I've been called a narcissist different times because I play with women's feelings
I made this throwaway account specifically to post this.. I need to talk about this and I hope someone will read, I'll keep this as short as possible. I see that this subreddit has a '' vent '' flair so I guess I can post something just to vent.
It took me very long to realise that I was/am asexual. Because I am attracted to women, even visually, though I have high standards, but at the same time I don't want sex. I read more about asexuality two years ago and found out that this is asexuality, I thought asexuality was a complete lack of attraction/interest in romantic relationships and therefore I was confused because I knew I wasn't gay but I didn't want sex with women either. I'm 24 and I have never had sex indeed.
I'm an attractive man, when I say attractive I mean people like, you know, Ian Somerhalder, David Beckham, young DiCaprio etc. I've had a few women genuinely tell me to send my pictures to modeling agencies or take acting classes to become an actor because '' with those looks you should be able to become famous ''
I'm not saying this to brag about my looks, I'm saying this because I very often have women flirting with me. A few years ago I realised that my friend was into me, I never officially dated her, we sometimes went out together privately, but I would actively avoid the word '' date '' because I didn't want her to think things were getting serious. I knew she was attracted to me and I wanted to keep her attracted to me, but I didn't want to have sex.
Because I do like the feeling of a woman hugging me, but if a woman isn't attracted to me, the hug is not as intense and passionate, and I also enjoy cuddling and kisses on the cheeks. To keep it short, she felt I was leading her on and playing with her feelings and she started calling me a manipulative psychopath/narcissist.
Now that I am in University I've also had to deal with people thinking I'm gay because a few women have been interested in me - I don't want to make it sound like every woman is interested in me -
but everyone knows I haven't slept with any of them and people are starting to question my sexuality. My parents are questioning my sexuality too, because I am simply too good-looking to not have a girlfriend. I once went to a family gathering with my parents and my cousin's girlfriend was blatantly interested in me and I straight up ignored her and my father was like '' you always ignore every girl ''.
I hate bragging about my looks, I find it lame, but I'm here to explain my situation. My mum tried to bring this up, she was like '' you know that your father and I are open-minded, if you don't like women you can tell us ''
Basically, I love it when a girl is attracted to me, not because I want an ego-boost, but because I do enjoy it when a woman is into me and she wants to hug me and make physical contact, but I find sex unpleasant. And I've been called a narcissist a few times because it looks like I play with women's feelings.. plus, when a woman realises I'm not going to do anything with her, she will eventually avoid me and try to forget about me, you can't keep someone interested for ages.
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I feel a little better after typing this. I have yet to send it but I already feel a little better, lol.
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I made this throwaway account specifically to post this.. I need to talk about this and I hope someone will read, I'll keep this as short as possible. I see that this subreddit has a '' vent '' flair so I guess I can post something just to vent.
It took me very long to realise that I was/am asexual. Because I am attracted to women, even visually, though I have high standards, but at the same time I don't want sex. I read more about asexuality two years ago and found out that this is asexuality, I thought asexuality was a complete lack of attraction/interest in romantic relationships and therefore I was confused because I knew I wasn't gay but I didn't want sex with women either. I'm 24 and I have never had sex indeed.
I'm an attractive man, when I say attractive I mean people like, you know, Ian Somerhalder, David Beckham, young DiCaprio etc. I've had a few women genuinely tell me to send my pictures to modeling agencies or take acting classes to become an actor because '' with those looks you should be able to become famous ''
I'm not saying this to brag about my looks, I'm saying this because I very often have women flirting with me. A few years ago I realised that my friend was into me, I never officially dated her, we sometimes went out together privately, but I would actively avoid the word '' date '' because I didn't want her to think things were getting serious. I knew she was attracted to me and I wanted to keep her attracted to me, but I didn't want to have sex.
