Got myself some rings :)

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They Don't Think We Exist?
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Fellow asexual men, time for a headcount

Gentlemen,

I believe there are quite many of us here in this subreddit, but, for whatever reasons, we mostly lurk. We're hardly visible - so much so that other asexual men are almost convinced we might not even exist. Which is not optimal. As it stands, I'm of the impression that the pool of redditors posting in this subreddit is heavily female-dominated. I'd like to engage more in this subreddit, but it's abit difficult when most of the posts are about ace women's hassles and joys. Don't get me wrong, it's only a good thing that these problems are brought up and not suffered in silence, and I'm glad that there are that many here, women or otherwise. I just imagine that it might not always be relatable for us ace men, which might not rouse the sense of community as strongly in us as it would in other ace women. I imagine the common issues we, ace men, face are slightly, yet enough to be significant, different from the issues women face.

But it's hard to tell whether this is the case or not. What thoughts do you fellas have on this subject? Are we more rare than ace women or enbies? Am I wrong in my assumption that most posters here are women? Let me know what you think. If there's other things you have on your chest, you just dump them here, too. Why not.

EDIT: Now that we're here and established that we do, in fact, exist, let's talk about ways of driving up aceman™ community engagement. I suggest we, quite simply, make more posts. It's a bit scary at first, but if we all help a brother out, I think it'll be less scary.

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rant rant rant about how weirdly sexualising some allos are capable of being without noticing

This is all very straight, bear with me on this one. I was talking to a guy friend (we’re all under the age of 16 so pretty young) and he mentioned how of his friends did a survey of what out of tits, ass and thighs, guys in their class preferred. Call me soft but that made me extremely uncomfortable. I brought up how weird it would be if girls did that but I struggled to pick out prominent features women go crazy over. Jaw line? Abs? I mean women have abs and sharp jawlines too. I’ve never seen a girl go awooga over dick either (seriously at least). When we talk about fictional characters, especially anime ones they always bring up their tits or their ass like that’s all that’s interesting about them. Like that can’t be the first impression of every female character you see right? Not even just allo men, all allosexuals, why?1?1 I don’t mean in in a ‘but personality 😩 way’ I just think there’s more to ‘thirst’ over a girl for than tits. It’s getting old.

Personally, I’m omni and what I categorise as pretty in a guy would be like: pretty eyes, fluffy hair, the techwear aesthetic, confident aura; and even my allo cishet female friends would agree dick would be a weird thing to sum up someone’s sexual appeal (?) by.

TLDR: girls have a lot more than just ass and tits, can allos stop acting like it is?

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A Bingo. Not enough room for all the classics, alas
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How did you know?

I think I might be somewhere on the ace spectrum, but I’m not sure. How did you guys know you were ace?

EDIT: All these replies are supper helpful! I’m definitely on the ace spectrum somewhere. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!

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Me in puberty
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Question for my fellow aces who have sex

Hi all! I’m an ace in a relationship with an allo, and we have sex a few times a month. My pleasure from sex comes exclusively from the emotional intimacy and making my partner feel good.

That being said, the physical pleasure is simply not there for me. (I’m AFAB, for additional context.) I feel next to nothing when I’m touched down there, and I don’t orgasm. This is not the fault of my (male) partner, as many would suggest, and I know this because I slept with a lot of different people when I was in college, many of them very experienced, and still, nothing.

I was just wondering if this is a common experience for aces. Sex is perfectly fulfilling and pleasurable for me for the reasons listed above, so I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything, but I feel extremely ostracized when people talk about the female orgasm. Talking about how if you’re not orgasming your partner is bad at sex, how you can never have fulfilling sex if you’re not orgasming, how suuuper sad it is if you’ve never had an orgasm, etc. etc.

It just kind of makes me feel like shit and like my experience as an ace isn’t being taken into consideration, but is this even because I’m ace? Or is it more likely that there is something physiologically wrong with my body causing me not to orgasm?

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I getting tired of people some times

I was browsing Imgur the other day and one on the pics is a regular on our Ace meme pages and the OP was joking about it because they're Ace and it was relatable.

Someone in the comments asked a genuine question on how a person realizes that they are Ace. One of the other commentors made it a point to tell the person who asked the question that Ace people are not real and 90% of all ace people are "90 pecent of the time people who identify as asexual either have a low sex drive or have some trauma that makes sex aversive, hence it can certainly be a choice"

When i tried to gently explain why that was wrong and used some of our links to help people understand what being ace is they turned around into some vile hateful bs about how we aren't scientifically sourced and i just cant with people.

Seriously, why can people just let other exist without having our existence validated to their standards? I didnt know wether to flair this as rant or aphobia because its both but theses people are just making it hard for me to interact with people.

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I just figured out that I am panromantic asexual, so I decided to make an ace art piece! Hope you like it :D
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Being called attractive. No thanks.

Does anyone else get uncomfortable when someone compliments them? It always makes me super uncomfortable. It might just be poor self esteem. But anytime someone says even a non sexual compliment, I am just like,' no... don't say that to me. WYF is wrong with you?' Or is this just a me thing?

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This dude gave me major asexual vibes.
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A conversation I found in a group chat from before I knew I was ace
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My self insert wearing a subtle pride flag dress based on what we identified as. I have other OCs in the Ace spectrum, so I’ll be working on those as well!
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“I Think Our Son is Gay” Representation

So this manga is about a mom realizing her son is gay (as per title). But there’s also chapters about the little bro, Yuri, who I’m 90% sure is aromantic, if not asexual.

In Vol 1, you get signs and he’s generally disinterested in romance, but it’s touched upon more in Vol 2, where >!after a confession scene gone wrong, he says “I don’t get it. I don’t really get...this thing called ‘love.’”!<

This manga in general is an interesting read that I recommend.

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I genuinely thought this sub was about garlic bread

Ok, hear me out. I saw a meme posted earlier about garlic bread, and naturally I checked the comments for fun. Somebody linked this sub, I took a quick glance at the description, and decided I’d join because who doesn’t like garlic bread memes? Well, a couple minutes ago, I saw the BINGO card post about ace experiences and, since I’m not ace, I was like, “The fuck? What does any of this mean?” Once I checked the subreddit for real, I was confused for a second, and then I laughed. How come this sub don’t have an official description instead of the garlic bread?

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To the Green haired person, wearing nail polishers with the colour of our flag in the Christmas fair serving hot wine last week in Aachen, Germany, you're awesome!

This is an appreciation post and I hope you're here to read this, you served me hot wine to me and hot chocolate to my cousin last week:

I just got to say I loved you style and I regret I was too shy to comment on it when I had the chance and I'm happy you wear our ace colours so confidently. I wish I was more like you.

You and this community are awesome, I hope you all have a merry Christmas, if you're indeed into it, and a happy new year!

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Sleep > sex
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Sleep > sex
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Bisexuality is being attracted to both genders equally, right?

So that must mean I'm bisexual, because I feel next to no attraction to men or women!

(Actual thoughts from a young teenage me)

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