My heart is broken and I feel like I will never find someone that's right for me and whom I'm right for.
A month ago my allo boyfriend broke up with me. We were living together for over a year already. I still love him and it hurts so much to not have him by my side. He accepted me for who I am, was ok with my sexuality and was such an encouraging partner. But living together 24/7 through this pandemic made it very difficult to keep the relationship healthy. He felt like he needed to be alone and that it was unfair for both of us to keep the relationship going.
I am asexual but I'm not aromatic. I feel like I will never find someone who I'm compatible with. I don't think I should get in relationships with allos ever again because it wouldn't be compatible. And it makes me feel like I will never find anyone. I don't want to be alone my whole life, but I also don't want to keep getting myself into relationships with people that I'm not compatible with. I don't know anyone else that's asexual, I feel like the odds of me ever falling in love with someone that loves me back and is ace and compatible are extremely close to 0 and it just makes me so so sad.
And, to be completely honest, I just wish my ex and I were still together. I miss him so much.
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A month ago my allo boyfriend broke up with me. We were living together for over a year already. I still love him and it hurts so much to not have him by my side. He accepted me for who I am, was ok with my sexuality and was such an encouraging partner. But living together 24/7 through this pandemic made it very difficult to keep the relationship healthy. He felt like he needed to be alone and that it was unfair for both of us to keep the relationship going.
I am asexual but I'm not aromatic. I feel like I will never find someone who I'm compatible with. I don't think I should get in relationships with allos ever again because it wouldn't be compatible. And it makes me feel like I will never find anyone. I don't want to be alone my whole life, but I also don't want to keep getting myself into relationships with people that I'm not compatible with. I don't know anyone else that's asexual, I feel like the odds of me ever falling in love with someone that loves me back and is ace and compatible are extremely close to 0 and it just makes me so so sad.
And, to be completely honest, I just wish my ex and I were still together. I miss him so much.
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My heart is broken and I feel like I will never find someone...
A month ago my allo boyfriend broke up with me. We were living together for over a year already. I still love him and it hurts so much to not have...
My grandma just asked how I can be asexual when I'm trans 🙃 omg I got defensive 😭 anyway I thought this pic was cute 😍
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i'm tired of having to explain in detail why i'm asexual to even be accepted
this might sound nitpicky, but i've noticed how non-asexual people ask inappropriate and invasive questions when i say i'm ace. i've noticed other asexuals being treated the same way; asking us if we're virgins, if we're on medication, if we have hormone issues, etc. it's annoying and tiresome to constantly explain why i'm ace. i just wish they just accepted me as is.
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this might sound nitpicky, but i've noticed how non-asexual people ask inappropriate and invasive questions when i say i'm ace. i've noticed other asexuals being treated the same way; asking us if we're virgins, if we're on medication, if we have hormone issues, etc. it's annoying and tiresome to constantly explain why i'm ace. i just wish they just accepted me as is.
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r/asexuality - i'm tired of having to explain in detail why i'm asexual to even be accepted
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I met an ace girl !!!
So a friend told me about how a bi classmate came out to her class. And i contacted the girl cause i admired her . And suddenly , she told me that she might be ace. We talked about it , and we concluded that she was demisexual. She has a lot of similarities to me . I feel like we are a perfect fit. So we started texting. Tuns out she has a short social battery , so she normal texts 2 or 1 hours a day max with a person. We text like 4 hours. Maybe i am going to fast. She is demi so it might take a while . Such a fun girl. We can talk about anything. We talked about the big sad and the commit die . And i met her 4 days ago. She believes in astro things (idk how it is called). She says leos ( her ) and aquas ( me ) are a perfect match. And she even defended me in front of a friend. Maybe this will become something. Only the social battery is a little bit annoying. But so fun to find another ace , that might be a match .
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So a friend told me about how a bi classmate came out to her class. And i contacted the girl cause i admired her . And suddenly , she told me that she might be ace. We talked about it , and we concluded that she was demisexual. She has a lot of similarities to me . I feel like we are a perfect fit. So we started texting. Tuns out she has a short social battery , so she normal texts 2 or 1 hours a day max with a person. We text like 4 hours. Maybe i am going to fast. She is demi so it might take a while . Such a fun girl. We can talk about anything. We talked about the big sad and the commit die . And i met her 4 days ago. She believes in astro things (idk how it is called). She says leos ( her ) and aquas ( me ) are a perfect match. And she even defended me in front of a friend. Maybe this will become something. Only the social battery is a little bit annoying. But so fun to find another ace , that might be a match .
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r/asexuality - I met an ace girl !!!
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My sister got me this without knowing what it is lol. My first pride merch!!
