Finding a cuddle buddy without pressure to have sex

I want to find a platonic cuddle buddy but don't know how. I thought of downloading a dating app but I have two problems: 1. finding someone who is okay with only cuddling (and maybe hanging out and eating pizza or something like that) and 2. being clear about my boundaries which means no sex and no romance. Apparently the majority of people on Tinder think that looking for someone to nap with means that you are also looking for sex... It is probably a good idea to have a Serious Conversation about what we want to do if I find someone nice but I want people to understand my intentions as early as possible. 😩 Theoretically I could try to look for asexuals but the town I live in isn't that big so I might not have many (or any) options.

I have done some sexual things before because the other person wanted to and I was like "well why not, I'm not sex repulsed, maybe it will be fun". Turns out it was more boring and weird than fun. I'm afraid I will end up in a similar situation and feel like I need to "buy" physical affection with sex. Or that the other person will become super horny and they'll have a hard time keeping their pants on. I just want cuddles without feeling like I have to have sex.

I am mostly venting but if you have any advice I would be happy to hear it! (Also English isn't my first language so I hope you understand what I am trying to say lol)

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That's not bi
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me, an asexual!
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Made an Ace ring out of paracord with purple accent
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Look at my Ace and Aro rings!
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Made a series of pride themed bouquets for a store I sell hoops at. Here's my ace one!
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Can I truly be ace if I don’t like garlic bread OR cake?



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Those frikin liars…
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What do you identify as?

Saw a post of someone who said they noticed more aroaces than here than alloaces, so I was curious as to what the numbers are. Someone suggested creating smaller subs for alloaces, one for demiaces, one for aroaces, and then keeping this collective umbrella ace sub.

Comment what you think of this if you have any opinions. Also floating the idea of separate subs for sex-repulsed, indifferent and favourable.

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We’re the 1% now where’s my money? (OC)
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I mean, who doesn't live garlic bread??
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This new shiny Zoroark form is the perfect ace icon
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Got mine a couple months ago but never shared so here you go.
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Ace Tent 💜♠️ + many more
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I think this should be here, works for aros too
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I had a fun conversation with my friend, we’re both ace and sex-repulsed lol
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Young aces doubting ourselves and pressuring ourselves into s*x be like

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My psych teacher also brought up aces in class :)
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Yes, I know, cake and garlic bread are amazing, but can we talk about pizza?



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Where does everyone live? (obviasly mandatory)



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