If you are ace-spec, please share whether you have had one of these experiences:

I know these aren't mutually exclusive, I would've included some more common experiences if they didn't conflict so much, and I can't add more options

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CIA STAND UP ♾💜
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People

You know, as a disabled person I sometimes can’t help but feel like a failure. But then I see people being like: “BuT HoW do YoU eVen knoW YOu cAn’T fEel SeXuaL aTtraCTiOn WhEn yOU neVeR eVeN TRiED it.”

And suddenly I’m like “Yup, not that much of a failure, could’ve been much worse.”

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A small win

I have an aphobic person in my life, who I (unfortunately) can't block. She tries to pose as my "friend" who "helps me understand myself", so she doesn't do anything harmful (like trying to tell my family), but having to listen to her falsely cheerful sermons is quite unpleasant.

Anyway, recently we had a small celebration, and she gave me a gift saying: "I know you're shy to buy these things, so I got them for you. After you try them, you will discover a new world". It was a big bottle of lube and 2 "toys". I considered telling her that asexual people can use them too, but that was boring. Then I remembered a certain fact that I accidentally read about lube...

A week passed and today she asked me if I liked her gift. I said that I loved it and added that it smelled too weak, so I added a bit of lemongrass oil and now it's my favorite product. After she started beaming with self-satisfaction, I continued: "See how well it moisturizes my hands! They were so dry from the constant hand-sanitizing, and it was really hard to find a product that doesn't irritate my skin!" The look on her face was, honestly, priceless.

TL;DR: Acephobe gave me lube, I used it as a hand moisturizer to spite her. (it moisturizes exceptionally well, btw)

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Can confirm
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An interesting title
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Sex is a joke
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I'm currently watching Carrie Pilby and let me tell you I forgot how much ace energy and aphobia is there
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Feeling invalidated

So I'm demisexual, only figured this out around last month, before for years I would say that I'm just ace until I met my gf

I still call myself ace because it still falls under that category, but multiple times have I been told that I'm not ace because I do have some sexual desires and that demisexual doesn't fall under ace. And even though I do have these occasional sexual thoughts, they are rare

I've been comfortable calling myself ace for the better part of 2 years, so it's kind of annoying when I'm told by multiple people that I'm not what I am

What do you guys think?

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Help I think I’m asexual. I’m confused.

Can someone answer my questions about asexuality?

Preferably DM since it’s quite private.

Update: yea I’m asexual. Whats up.

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I think I finally found my labels!

Oh well, I always considered myself aro/ace and for years I was fine with that. But today, by chance I found out the words Aegosexual/Aegoromantic, and this fits sooo much better! When I read the definition of Aegosexual I was just like "Jep, jep, and jep, this all fits so perfectly!"

I really got nothing against sex, but I would always be repulsed by the thought of doing it myself, but at the same time I usually enjoy watching/reading about sexy stuff, not just with me in it. I usually let my fictional characters have the fun.

So I was really happy that I found something that fits me so well. I now consider myself Aego Aro/Ace :D

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Gentle reminder
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On a research survey about the impact of the pandemic on young adults, there was a section on sex life… I had to laugh at the way I had to answer the questions as an ace!
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I confessed to my ace crush/now boyfriend with a stuffed raccoon and a note. He hates raccoons. 😂❤

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