Obviously friendships can work without romance, but do you think romance can work without friendship?

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Saying that you've turned asexual is really problematic.

You cannot become a sexuality because it's not a choice, what can happen is that you've had a realization of what your sexuality is because you've done the self discovery and you now know who you are. I don't think people realize how dangerous saying that you've 'turned ace' is because with that logic you can turn yourself straight and this can be applied to gays, lesbian and trans people ect. This is also the same logic that's used in conversation therapy. It is that deep and it's not something that's okay to say. I understand that some people after going on hrt they might discover that they identify with a different kind of sexuality and that's okay but hormones can't change yourself sexuality. Years ago they used hormones and medications fix queer people . As for victims of abuse I know that there is another term for not wanting engage in sex because of tramua and using asexuality as a label just to not explain yourself to random people and that's completely fine.



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Is anyone else here like me—someone who loves romance but isn’t sure if romantic relationships are actually for them? What can i do to process this?

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Question?

What age did you find out about your asexuality

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Jughead, the one guy in classic Archie who *doesn't* eat the eyecandy 😏

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I’ve accepted that my dating life is just doomed

Maybe I’m being dramatic but it sure feels like its true, because I‘m about to enter my 30’s soon and if I ever think about dating again in the future I feel like its just going to be a revolving door of rejections not just cause I’m asexual but cause I’m still a VIRGIN and my dating history is pretty limited and different compared to others. I never had a sexual relationship so I have no experience and not feeling sexual attraction is already just enough to turn off people. Nobody wants to date a female virgin in her 30’s who has only had a “childish“ relationship history.

I honestly don’t care if I remain alone forever cause I been single for a few years now and I don’t miss being with someone. I love having my own freedom and not having someone whine at me over things that I can’t change about myself. Sometimes though I feel like it would be nice to have someone but I feel like its just not gonna happen and that actual true love is not actually real these days since half the people I know in relationships are only in it for financial support and to have a place to stay.

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I need help with customising my asexual oc

Lemme get to the point, I go by he/him pronouns, I'm bi and aspiring to be a webtoon artist/author.
I am working on a post apocalyptic series in which the main character is a ~40 yr old asexual man.

I have noticed that we have little to no representation for asexual people so it's hard for me write and come up with his personality. Ofc i won't be using his sexuality as his personality but you get it. What I am tryna say.

So, I would be grateful if y'all help me with this. All you have to do is answer a few questions with yes/no/sometimes/anything. If you feel any question is uncomfortable you can skip it!

1) are you fine with your friends/mates/partners flirting with you (jokingly)? Like even if it doesn't sound platonic?

2) Do you watch romcoms with intimate scenes?

3) Are you fine with queer platonic relationships?

4) how close can your partner/friend/mates be with you?

5) is there any stereotype that is commonly associated with asexuals which is not true?
Aka what are the common misconceptions.

Yeah! That's it! If you wish you can also describe other things as well! I would like to read that too. i just wanted to know more about our community and build a board mind! Thanks for reading till here.

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Filtered the HER app by "asexual" for the hell of it and realized how doomed I am 🥹

I don't actually plan on using a dating app. Or if I do, not for a long while. But I live in a USA state with few queer people and I wanted to see how many were in my area.

Well.. barely any as I expected 😭. And quite literally NO results when I filtered by asexual LMAOOO.

Post is mostly a joke. I plan to move states anyways and I don't actually think I'm doomed. I just thought it was so fucking funny

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You can‘t tell me he ain‘t giving the Hardest Ace vibes
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Asexual boyfriend decided explore his sexual side

(CW sex stuff mentioned)

Hi, I’d really appreciate some advice about my situation. In short, my asexual boyfriend decided he wants to slowly explore his own sexuality, and we’re both trying to find ways to do that.

A bit of backstory — we met about a year and a half ago. Right at the beginning, he told me he’s asexual, he’s never had any sexual experience and didn’t plan to. On the other hand, he’s very into BDSM (just like me), and as a stone-top dominant he’s always been able to satisfy all my sexual and kinky needs. Sexual activities with toys or scenes where he touches my intimate areas don’t bother him — he even enjoys them, as long as he himself isn’t involved physically or using his intimate parts. Because of that, we’ve both been extremely happy in the relationship.

Recently something happened during our usual skin-on-skin cuddles (always non-sexual for us) — he got an erection and asked if I wanted to touch him there. I was shocked, but I did, and we had a few sexually intimate minutes until he became overstimulated and decided it was time for morning coffee (lol).

While we were drinking coffee, I brought up what happened because I wanted to know how he felt about it. He said it was surprisingly pleasant and stimulating, and he’d maybe like to slowly build some sexual intimacy from his side too — but really slowly.

My question is: do you have any ideas how to explore sexual intimacy from asexual side when you are non-sex repulsive asexual? (I don’t know how else to phrase it lol.)

Of course we communicate about this and we’re trying to figure it out together, but we both are clueless and don't know even in which way to think. 😭

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Hard time seeing the connection between love and sex

Maybe it's trauma based since I did experience unpleasant things against my will in that department when I was a child
But I just can't wrap my head around the fact that people have sex because they love each other. I always understood it for reasons of reproduction since babies don't grow on trees hahah yknow? And I do kinda try to get that people do it because it's supposed to feel good, even though I can't relate to that since i still find it gross. But it just feels wrong to think that you do it out of love? I mean if you love that person why the hell do you need/want to stick your genitals in them or need/want someone to stick into you, like what?? 😅

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saw this and thought of you lot
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