What are some things that annoy you as an ace person?
I'll go first.
1. Being infantilized. "Don't talk about the s e x word around him... You know he doesn't like it." "Wow, you're so innocent and wholesome!" "Sorry, I forgot you're a baby." I'm so sick of comments like that, just because I'm ace. I'm not dirty minded, no, but that say a lot more about you as a person than it does me.
2. Erasure. "Isn't ace just being gay/straight/bi but without the best part?" "Why do you make everything about you? You're not even that oppressed." "Asexual people don't exist. It's a medical condition." "If asexuality is the opposite of allosexuality, technically it's not a sexuality." Do I need say more?
3. The 'it's just a phase' mentality. I don't really need to go in depth, do I? Especially for teenagers or young adults I feel like this is more prevalent, but I only speak from experience.
4. All aces are virgins.
5. All aces have experienced some kind of S/A which made them ace.
6. All aces are sex repulsed.
7. All aces are aromantic. (I am but I remind people as often as I can that aro and ace are not the same.)
8. All aces are sexually frustrated/weren't loved as children/traumatized/etc. I don't know where this one stemmed from.
9. "Why do you make being ace your whole personality?"
10. Aces aren't part of the LGBTQ+ community unless they're gay/bi/lesbian/pan/aro/etc romantic. If they're heteroromantic and asexual they're not welcome anywhere 🗿 (as a used to be identified as heteroromantic asexual, I got this one a lot.)
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I'll go first.
1. Being infantilized. "Don't talk about the s e x word around him... You know he doesn't like it." "Wow, you're so innocent and wholesome!" "Sorry, I forgot you're a baby." I'm so sick of comments like that, just because I'm ace. I'm not dirty minded, no, but that say a lot more about you as a person than it does me.
2. Erasure. "Isn't ace just being gay/straight/bi but without the best part?" "Why do you make everything about you? You're not even that oppressed." "Asexual people don't exist. It's a medical condition." "If asexuality is the opposite of allosexuality, technically it's not a sexuality." Do I need say more?
3. The 'it's just a phase' mentality. I don't really need to go in depth, do I? Especially for teenagers or young adults I feel like this is more prevalent, but I only speak from experience.
4. All aces are virgins.
5. All aces have experienced some kind of S/A which made them ace.
6. All aces are sex repulsed.
7. All aces are aromantic. (I am but I remind people as often as I can that aro and ace are not the same.)
8. All aces are sexually frustrated/weren't loved as children/traumatized/etc. I don't know where this one stemmed from.
9. "Why do you make being ace your whole personality?"
10. Aces aren't part of the LGBTQ+ community unless they're gay/bi/lesbian/pan/aro/etc romantic. If they're heteroromantic and asexual they're not welcome anywhere 🗿 (as a used to be identified as heteroromantic asexual, I got this one a lot.)
Feel free to leave yours below!
https://redd.it/rvszrg
@asexualityonreddit
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What are some things that annoy you as an ace person?
I'll go first. 1. Being infantilized. "Don't talk about the s e x word around him... You know he doesn't like it." "Wow, you're so innocent and...
"But needs"
I would like to start this off by saying I am in no way like the best Human being so if you've seen me in other places separate me from that.
Every time I talk about wanting to have a romantic sexless relationship I get hit with "but men have needs" Then several different versions of how I'm gonna have to be OK with an open relationship because no man would accept me wanting to not have sex. But like have we not as a society come to the conclusion that if a man feels hunger and expects a woman to make him food instead of him making it himself, that hes an asshole? Like we have got to the point that if a man were to treat a woman that woman that way he would be seen as a red flag And toxic. And hunger is an actual life-or-death need, while sex is purely a want.
Why are we still stuck on normalizing men having women satisfied their wants. Like you can satisfy your own need for pleasure by yourself, you don't need me to do it. And it's not like I'm saying that they have to become priest level pure and restraint. I just don't want to have sex with them. Masturbate all you want my guy, but don't expect me to satisfy your want for pleasure.
Needless to say I am single and will be single for the foreseeable future because I don't think that I have to go against my sexuality just to please somebody else and hope that they stay with me.
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I would like to start this off by saying I am in no way like the best Human being so if you've seen me in other places separate me from that.
Every time I talk about wanting to have a romantic sexless relationship I get hit with "but men have needs" Then several different versions of how I'm gonna have to be OK with an open relationship because no man would accept me wanting to not have sex. But like have we not as a society come to the conclusion that if a man feels hunger and expects a woman to make him food instead of him making it himself, that hes an asshole? Like we have got to the point that if a man were to treat a woman that woman that way he would be seen as a red flag And toxic. And hunger is an actual life-or-death need, while sex is purely a want.