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We hope the offer is appeasing and you will join us in the invasion 👀
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“The homosexuals want respect? They should respect me too! I don’t want them nearby”
Well, I just heard that from my mom.
I’m still a closeted agender aroace, so I’m not in a place to talk back, but I just feel so angry.
To be fair, I don’t even think she knows what exactly the lgbt+ community stands for, like, she thinks we just want to shove the “gayness” down their throats, but like, is it too much to ask for representation? Is it too much to want some more explicit rep?
I just know that I will have to get away from them if I ever want to feel like I can be who I truly am.
Thank u ace comunity for making me feel a bit better about myself. I really love you guys.
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Well, I just heard that from my mom.
I’m still a closeted agender aroace, so I’m not in a place to talk back, but I just feel so angry.
To be fair, I don’t even think she knows what exactly the lgbt+ community stands for, like, she thinks we just want to shove the “gayness” down their throats, but like, is it too much to ask for representation? Is it too much to want some more explicit rep?
I just know that I will have to get away from them if I ever want to feel like I can be who I truly am.
Thank u ace comunity for making me feel a bit better about myself. I really love you guys.
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r/asexuality - “The homosexuals want respect? They should respect me too! I don’t want them nearby”
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I fucking hate being ace
A story.
A few months ago I came out as ace to my best friend who I was also interested in for a relationship (I'm a 19 y.o male, she's a 19 y.o female). I told her I am ace as well that I am interested in her, and I asked if she would ever give up sex for a relationship. She said "only if it was someone I really really love".
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6-7 months later (present day) the connection between us became so strong. (I'm talking physical touch, kisses on the cheeks and forehead from time to time, she was the only person I talked with on a daily basis even though we live about 1.5 hours away).
I wanted to ask her on a date. But I didn't know if the whole ace situation is still a problem.
Eventually I asked and surprise surprise, she said no. Her exact words were: "sometimes I said 'just be with him (me), it's the most fun and the best option', but not having sex will be a problem for me".
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You know how Im calling asexuality? The bummer orientation.
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Thank you for reading.
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A story.
A few months ago I came out as ace to my best friend who I was also interested in for a relationship (I'm a 19 y.o male, she's a 19 y.o female). I told her I am ace as well that I am interested in her, and I asked if she would ever give up sex for a relationship. She said "only if it was someone I really really love".
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6-7 months later (present day) the connection between us became so strong. (I'm talking physical touch, kisses on the cheeks and forehead from time to time, she was the only person I talked with on a daily basis even though we live about 1.5 hours away).
I wanted to ask her on a date. But I didn't know if the whole ace situation is still a problem.
Eventually I asked and surprise surprise, she said no. Her exact words were: "sometimes I said 'just be with him (me), it's the most fun and the best option', but not having sex will be a problem for me".
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You know how Im calling asexuality? The bummer orientation.
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Thank you for reading.
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r/asexuality - I fucking hate being ace
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friendly reminder that ace & aro are 2 totally different things!!!
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So grateful to whoever made the cereal comparison!
So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly sexual and literally couldn't understand why I wouldn't want sex all the time.
So, I explained it with cereal. You are hungry and go looking for cereal and get excited that you have cookie crisp. I am not hungry but I open the pantry and think that fruit loops sound OK.
She was able to understand me! It feels kind of silly to be excited about but it felt so validating to be able to explain myself and be understood. So thank you cereal person!!
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So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly sexual and literally couldn't understand why I wouldn't want sex all the time.
So, I explained it with cereal. You are hungry and go looking for cereal and get excited that you have cookie crisp. I am not hungry but I open the pantry and think that fruit loops sound OK.
She was able to understand me! It feels kind of silly to be excited about but it felt so validating to be able to explain myself and be understood. So thank you cereal person!!
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So grateful to whoever made the cereal comparison!
So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly...
Being ace but not aro really sucks.
I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so improbable as to be essentially impossible. Knowing that 99% of people I'll ever meet would be completely uninterested in me because of something I can't even change, something that's a core part of what makes me who I am, and that even among that one percent finding someone who is compatible and mutually interested, the odds of me finding someone are negligible at best.
It just really sucks. I wish I was aro so that I would be content with having friends, but I'm not. I'll always have this longing in my heart for something I'll never be able to have.
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I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so improbable as to be essentially impossible. Knowing that 99% of people I'll ever meet would be completely uninterested in me because of something I can't even change, something that's a core part of what makes me who I am, and that even among that one percent finding someone who is compatible and mutually interested, the odds of me finding someone are negligible at best.
It just really sucks. I wish I was aro so that I would be content with having friends, but I'm not. I'll always have this longing in my heart for something I'll never be able to have.
Thanks for reading.
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Being ace but not aro really sucks.
I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so...