Because I do like the feeling of a woman hugging me, but if a woman isn't attracted to me, the hug is not as intense and passionate, and I also enjoy cuddling and kisses on the cheeks. To keep it short, she felt I was leading her on and playing with her feelings and she started calling me a manipulative psychopath/narcissist.
Now that I am in University I've also had to deal with people thinking I'm gay because a few women have been interested in me - I don't want to make it sound like every woman is interested in me -
but everyone knows I haven't slept with any of them and people are starting to question my sexuality. My parents are questioning my sexuality too, because I am simply too good-looking to not have a girlfriend. I once went to a family gathering with my parents and my cousin's girlfriend was blatantly interested in me and I straight up ignored her and my father was like '' you always ignore every girl ''.
I hate bragging about my looks, I find it lame, but I'm here to explain my situation. My mum tried to bring this up, she was like '' you know that your father and I are open-minded, if you don't like women you can tell us ''
Basically, I love it when a girl is attracted to me, not because I want an ego-boost, but because I do enjoy it when a woman is into me and she wants to hug me and make physical contact, but I find sex unpleasant. And I've been called a narcissist a few times because it looks like I play with women's feelings.. plus, when a woman realises I'm not going to do anything with her, she will eventually avoid me and try to forget about me, you can't keep someone interested for ages.
​
I feel a little better after typing this. I have yet to send it but I already feel a little better, lol.
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I've been called a narcissist different times because I play with...
I made this throwaway account specifically to post this.. I need to talk about this and I hope someone will read, I'll keep this as short as...
Sex ED class, aphobia, homophobia, transphobia and some support
May be NSFW, I dunno. Trigger warning too, sorry if it's badly constructed, I'm on mobile.
We never have Sex ED class, okay? Just something we had in fifth and seventh grade before, so I was familiar with all of it, but always distant, as being aro and ace. I was in the back of the class, it was a full day lecture from older students in their twenties, and I was bored, disgusted and weirded out the entire time.
It was everything from basic anatomy and sexualities, to how to put on a condom. Ew. They even made two students, who willingly, mind you, chose to contribute, to read an erotic story about two people's first time having it. It was uncomfortable, excrutiating detail and et cetera.
When we got to sexualities, things started to turn. I was more active in class, and once we were asked to name some sexualities, I said "Asexuality". Oh shit. The other students were weirded out, saying how it's a shame that we are this out and just making some grossed-out faces in general. Some of them did, anyways. Well, I'm never outing myself for these fuckers. Never had any plans to, though.
Some kept saying how they wouldn't want to be friends with those who are gay or trans and just general douchebaggery.
Then they asked us to have two pieces of paper, given by them, and to write any questions we have, or just scribble on if we don't. I gave one paper, a doodled garlic bread baguette, and refused to give the other. Because it was about being ace. Since I mentioned asexuality in class, like a total moron, giving the paper would let them know it was me. Even though the papers are anonymous. I quietly explained to one of the students supervising us, and she went on to take the rest.
After class, I gave them the other paper, and explained that I think I'm ace/aro. They asked questions like: "How do you know?". Well, I always felt different than others in that sense, and even though I personally wouldn't change that about myself I still feel a bit left out. The supervisors were really supportive, and the first one said she was bi herself. I felt so fucking bad at that moment. She had to sit through the bullshit of my class for five hours while silently being judged for being bi, even if they didn't know! I thanked them for their time and went home, took a bite of cake and made some garlic bread.
My father came in shortly after, I told him how homophobic my class is, he told me Sex ED is unecessary and that homophobia isn't a real thing, just a natural, healthy response to being against gays. What the fuck. We ate that garlic bread during dinner. He didn't deserve it.
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May be NSFW, I dunno. Trigger warning too, sorry if it's badly constructed, I'm on mobile.
We never have Sex ED class, okay? Just something we had in fifth and seventh grade before, so I was familiar with all of it, but always distant, as being aro and ace. I was in the back of the class, it was a full day lecture from older students in their twenties, and I was bored, disgusted and weirded out the entire time.