Why are we still stuck on normalizing men having women satisfied their wants. Like you can satisfy your own need for pleasure by yourself, you don't need me to do it. And it's not like I'm saying that they have to become priest level pure and restraint. I just don't want to have sex with them. Masturbate all you want my guy, but don't expect me to satisfy your want for pleasure.
Needless to say I am single and will be single for the foreseeable future because I don't think that I have to go against my sexuality just to please somebody else and hope that they stay with me.
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"But needs"
I would like to start this off by saying I am in no way like the best Human being so if you've seen me in other places separate me from that....
True Ace fantasy. When I saw this I laughed so hard at this 🤣.
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My next door neighbour likes to finish the day off with a long p*rn session. He is also hearing impaired, so I can hear everything.
And I mean **EVERYTHING**
*send help*
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And I mean **EVERYTHING**
*send help*
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My next door neighbour likes to finish the day off with a long...
And I mean **EVERYTHING** *send help*
Let’s go guyzz, we can conquer World with this post! Or Denmark at least…
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I'm asexual. Thanks for helping me figure that out, Todd Chavez from BJH.
Some shit happened in 2020 that made me question a lot of things about my sexuality. (TMI for the next few sentences) I slept with a guy, it was terrible, I wasn't sure if I was supposed to enjoy it at all and I was very, very dry throughout the whole thing- I just wanted it to be over. Then I thought MAYBE it was only terrible bc it was the first and it was forced. Then it happened again and same output. I was bored as shit and the guy looked at me like I was supposed to be enjoying so I pretended to be enjoying and thought, maybe he's just bad at this. Maybe I'm just not used to it. Pandemic started, I had a reason to never see him again (I hope he's dead!) and started watching Bojack Horseman because my life was depressing at that time and I wanted to watch someone with a more depressing life. Enjoyed the small arc of Todd figuring out he's asexual and finding sexless love and realized I really wanted that for myself. Do I want to have kids? Hell no. Am I ever turned on? I don't think so tbh. I'm open to my uh sexually active friends discussing sex but I don't know how to react most of the time. Many ppl have admitted that sex IS gross but they can't help it so
I'm getting off topic sorry. Todd is the best asexual representation I know of. He helped me understand small things about myself. Like how sex, for me, will ruin an evening. How watching movies with a significant other sounds more romantic than riding him. How talking to people and finding a connection is better than making out. The show taught me that it's going to be hard finding a sexless relationship with an emotional connection but it's not impossible. While Todd’s asexuality doesn’t define his character, he has to learn that in a world that likes to pretend that people like him don’t exist, finding love isn’t as simple as finding someone who shares your identity. When Todd assures Yolanda after breaking up with her that there is someone out there who is perfect for her who also doesn’t want to have sex, she asks “But what if there isn’t?” and it’s an inescapable fact. Definitely check out Bojack Horseman!
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Some shit happened in 2020 that made me question a lot of things about my sexuality. (TMI for the next few sentences) I slept with a guy, it was terrible, I wasn't sure if I was supposed to enjoy it at all and I was very, very dry throughout the whole thing- I just wanted it to be over. Then I thought MAYBE it was only terrible bc it was the first and it was forced. Then it happened again and same output. I was bored as shit and the guy looked at me like I was supposed to be enjoying so I pretended to be enjoying and thought, maybe he's just bad at this. Maybe I'm just not used to it. Pandemic started, I had a reason to never see him again (I hope he's dead!) and started watching Bojack Horseman because my life was depressing at that time and I wanted to watch someone with a more depressing life. Enjoyed the small arc of Todd figuring out he's asexual and finding sexless love and realized I really wanted that for myself. Do I want to have kids? Hell no. Am I ever turned on? I don't think so tbh. I'm open to my uh sexually active friends discussing sex but I don't know how to react most of the time. Many ppl have admitted that sex IS gross but they can't help it so
I'm getting off topic sorry. Todd is the best asexual representation I know of. He helped me understand small things about myself. Like how sex, for me, will ruin an evening. How watching movies with a significant other sounds more romantic than riding him. How talking to people and finding a connection is better than making out. The show taught me that it's going to be hard finding a sexless relationship with an emotional connection but it's not impossible. While Todd’s asexuality doesn’t define his character, he has to learn that in a world that likes to pretend that people like him don’t exist, finding love isn’t as simple as finding someone who shares your identity. When Todd assures Yolanda after breaking up with her that there is someone out there who is perfect for her who also doesn’t want to have sex, she asks “But what if there isn’t?” and it’s an inescapable fact. Definitely check out Bojack Horseman!
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I'm asexual. Thanks for helping me figure that out, Todd Chavez...
Some shit happened in 2020 that made me question a lot of things about my sexuality. (TMI for the next few sentences) I slept with a guy, it was...