Hi, I'm asexual
I've known since I was 13, It's been 3 years since then and I'm still asexual. I'm not too young to know, I'm not broken, I'm ace and that's ok and since I can't say it out loud I'm saying it here
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I've known since I was 13, It's been 3 years since then and I'm still asexual. I'm not too young to know, I'm not broken, I'm ace and that's ok and since I can't say it out loud I'm saying it here
https://redd.it/qa2693
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Hi, I'm asexual
I've known since I was 13, It's been 3 years since then and I'm still asexual. I'm not too young to know, I'm not broken, I'm ace and that's ok...
Ace dudes, is it normal to get a boner while cuddling but still don‘t want sex?
just curious, I‘m ace but not impotent, I always get a weird boner when I cuddle with a nice girl. It‘s like my genitals want sex, but my brain says NO. What‘s the deal?
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just curious, I‘m ace but not impotent, I always get a weird boner when I cuddle with a nice girl. It‘s like my genitals want sex, but my brain says NO. What‘s the deal?
https://redd.it/qa62hm
@asexualityonreddit
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Ace dudes, is it normal to get a boner while cuddling but still...
just curious, I‘m ace but not impotent, I always get a weird boner when I cuddle with a nice girl. It‘s like my genitals want sex, but my brain...
With my purple and white Joy-Cons I have created an ace-themed Switch!
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Realizing I'm Asexual at 35
I'm a 35 year old woman and I just recently realized that I am asexual. I was in a heterosexual marriage for 13 years. He left me a little over a year ago. I miss so much about him and about our relationship/partnership. However, I don't miss sex and I have never enjoyed it. I like romance and some sensual touching but that's it. I'm actually just now realizing that I was in a QPR with my best friend in high school. We are still close, but she is married now and it's just different.
Mostly I feel very comforted by this epiphany. I feel so comforted when I read about other asexuals in a way that I never felt comfortable in the heterosexual community. I feel comforted when I see the asexual pride flag. I am, however, struggling a bit with feeling out of place and old within this community. And there are days when I wonder why bother taking on a label at this point in my life. I would love to find a nonsexual romantic partner but, living in Indiana, it feels like a stretch.
Anyway, just feeling a lot of different feelings. Any other asexuals over thirty feeling old or out of place?
https://redd.it/qag79l
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I'm a 35 year old woman and I just recently realized that I am asexual. I was in a heterosexual marriage for 13 years. He left me a little over a year ago. I miss so much about him and about our relationship/partnership. However, I don't miss sex and I have never enjoyed it. I like romance and some sensual touching but that's it. I'm actually just now realizing that I was in a QPR with my best friend in high school. We are still close, but she is married now and it's just different.
Mostly I feel very comforted by this epiphany. I feel so comforted when I read about other asexuals in a way that I never felt comfortable in the heterosexual community. I feel comforted when I see the asexual pride flag. I am, however, struggling a bit with feeling out of place and old within this community. And there are days when I wonder why bother taking on a label at this point in my life. I would love to find a nonsexual romantic partner but, living in Indiana, it feels like a stretch.
Anyway, just feeling a lot of different feelings. Any other asexuals over thirty feeling old or out of place?
https://redd.it/qag79l
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Realizing I'm Asexual at 35
I'm a 35 year old woman and I just recently realized that I am asexual. I was in a heterosexual marriage for 13 years. He left me a little over a...
Anyone else get upset when a relatable character suddenly becomes overtly sexual?
I’ve been thinking a lot now about my sexuality and I’m more and more accepting that I am asexual or at minimum in the asexual spectrum.
I was thinking about how I will strongly relate to a character and then sometimes out of nowhere the show decides to have some random over the top, ridiculous sex scene (as shows annoyingly do, and mostly it’s completely unnecessary and adds nothing…looking at you, HBO lol) and I feel almost betrayed/disgusted? Of course it’s because I was putting myself into the character.
But I’ve been noticing a pattern of how much I love and relate to characters that don’t engage in overtly sexual behavior. Romantic, I like because I am not aromatic.
Example: The Office
(I know, cliche, but I’ll never stop loving it lol, also I want to use an example that is mainstream enough)
A big part of me loving the Jim and Pam relationship was how non-sexual it was. The idea that it was almost purely romantic made me identify with it so much. It was easy to imagine they were a somewhat asexual couple (obviously they weren’t, but I hope my point still gets across)
I still need time to put a lot more thought into this to be able to better articulate my feelings about this topic, but for now I thought it was an interesting observation that just came to light for me!
https://redd.it/qaibgn
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I’ve been thinking a lot now about my sexuality and I’m more and more accepting that I am asexual or at minimum in the asexual spectrum.
I was thinking about how I will strongly relate to a character and then sometimes out of nowhere the show decides to have some random over the top, ridiculous sex scene (as shows annoyingly do, and mostly it’s completely unnecessary and adds nothing…looking at you, HBO lol) and I feel almost betrayed/disgusted? Of course it’s because I was putting myself into the character.
But I’ve been noticing a pattern of how much I love and relate to characters that don’t engage in overtly sexual behavior. Romantic, I like because I am not aromatic.
Example: The Office
(I know, cliche, but I’ll never stop loving it lol, also I want to use an example that is mainstream enough)
A big part of me loving the Jim and Pam relationship was how non-sexual it was. The idea that it was almost purely romantic made me identify with it so much. It was easy to imagine they were a somewhat asexual couple (obviously they weren’t, but I hope my point still gets across)
I still need time to put a lot more thought into this to be able to better articulate my feelings about this topic, but for now I thought it was an interesting observation that just came to light for me!
https://redd.it/qaibgn
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Anyone else get upset when a relatable character suddenly becomes...
I’ve been thinking a lot now about my sexuality and I’m more and more accepting that I am asexual or at minimum in the asexual spectrum. I was...
Gave a presentation for my university today on asexuality and aromanticism! Yay!
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Gave a presentation for my university today on asexuality and...
Posted in r/Asexual by u/sixfootsauropod • 988 points and 39 comments
Experiencing aesthetic attraction is real weird
Especially when you have a type. Does anyone else have a type? I find gender non-conformity very attractive, especially "soft butch" women and men with long hair. Women with muscly arms. Men with muscly pecs. Non-binary people who wear whatever the fuck they want. Goth/punk aesthetics. David Tennant.
But it doesn't inspire any sexual feelings in me, or desires, or fantasies. At most, I'll feel my face get warm, but the downstairs area is a dead zone (and I like it that way). I just like to look - that sounds creepy and voyeuristic when I say it.
"I am looking... respectfully..."
I compare it to looking at the sunset. The sunset is beautiful. I could look at it for ages. But the sunset does not inspire any sexual feelings in me. I don't want to fuck the sun.
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Especially when you have a type. Does anyone else have a type? I find gender non-conformity very attractive, especially "soft butch" women and men with long hair. Women with muscly arms. Men with muscly pecs. Non-binary people who wear whatever the fuck they want. Goth/punk aesthetics. David Tennant.
But it doesn't inspire any sexual feelings in me, or desires, or fantasies. At most, I'll feel my face get warm, but the downstairs area is a dead zone (and I like it that way). I just like to look - that sounds creepy and voyeuristic when I say it.
"I am looking... respectfully..."
I compare it to looking at the sunset. The sunset is beautiful. I could look at it for ages. But the sunset does not inspire any sexual feelings in me. I don't want to fuck the sun.
https://redd.it/qaqip3
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reddit
Experiencing aesthetic attraction is real weird
Especially when you have a *type*. Does anyone else have a type? I find gender non-conformity very attractive, especially "soft butch" women and...