Ah yes. That’s how this works. I needed that explanation. So so much. 🤦🏻♀️
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I just finally got these pride rings in the mail today. They hopped across the Atlantic a few times for some reason. I'm stoked to be wearing these now.
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We finally broke up!
I'll never be groped or touched without my permission again, never have to awkwardly laugh at sexual jokes again, never have to feel bad for not wanting sex again! We tried to communicate so many times, but it just never really worked. Finally she can have someone who can fulfill her needs, and I can have some space to explore what my orientation means to me. It feels like a whole partition of my brain has been unallocated and I can think and breathe for the first time in years. I just needed to happy-vent somewhere, this is one of the many reasons why we broke up and I don't know if I'll be able to share this particular one with people irl. And thank you all for helping me realize my true feelings by sharing yours, subs like these have been incredibly helpful in letting me explore and express myself.
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I'll never be groped or touched without my permission again, never have to awkwardly laugh at sexual jokes again, never have to feel bad for not wanting sex again! We tried to communicate so many times, but it just never really worked. Finally she can have someone who can fulfill her needs, and I can have some space to explore what my orientation means to me. It feels like a whole partition of my brain has been unallocated and I can think and breathe for the first time in years. I just needed to happy-vent somewhere, this is one of the many reasons why we broke up and I don't know if I'll be able to share this particular one with people irl. And thank you all for helping me realize my true feelings by sharing yours, subs like these have been incredibly helpful in letting me explore and express myself.
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We finally broke up!
I'll never be groped or touched without my permission again, never have to awkwardly laugh at sexual jokes again, never have to feel bad for not...
Does the invasion need a mascot? Because I would like to put forth a contender
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Posted in r/aaaaaaacccccccce by u/sitdown__behumble • 168 points and 8 comments
What are some things that annoy you as an ace person?
I'll go first.
1. Being infantilized. "Don't talk about the s e x word around him... You know he doesn't like it." "Wow, you're so innocent and wholesome!" "Sorry, I forgot you're a baby." I'm so sick of comments like that, just because I'm ace. I'm not dirty minded, no, but that say a lot more about you as a person than it does me.
2. Erasure. "Isn't ace just being gay/straight/bi but without the best part?" "Why do you make everything about you? You're not even that oppressed." "Asexual people don't exist. It's a medical condition." "If asexuality is the opposite of allosexuality, technically it's not a sexuality." Do I need say more?
3. The 'it's just a phase' mentality. I don't really need to go in depth, do I? Especially for teenagers or young adults I feel like this is more prevalent, but I only speak from experience.
4. All aces are virgins.
5. All aces have experienced some kind of S/A which made them ace.
6. All aces are sex repulsed.
7. All aces are aromantic. (I am but I remind people as often as I can that aro and ace are not the same.)
8. All aces are sexually frustrated/weren't loved as children/traumatized/etc. I don't know where this one stemmed from.
9. "Why do you make being ace your whole personality?"
10. Aces aren't part of the LGBTQ+ community unless they're gay/bi/lesbian/pan/aro/etc romantic. If they're heteroromantic and asexual they're not welcome anywhere 🗿 (as a used to be identified as heteroromantic asexual, I got this one a lot.)
Feel free to leave yours below!
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I'll go first.
1. Being infantilized. "Don't talk about the s e x word around him... You know he doesn't like it." "Wow, you're so innocent and wholesome!" "Sorry, I forgot you're a baby." I'm so sick of comments like that, just because I'm ace. I'm not dirty minded, no, but that say a lot more about you as a person than it does me.
2. Erasure. "Isn't ace just being gay/straight/bi but without the best part?" "Why do you make everything about you? You're not even that oppressed." "Asexual people don't exist. It's a medical condition." "If asexuality is the opposite of allosexuality, technically it's not a sexuality." Do I need say more?
3. The 'it's just a phase' mentality. I don't really need to go in depth, do I? Especially for teenagers or young adults I feel like this is more prevalent, but I only speak from experience.
4. All aces are virgins.
5. All aces have experienced some kind of S/A which made them ace.
6. All aces are sex repulsed.
7. All aces are aromantic. (I am but I remind people as often as I can that aro and ace are not the same.)
8. All aces are sexually frustrated/weren't loved as children/traumatized/etc. I don't know where this one stemmed from.
9. "Why do you make being ace your whole personality?"
10. Aces aren't part of the LGBTQ+ community unless they're gay/bi/lesbian/pan/aro/etc romantic. If they're heteroromantic and asexual they're not welcome anywhere 🗿 (as a used to be identified as heteroromantic asexual, I got this one a lot.)
Feel free to leave yours below!
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What are some things that annoy you as an ace person?
I'll go first. 1. Being infantilized. "Don't talk about the s e x word around him... You know he doesn't like it." "Wow, you're so innocent and...
"But needs"
I would like to start this off by saying I am in no way like the best Human being so if you've seen me in other places separate me from that.
Every time I talk about wanting to have a romantic sexless relationship I get hit with "but men have needs" Then several different versions of how I'm gonna have to be OK with an open relationship because no man would accept me wanting to not have sex. But like have we not as a society come to the conclusion that if a man feels hunger and expects a woman to make him food instead of him making it himself, that hes an asshole? Like we have got to the point that if a man were to treat a woman that woman that way he would be seen as a red flag And toxic. And hunger is an actual life-or-death need, while sex is purely a want.
Why are we still stuck on normalizing men having women satisfied their wants. Like you can satisfy your own need for pleasure by yourself, you don't need me to do it. And it's not like I'm saying that they have to become priest level pure and restraint. I just don't want to have sex with them. Masturbate all you want my guy, but don't expect me to satisfy your want for pleasure.
Needless to say I am single and will be single for the foreseeable future because I don't think that I have to go against my sexuality just to please somebody else and hope that they stay with me.
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I would like to start this off by saying I am in no way like the best Human being so if you've seen me in other places separate me from that.
Every time I talk about wanting to have a romantic sexless relationship I get hit with "but men have needs" Then several different versions of how I'm gonna have to be OK with an open relationship because no man would accept me wanting to not have sex. But like have we not as a society come to the conclusion that if a man feels hunger and expects a woman to make him food instead of him making it himself, that hes an asshole? Like we have got to the point that if a man were to treat a woman that woman that way he would be seen as a red flag And toxic. And hunger is an actual life-or-death need, while sex is purely a want.
Why are we still stuck on normalizing men having women satisfied their wants. Like you can satisfy your own need for pleasure by yourself, you don't need me to do it. And it's not like I'm saying that they have to become priest level pure and restraint. I just don't want to have sex with them. Masturbate all you want my guy, but don't expect me to satisfy your want for pleasure.
Needless to say I am single and will be single for the foreseeable future because I don't think that I have to go against my sexuality just to please somebody else and hope that they stay with me.
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"But needs"
I would like to start this off by saying I am in no way like the best Human being so if you've seen me in other places separate me from that....