Trouver sa place dans la communauté LGBT

Hello tout le monde

Je voulais parler avec vous de la place de la communauté ace parmi la communautés LGBTQIA+.
Personnellement j'ai l'impression de ne pas y avoir ma place en tant que personne asexuelle, parce qu'il est encore difficile pour moi de considérer qu'il s'agit bel et bien d'une orientation sexuelle malgré l'absence de pratique sexuelle justement.

On parle beaucoup d'homo/bisexualité ou de transidentité mais assez peu d'asexualité. Ça donne le sentiment d'être invisibilisé, au sein de la société mais également de la communauté LGBT+

Est ce que vous aussi vous avez du mal à vous sentir appartenir à cette communauté ?

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This is confusing

I have no idea if I am even asexual but the more I read about people's experiences the more gross and disgusting it sounds. 😅 I don't have a high libido either, it's practically non-existent. I can't ask/tell anyone because they don't understand or they say "you'll meet someone someday" but what if I do and I hate it. How will I find someone that doesn't want to have sex?? And it is so confusing to me how it seems like people my age can't keep their hands off each other.....

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Please stop with the "Please stop with the "Please stop with the ..."" posts!

/s

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Yo, i just found out that this is how sexual attraction works ( or maybe i am dumb. Take this post as a grain of salt please, i might be the one who is misunderstanding the comment and it )
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I dont know if im asexual or just insecure

Hey, so 17F here! I was talking to some of my friends and realized all of them have a lot of sexual experience which...I dont have.

I used to have a very strong libido when I was 15 and I did a bunch of stuff (like pics) but never physical, and I feel guilty ever since bc it was with an older guy. So after that I feel little to none actual sexual attraction to men close to me...yeah I have a crush once in a while and I make sexual jokes about it, or I enjoy being called pretty or stuff like that, but im too scared to actually do anything. Also bc Im really insecure about my body.

This only gets worse when I get boyfriends...they always want to do soemething and I dont want to, I feel horrible but I genuinely dont feel the need to do anything sexual. Could this be me being asexual?

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Libido vs. Sex Drive

Libido vs. Sexual Attraction***

My mistake on the title.

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Hello.

I have recently seen a few comments where someone was saying that libido & sexual attraction are two different things.

Is there anyone here educated on this matter that could help break it down for me? I would have asked the last commentor I saw, but it was on an archived post.

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In the anime, James from Team Rocket (Pokemon) is asexual for sure
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am i asexual???

i've honestly never really thought about sex as a genuine thing before, mostly because ive had no sexual advances. recently i had someone comment on something sexual related to me very subtly, and i felt like literally crying. childish, i know, but i just felt so upset for no reason. i don't regard sex or masturbation as gross or disgusting, but i have no interest in it at all and the thought makes me panic and want to burst into tears.

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Accurate description
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I need to share this .-.

Hey, I have never posted on reddit before but now I need some support from people of the ace + aro community… I have been out and proud as an asexual biromantic person since I think about five years now. My first ever relationship ended partially because I found out I was asexual during that relationship (but mostly other reasons this one just stuck with me .-.) and I got over it and when I got over it i immediately got a crush again (lucky me) and to cut a long story short I confessed my crush to this person and they were flattered but didn't think we would work out because you know … me being ace and all…. I think I got over that now. But now my best friend got a boyfriend. And I am super happy for her! But there is some part of me that starts to think again that I will never find someone because my asexuality will always be a problem. I know it's possible but I just feel a little hopeless right now and wanted to share this instead of botteling it up again.

thank you for reading <3

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I saw this line up of knights on Wplace and I added an ace knight

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My godfather thought I was going to get a boyfriend after I came out to him

He really thought I was going to find a boyfriend, but I explained to him that I was aroace and I explained what it was and I also said that I wasn't interested in dating, and he understood well, he's like a father to me.

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What more lgbt+ identities should include gender identity and sexual orientation to make my story more accurate /inclusive

So far I have a lesbian character and a bisexual character. What others could I add? It can be a gender indentify or sexual orientation. My characters are more than their sexuality they do have personalities, I just don't want to spoil too much but the lgbt part is integral to the story because it's a romance. One is an ambitious artist who has big dreams the other is a shy musician who doesn't really have much hope for the future. Originally I had something like 30 characters but it's been cut back to two but I think now I need to add more characters again.