It was everything from basic anatomy and sexualities, to how to put on a condom. Ew. They even made two students, who willingly, mind you, chose to contribute, to read an erotic story about two people's first time having it. It was uncomfortable, excrutiating detail and et cetera.
When we got to sexualities, things started to turn. I was more active in class, and once we were asked to name some sexualities, I said "Asexuality". Oh shit. The other students were weirded out, saying how it's a shame that we are this out and just making some grossed-out faces in general. Some of them did, anyways. Well, I'm never outing myself for these fuckers. Never had any plans to, though.
Some kept saying how they wouldn't want to be friends with those who are gay or trans and just general douchebaggery.
Then they asked us to have two pieces of paper, given by them, and to write any questions we have, or just scribble on if we don't. I gave one paper, a doodled garlic bread baguette, and refused to give the other. Because it was about being ace. Since I mentioned asexuality in class, like a total moron, giving the paper would let them know it was me. Even though the papers are anonymous. I quietly explained to one of the students supervising us, and she went on to take the rest.
After class, I gave them the other paper, and explained that I think I'm ace/aro. They asked questions like: "How do you know?". Well, I always felt different than others in that sense, and even though I personally wouldn't change that about myself I still feel a bit left out. The supervisors were really supportive, and the first one said she was bi herself. I felt so fucking bad at that moment. She had to sit through the bullshit of my class for five hours while silently being judged for being bi, even if they didn't know! I thanked them for their time and went home, took a bite of cake and made some garlic bread.
My father came in shortly after, I told him how homophobic my class is, he told me Sex ED is unecessary and that homophobia isn't a real thing, just a natural, healthy response to being against gays. What the fuck. We ate that garlic bread during dinner. He didn't deserve it.
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Sex ED class, aphobia, homophobia, transphobia and some support
May be NSFW, I dunno. Trigger warning too, sorry if it's badly constructed, I'm on mobile. We never have Sex ED class, okay? Just something we...
"ace people don't face discrimination or insults" this happens literally almost every time i tell someone i'm ace.
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Are the allos ok thing
Can we stop are the allos ok memes? There's a whole sub for that specific thing. I come on reddit to look at some memes and it's just constant negativity. Allos were born allo, we were born ace, they feel sexual attraction, we don't, it's simple and they are just as ok as us.
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Can we stop are the allos ok memes? There's a whole sub for that specific thing. I come on reddit to look at some memes and it's just constant negativity. Allos were born allo, we were born ace, they feel sexual attraction, we don't, it's simple and they are just as ok as us.
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Are the allos ok thing
Can we stop are the allos ok memes? There's a whole sub for that specific thing. I come on reddit to look at some memes and it's just constant...
Never the right amount of ace for anyone
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday (I'm an ace lesbian and so is she). Part of it was because I'm not ace enough for her. I still want to cuddle and kiss and she didn't want that. I can do without, that's fine, but she told me she wants me to be with someone who wants that too. (Which first of all it's not fair for her to decide that for me and break up with me. I was perfectly happy with what we had and I loved her!). A relationship I was in before that ended partly because I was too ace, as did a different one before that.
I feel like I'll never be the right amount of ace for anyone.
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My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday (I'm an ace lesbian and so is she). Part of it was because I'm not ace enough for her. I still want to cuddle and kiss and she didn't want that. I can do without, that's fine, but she told me she wants me to be with someone who wants that too. (Which first of all it's not fair for her to decide that for me and break up with me. I was perfectly happy with what we had and I loved her!). A relationship I was in before that ended partly because I was too ace, as did a different one before that.
I feel like I'll never be the right amount of ace for anyone.
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Never the right amount of ace for anyone
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday (I'm an ace lesbian and so is she). Part of it was because I'm not ace enough for her. I still want to...
My 9yo cousin asked me to make rainbow loom bracelets and I was surprised to see it was our colors she chose!
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