feel invisible. Any way that's my vent had to get it out somewhere.
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Hi I'm 23 male and Asexual I don't know what type of Asexual I am but I do know that a light peck on the cheek is a little too much for me but on the other hand I'd love to have a partner as long as there's no sexual intimacy. I've been called a lot over the years for the way I feel, Incel and liar are probably the most hurtful but I take it on the chin because even if it hurts I know it's not true but every now and then people push a little too much and I just break. I'm a pretty plain looking guy I wear shirts and jeans and have a beard, I watch sports, play video games and I make sex jokes even though I barely know what I'm joking about half the time but I know my friends find it funny and it's a nice feeling to make them laugh.
​
Last I night I went too far apparently because I made a drunken reference to the Simpsons movie. Here's the scene, it's my flatmates birthday party and it's coming to a close most guests have gone home or passed out but I'm awake with my flatmates and 3 guests 2 of which are in a relationship and the 3rd guest is currently vomiting his guts out. The boyfriend who we shall call Steve says we are crowding vomit boy we agree and head back to the living room. Steve's girlfriend who we'll call Jess starts talking to me we chat about all sorts and inevitably I am asked "Are you seeing anyone?" I explain my sexuality probably not in the best way as I am drunk "So like think of it this way, mountains are beautiful but you don't wanna fuck em" she then asks "Do you think I'm beautiful?" I say "Yeah of course you are!" at this moment vomit boy vomits very loudly and it lasts a good wee while it's followed by dead silence. Me being drunk and an idiot say "maybe we should kiss to relieve the tension" quoting Homer from the movie I think it goes well she laughs and says "Steve would batter you" I say still not understanding she obviously didn't get the reference "Oh definitely to be honest you could also probably batter me" after that we talk some more vomit boy is finally asleep and Steve and Jess leave. About 20 minutes later I'm still up and get a text from my flatmate "dude what the Hell did you say to Jess, Steve says he's gonna kill you" I'm sobering up at this point so I explain my situation and my sexuality again this time to Steve over the phone he says "Aye well it's not funny don't talk to my girlfriend like that" I say "Okay man but you realise I would never do that even if I wasn't Asexual because it's wrong" he says "Aye, sure" and hangs up.
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I get a talking to from my "Supportive" flatmates and Steve texts one of them saying "Look it's fine all is forgiven lets just move on" but I can't because not only was my sexuality completely ignored even by my friends but my morals were also questioned. I don't know what this feeling is but it's horrible I feel invisible. Any way that's my vent had to get it out somewhere.
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I get treated as a straight man and I'm sick of it.
Hi I'm 23 male and Asexual I don't know what type of Asexual I am but I do know that a light peck on the cheek is a little too much for me but on...
Having Children
Alright, so before I start I want to clear this message up. This is my personal experience, and asexuality is a spectrum. Asexual people can still want to have biological kids, but this is my experience. Alright, so with that out of the way.
Basically I’m genderfluid and an asexual. Afab, to be clear. I have a uterus, however, I don’t have much use for it, given that it causes me immense pains on a monthly basis, I don’t want to partake in sex to have kids, and it just makes me dysphoric in general. I’ve come to the conclusion that I will donate my uterus when I’m old enough that it won’t be a problem. What annoys me, is that people, including close friends the people who are supposed to support me the most, are saying bs like “what if you change your mind?” In general I’m annoyed with this because it gives off the vibes of “oh you’re too young to know.” It’s frustrating. I’m sorry, but I know for a fact I won’t be wanting to have sex in any future of mine. Especially not to have children. And if I change my mind about the kids part, people don’t realize that adoption is an option (haha that rhymed). Like, I would gladly take a kid out of the foster system, or adopt someone. I couldn’t care less if they’re biological or not, because they would still be mine. Anyway, it just annoys me that some people think they know me better than I do.
(Edit: I have read lots of your lovely comments and would like to say I appreciate them all greatly! I probably won’t respond to them, but I will read as many as possible. I am open to all sorts of viewpoints. I did post this for a reason, after all. :))
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Alright, so before I start I want to clear this message up. This is my personal experience, and asexuality is a spectrum. Asexual people can still want to have biological kids, but this is my experience. Alright, so with that out of the way.
Basically I’m genderfluid and an asexual. Afab, to be clear. I have a uterus, however, I don’t have much use for it, given that it causes me immense pains on a monthly basis, I don’t want to partake in sex to have kids, and it just makes me dysphoric in general. I’ve come to the conclusion that I will donate my uterus when I’m old enough that it won’t be a problem. What annoys me, is that people, including close friends the people who are supposed to support me the most, are saying bs like “what if you change your mind?” In general I’m annoyed with this because it gives off the vibes of “oh you’re too young to know.” It’s frustrating. I’m sorry, but I know for a fact I won’t be wanting to have sex in any future of mine. Especially not to have children. And if I change my mind about the kids part, people don’t realize that adoption is an option (haha that rhymed). Like, I would gladly take a kid out of the foster system, or adopt someone. I couldn’t care less if they’re biological or not, because they would still be mine. Anyway, it just annoys me that some people think they know me better than I do.
(Edit: I have read lots of your lovely comments and would like to say I appreciate them all greatly! I probably won’t respond to them, but I will read as many as possible. I am open to all sorts of viewpoints. I did post this for a reason, after all. :))
https://redd.it/saw63h
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Having Children
Alright, so before I start I want to clear this message up. This is *my* personal experience, and asexuality is a spectrum. Asexual people can...
My dad gave me this and was like “I know you don’t want a boyfriend right now cause all the ones your age are nasty, but I got you one I think you’ll like” (he doesn’t even know I’m asexual I just complain a lot lol)
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we had sex ed at school and they told us about asexuals and trans people even if it was just a brief description. that was cool
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we had sex ed at school and they told us about asexuals and trans...
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