How do you feel about gender?
So I'm female and i don't really care about gender. I feel like as aroace, gender really doesn't matter, as i don't want people perceiving me in any kind of way that relates to my gender.
For a while I thought I could be non-binary as I dress however I please, and don't really care for my appearance or body shape. But then I thought, it's so bothersome to explain your gender whenever you go, and I'm not really uncomfortable with my label, so why bother.
So i ask this question to you, how do you experience gender? Does this rambling make sense to you? do you think there is a relationship between gender and sexuality?
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So I'm female and i don't really care about gender. I feel like as aroace, gender really doesn't matter, as i don't want people perceiving me in any kind of way that relates to my gender.
For a while I thought I could be non-binary as I dress however I please, and don't really care for my appearance or body shape. But then I thought, it's so bothersome to explain your gender whenever you go, and I'm not really uncomfortable with my label, so why bother.
So i ask this question to you, how do you experience gender? Does this rambling make sense to you? do you think there is a relationship between gender and sexuality?
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@asexualityonreddit
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How do you feel about gender?
So I'm female and i don't really care about gender. I feel like as aroace, gender really doesn't matter, as i don't want people perceiving me in...
Is it considered cheating if...
I'm an asexual girl and I have this close male friend to whom I talk a lot about almost anything. (except for anything sexual) He's straight, not asexual and has a girlfriend. Our conversation is never inappropriate/sexual/romantic, it's completely platonic. The thing is I'm a person who has platonic needs and I fill those needs by talking to him. Is it considered cheating on my part even though we're 100% just friends by definition because for me romance/love = having a platonic intimacy with someone?
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@asexualityonreddit
I'm an asexual girl and I have this close male friend to whom I talk a lot about almost anything. (except for anything sexual) He's straight, not asexual and has a girlfriend. Our conversation is never inappropriate/sexual/romantic, it's completely platonic. The thing is I'm a person who has platonic needs and I fill those needs by talking to him. Is it considered cheating on my part even though we're 100% just friends by definition because for me romance/love = having a platonic intimacy with someone?
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@asexualityonreddit
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Is it considered cheating if...
I'm an asexual girl and I have this close male friend to whom I talk a lot about almost anything. (except for anything sexual) He's straight, not...
Found Myself...Finally
I'm a 35 y/o married mother of 2. I've been working toward dismantling my societal expectations of myself for 15 years due to strong religious background and ingrained biases to overcome. I examined the expectations of my role and accepted myself for who I am, and I embraced the ace label. I will say it took another bit of time before I was ready to share with anyone.
I just verbalized it to another person (my husband, who did not take it well) for the first time yesterday, followed closely by three (much more) supportive friends. My husband wants me to get checked out by my doctor, get my meds reexamined (depression and anxiety) for side effects, and see a counselor. I know it's not a medical issue, but to get him to understand, I'll put myself through a little bit of discomfort. I'm not expecting this to be easy, but it's so liberating accepting I am different than I was expected to be. I made this account so I could find a supportive community.
Does anyone have experience you'd be willing to share about finding your label later in life, how it impacted your relationships, and how you're doing now?
Thank you for listening to my story.
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@asexualityonreddit
I'm a 35 y/o married mother of 2. I've been working toward dismantling my societal expectations of myself for 15 years due to strong religious background and ingrained biases to overcome. I examined the expectations of my role and accepted myself for who I am, and I embraced the ace label. I will say it took another bit of time before I was ready to share with anyone.
I just verbalized it to another person (my husband, who did not take it well) for the first time yesterday, followed closely by three (much more) supportive friends. My husband wants me to get checked out by my doctor, get my meds reexamined (depression and anxiety) for side effects, and see a counselor. I know it's not a medical issue, but to get him to understand, I'll put myself through a little bit of discomfort. I'm not expecting this to be easy, but it's so liberating accepting I am different than I was expected to be. I made this account so I could find a supportive community.
Does anyone have experience you'd be willing to share about finding your label later in life, how it impacted your relationships, and how you're doing now?
Thank you for listening to my story.
https://redd.it/q3z68v
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
Found Myself...Finally
I'm a 35 y/o married mother of 2. I've been working toward dismantling my societal expectations of myself for 15 years due to strong religious...
I just came out for the first time ever
I just told my mom that I'm ace. She literally had never heard this word before even though she's queer herself. I asked her if she could do research because my explaining abilities are as bad as they come, so she did and she actually understood it quite fast.
I feel so light now. I told her a childhood story that relates to me being ace and we laughed together.