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What more lgbt+ identities should include gender identity and sexual orientation to make my story more accurate /inclusive

So far I have a lesbian character and a bisexual character. What others could I add? It can be a gender indentify or sexual orientation. My characters are more than their sexuality they do have personalities, I just don't want to spoil too much but the lgbt part is integral to the story because it's a romance. One is an ambitious artist who has big dreams the other is a shy musician who doesn't really have much hope for the future. Originally I had something like 30 characters but it's been cut back to two but I think now I need to add more characters again.

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Dealing with straight coworkers who are obsessed with sex and dating

I'm making a post here because I don't really know where to write this otherwise, really sorry if that's not relevant.

I've started working in a new place a few months ago and my closest coworkers are all women like me except for one guy and most of us are also in our 20's. Four of my coworkers are really, really obsessed with the topic of dating and romantic relationships. Two of them are mostly fine about it, like they're regularly mentioning dating apps and boyfriends but they're not overbearing about it either when I'm chatting with them one-on-one. The other two are really a pain about it though.

The first coworker is always badmouthing her former boyfriend and his new girlfriend, complaining about men but also how she can't live without them, gossiping about the men who work near us, sharing plans for her dream wedding, etc. She's also a huge fan of Taylor Swift, romantic shows like The Summer I Turned Pretty and romance books. Basically the kind of popculture stuff that I couldn't care less about. It's really hard to find something to talk about with her. Recently she has been acting kind of cold towards me and is avoiding to do work tasks with me when she can. So I'm afraid that she interpreted my indifference for her topics of discussion with me being rude towards her.

The other coworker isn't just annoying with the dating topic, she's straight-up obsessed with sex. She makes sexual innuendos almost all the time and is always bringing up topics related to sex, especially to our only male coworker. The problem is that she has branded me and another female coworker as "weird" and "puritanical" because we have shown that it makes us uncomfortable. My female coworker who is also uncomfortable about that is a very religious young woman and is now being treated as the "black sheep" of our workplace because she refuses to play along. Almost everyone talks about her behind her back and criticizes her.

My sex-obsessed coworker has said that I'm too "shy" and I need to "loosen up" with her help. She has this groupchat and I never posted anything in it because the only topic of discussion is just dating guys.

I'm afraid I'm going to be the next one to be treated like an outcast unless I try to get a boyfriend to have something to talk about with them or I participate in the sexual convos. I'd hate to have to do that but I also don't want to be excluded. I really don't know what to do...

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Having sex for the first time made me realize I'm ace

Hello everyone, I'll be using a throwaway for this as my irls know my main.

I recently had my first time at the ripe age of 21. It had always been on my bucketlist, in fact I yearned for it for quite some time. The person I was with was amazing, they knew it was my first, they were guiding, patient and chill about it. I honestly couldn't have asked for a better partner. Despite this, I felt barely anything, no connection, no sexual fulfillment. It didn't turn me on. I enjoyed pleasuring them, but not so much receiving. Seeing what I did made them happy made me happy, but it didn't turn me on.

Now I do masturbate, quite often in fact. So I thought sex would be even better. It really wasn't. I had to focus on so many things, remembering to breathe, trying to find a comfortable position, hands not reaching places properly etc, that I actually ended up not being able to focus on the physical sensation.

We tried again in the morning, but it didn't really go anywhere.

I've always had this in the back of my mind, but given I was virgin I didn't want to make any assumptions. However this experience really solidified it all. I don't like sex. It was physically exhausting, tiring and dare I say it quite boring and lacklustre. It felt like a chore and quite repetitive.

What's more, ever since this happened, I feel my sex-drive and over-all libido drastically declining. I find this quite intriguing.

Despite this my libido remain relatively high at the moment, and I enjoy doing it on my own, but when I was with a partner, it was exceedingly dull and I found no interest in the act, so I feel torn on the matter. I still believe this qualifies me as asexual, though I'd like to hear your opinions on this matter as well, have any of you been in a similar experience? Do you share these feelings?

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sending much love to the person that has listens to We’ll Never Have Sex 144 times this week 😭💔
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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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