Does anyone go through different phases of alternating between high and low libido?

It’s been like this for me since middle school. Sometimes I can go a while without having sexual urges, or if I do have any, they’re relatively low and I’m able to resist them. Sometimes they’re unusually high and I can’t resist the urge to look at porn and/or jerk off, no matter what I do. It frustrates me to no end, because I have no intention of dating or having sex, and I’d be happy if I never felt these urges ever again. Anyone else relate?

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Do asexual people have crushes?

Like when you look at someone who matches your interests do you get a feeling of "i have to be with them" also a second question on top of that do you all ever feel the need to have physical touch like i don't mean simply "oh hugs are warm and nice" i mean like "if i don't get someone close to me to stick to me like glue I'm gonna collapse" sorry if these questions sound dumb I'm genuinely curious because i haven't met any asexual person before (or maybe i have but due to the certain phobias where I live I didn't know they were asexual) anyway genuinely curious about this and got other questions to.

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Please stop with the "how can people..." and "do people actually enjoy..." posts!

I wonder whether the admins here can clamp down on the endless stream of posts from people who post stuff like this? Does this sub really just exist to assure people that lots of people do, indeed, enjoy a variety of sexual acts? Are these people really so naive that they aren't aware of human sexual behaviour? Do we really need yet another thread in which we have a lot of people saying, "Yeah, that's pretty normal," and a lot of other people saying, "Ew, gross!"

I'm sex averse, myself, but I don't feel the need to go around making gagging noises because other people like sex.

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Can aro and aro-ace people have a dating relationship despite not feeling romantic attraction towards another person?



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Me irl
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How Do You Define Asexuality?

My partner and I are having a disagreement about what asexuality is.



In his view it is “not being horny.”



In my view it is “lacking sexual attraction to others.” You can still feel horny and get urges, you just don’t feel the attraction to another.


(And I do know it’s kinda weird we’re in a relationship, it kinda just happened 😅)

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Are there statistics on how common the various kinds of asexuality are?

the title, I'm really curious about it, I have only met a few aces in my life (I'm one of them)! All I know is that there's just a small percentage of the global population overall that is asexual in some way, not what kind of ace they are.

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Do you guys have kinks?

Being asexual, it might sound strange, but I mean those who enjoy watching it or get aroused thinking about it. I haven't seen many here who have one, and that makes me feel a bit like an alien 😅

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I hate post like this 🙄 you cannot turn acesexual
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Thoughts on this?
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Please stop with the "Please stop with the ..." posts!

Every day I come on here and the post that crosses my front page is just complaining about some other kind of post! What kind of posts to people actually want to see here? It seems like nothing is acceptable.

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Trouver sa place dans la communauté LGBT

Hello tout le monde

Je voulais parler avec vous de la place de la communauté ace parmi la communautés LGBTQIA+.
Personnellement j'ai l'impression de ne pas y avoir ma place en tant que personne asexuelle, parce qu'il est encore difficile pour moi de considérer qu'il s'agit bel et bien d'une orientation sexuelle malgré l'absence de pratique sexuelle justement.

On parle beaucoup d'homo/bisexualité ou de transidentité mais assez peu d'asexualité. Ça donne le sentiment d'être invisibilisé, au sein de la société mais également de la communauté LGBT+

Est ce que vous aussi vous avez du mal à vous sentir appartenir à cette communauté ?

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This is confusing

I have no idea if I am even asexual but the more I read about people's experiences the more gross and disgusting it sounds. 😅 I don't have a high libido either, it's practically non-existent. I can't ask/tell anyone because they don't understand or they say "you'll meet someone someday" but what if I do and I hate it. How will I find someone that doesn't want to have sex?? And it is so confusing to me how it seems like people my age can't keep their hands off each other.....

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Please stop with the "Please stop with the "Please stop with the ..."" posts!

/s

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Yo, i just found out that this is how sexual attraction works ( or maybe i am dumb. Take this post as a grain of salt please, i might be the one who is misunderstanding the comment and it )
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I dont know if im asexual or just insecure

Hey, so 17F here! I was talking to some of my friends and realized all of them have a lot of sexual experience which...I dont have.

I used to have a very strong libido when I was 15 and I did a bunch of stuff (like pics) but never physical, and I feel guilty ever since bc it was with an older guy. So after that I feel little to none actual sexual attraction to men close to me...yeah I have a crush once in a while and I make sexual jokes about it, or I enjoy being called pretty or stuff like that, but im too scared to actually do anything. Also bc Im really insecure about my body.

This only gets worse when I get boyfriends...they always want to do soemething and I dont want to, I feel horrible but I genuinely dont feel the need to do anything sexual. Could this be me being asexual?

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Libido vs. Sex Drive

Libido vs. Sexual Attraction***

My mistake on the title.

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Hello.

I have recently seen a few comments where someone was saying that libido & sexual attraction are two different things.

Is there anyone here educated on this matter that could help break it down for me? I would have asked the last commentor I saw, but it was on an archived post.

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