Thanks to everyone in this sub, you helped me discover and accept myself <3
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@asexualityonreddit
I just told my mom that I'm ace. She literally had never heard this word before even though she's queer herself. I asked her if she could do research because my explaining abilities are as bad as they come, so she did and she actually understood it quite fast.
I feel so light now. I told her a childhood story that relates to me being ace and we laughed together.
Thanks to everyone in this sub, you helped me discover and accept myself <3
https://redd.it/q47t0v
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
I just came out for the first time ever
I just told my mom that I'm ace. She literally had never heard this word before even though she's queer herself. I asked her if she could do...
My sister knew I was ace before I did
I'm 19, and about last month I realized I was asexual. I told my best friend about 3 days ago and I just told my mom. She told me that she knew something about me was different, and she had a conversation about it with Bri, my older sister. My mom thought I was gay and just didn't know it. Well, Bri had said that I was probably asexual. Turns out she was right. I find it funny how she knows me better than I do.
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@asexualityonreddit
I'm 19, and about last month I realized I was asexual. I told my best friend about 3 days ago and I just told my mom. She told me that she knew something about me was different, and she had a conversation about it with Bri, my older sister. My mom thought I was gay and just didn't know it. Well, Bri had said that I was probably asexual. Turns out she was right. I find it funny how she knows me better than I do.
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@asexualityonreddit
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My sister knew I was ace before I did
I'm 19, and about last month I realized I was asexual. I told my best friend about 3 days ago and I just told my mom. She told me that she knew...
I don’t usually think about my asexuality, but sometimes I really appreciate being asexual.
Aromantic ace here.
I think that because I’m aromantic my asexuality doesn’t ever really come up in my day-to-day life. I’m not looking for a relationship, I’m not think about people in a romantic or sexual way…so I don’t really ever think about the fact that I’m asexual.
But sometimes I read posts on Reddit (and other places) and I’m so glad I’m an asexual guy. I read posts about guys who make moves on their friends that are girls and ruin their friendship because of that…I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that. I see posts about guys who harass complete strangers…I’m glad I don’t have to worry that I’m doing that. I see posts about how guys and girls can’t be friends, or about how careful girls have to be around guys because even their married friends hit on them…and every time I see a post like that I’m glad I’m asexual. I can’t relate to the guys posting (or in the post if it was posted by a girl) at all.
I have a lot of friends that are girls, I’m close with many of them. I’ve crashed at their place when drunk, they’ve crashed at my place when drunk, and never once have I felt uncomfortable or made them feel uncomfortable.
I just wanted to say…while I never really think about the fact that I’m ace,and I sometimes think that being ace is not a big part of my life, but it has definitely shaped who I am and my relationships and I’m happy that I was born ace.
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Aromantic ace here.
I think that because I’m aromantic my asexuality doesn’t ever really come up in my day-to-day life. I’m not looking for a relationship, I’m not think about people in a romantic or sexual way…so I don’t really ever think about the fact that I’m asexual.
But sometimes I read posts on Reddit (and other places) and I’m so glad I’m an asexual guy. I read posts about guys who make moves on their friends that are girls and ruin their friendship because of that…I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that. I see posts about guys who harass complete strangers…I’m glad I don’t have to worry that I’m doing that. I see posts about how guys and girls can’t be friends, or about how careful girls have to be around guys because even their married friends hit on them…and every time I see a post like that I’m glad I’m asexual. I can’t relate to the guys posting (or in the post if it was posted by a girl) at all.
I have a lot of friends that are girls, I’m close with many of them. I’ve crashed at their place when drunk, they’ve crashed at my place when drunk, and never once have I felt uncomfortable or made them feel uncomfortable.
I just wanted to say…while I never really think about the fact that I’m ace,and I sometimes think that being ace is not a big part of my life, but it has definitely shaped who I am and my relationships and I’m happy that I was born ace.
https://redd.it/q47po7
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
I don’t usually think about my asexuality, but sometimes I really...
Aromantic ace here. I think that because I’m aromantic my asexuality doesn’t ever really come up in my day-to-day life. I’m not looking for a...
hate this shit smh
just watched sex ed on netflix, kind of frustrating to see themes about exploring this world of sensation when i have none of it. not a problem with the show i just feel like i don’t wanna lack it, i feel like im missing out on something that all of my peers are so happy with.
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@asexualityonreddit
just watched sex ed on netflix, kind of frustrating to see themes about exploring this world of sensation when i have none of it. not a problem with the show i just feel like i don’t wanna lack it, i feel like im missing out on something that all of my peers are so happy with.
https://redd.it/q4exjx
@asexualityonreddit
reddit
hate this shit smh
just watched sex ed on netflix, kind of frustrating to see themes about exploring this world of sensation when i have none of it. not a problem...