I get it but it’s tiring
All these posts from allos talking about how miserable they are dating asexuals is really doing a number on my confidence tbh
I get that this is a good place to get advice, but there’s just been so many recently and it just makes me feel kinda hopeless
It feels like there’s a new post every day with the exact same story about how they love their partner but they’re fundamentally incompatible
I wish I had the self-confidence not to get mopey over a couple of failed relationships, but it just seems to reaffirm my fears that my identity is fundamentally a burden
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All these posts from allos talking about how miserable they are dating asexuals is really doing a number on my confidence tbh
I get that this is a good place to get advice, but there’s just been so many recently and it just makes me feel kinda hopeless
It feels like there’s a new post every day with the exact same story about how they love their partner but they’re fundamentally incompatible
I wish I had the self-confidence not to get mopey over a couple of failed relationships, but it just seems to reaffirm my fears that my identity is fundamentally a burden
https://redd.it/q78ra4
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I get it but it’s tiring
All these posts from allos talking about how miserable they are dating asexuals is really doing a number on my confidence tbh I get that this is...
Ace representation in the German Hygiene Museum in Dresden in their sexuality exhibit. Was kinda nice to see this
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Ignoring your asexuality can be harmful to your mental AND physical health.
I commented this on another post, but I thought it was important to share more widely, because I don't think people—asexual and not—consider the dangers asexual people face specifically.
Trust your feelings, stand up for yourself, and never settle on a partner who doesn't get it.
When I was \~15, I came out to my friends as asexual. They told me I was just being immature. Believing them, I tried to "not be asexual." I found a boyfriend who loved sex; when we would meet, he wanted it several times a day. I convinced myself I liked it, because my body did the "right" things—lubricated, sometimes O'ed...
But in my head, the asexuality never went away. I didn't realise until a couple years ago that coercion was a thing and that 99% of my sexual encounters were non-consensual. I had to be convinced almost every single time. And boy, did that explain a lot. Though I gave in to sex on the outside, my body did not, and in the background, my mind was secretly tucking away a bunch of trauma.
In fact, my reluctance led to vaginismus (pelvic floor dysfunction) that caused pain upon insertion amongst other symptoms that I deal with daily and have been told I will have to handle for life. This led to even more trauma to the point I now physically shake any time anyone—including doctors—approach that part of me. I said to my ex that I thought I was asexual, and he just said "No you're not, you're just scared. You'll love it once you're fixed." That ex turned out to be abusive, anyway 🤷♀️
Basically, friends and partners ignoring your sexuality can actually be very harmful, so it's important to find someone who respects you.
https://redd.it/q7cid1
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I commented this on another post, but I thought it was important to share more widely, because I don't think people—asexual and not—consider the dangers asexual people face specifically.
Trust your feelings, stand up for yourself, and never settle on a partner who doesn't get it.
When I was \~15, I came out to my friends as asexual. They told me I was just being immature. Believing them, I tried to "not be asexual." I found a boyfriend who loved sex; when we would meet, he wanted it several times a day. I convinced myself I liked it, because my body did the "right" things—lubricated, sometimes O'ed...
But in my head, the asexuality never went away. I didn't realise until a couple years ago that coercion was a thing and that 99% of my sexual encounters were non-consensual. I had to be convinced almost every single time. And boy, did that explain a lot. Though I gave in to sex on the outside, my body did not, and in the background, my mind was secretly tucking away a bunch of trauma.
In fact, my reluctance led to vaginismus (pelvic floor dysfunction) that caused pain upon insertion amongst other symptoms that I deal with daily and have been told I will have to handle for life. This led to even more trauma to the point I now physically shake any time anyone—including doctors—approach that part of me. I said to my ex that I thought I was asexual, and he just said "No you're not, you're just scared. You'll love it once you're fixed." That ex turned out to be abusive, anyway 🤷♀️
Basically, friends and partners ignoring your sexuality can actually be very harmful, so it's important to find someone who respects you.
https://redd.it/q7cid1
@asexualityonreddit
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Ignoring your asexuality can be harmful to your mental AND...
I commented this on another post, but I thought it was important to share more widely, because I don't think people—asexual and not—consider the...
Hello everyone! added rings of larger size according to your requests
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A comic I drew years l before knew Ace was a thing. (I was 20) In a self fulfilling prophecy, I now live alone with many birds.
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A comic I drew years l before knew Ace was a thing. (I was 20) In...
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