Just came out to my mom but she said it's because I'm "sexually immature"

I'm 19 and I just told my mom. She told me that it's because I'm as mature as a 12 year old sexually and she said that I shouldn't put a label on myself that easily (she knows I hate labels)
Now I'm doubting my entire identity and I'm too embarrassed to even look at her :/

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Appreciation of ace fiction by my sister
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Have you ever shared a bed with someone non-sexually?





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I'm so tired of sex

I'm mostly sex neutral but I do get sex averse sometimes. I'm tired of the constant sexualisation all over the internet and it's just so fucking disgusting to me I'm sorry. I hate the details of how sex works and how u have to be naked and it just looks and feels so terrible. Even while I was drunk outta my mind i hated it :/

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Which form of attraction is most apparent for you? Sensual, aesthetic, or intellectual?



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I’m 25 and lately I’ve been wondering if I might be asexual. How did you guys figure it out?

I’ve only been in one relationship in my life, and half of it was long-distance. There was never any sexual part to it at all.

I love romance I’m totally fine with intimacy like hugs, kisses, closeness, all of that. But when it comes to actual sexual interest, it’s literally zero. I don’t feel disgusted or anything, I just… don’t care about it. Like it’s not something I seek or think about

Maybe part of it is that I’m trans, and I’ve already decided I don’t want any relationship until I finish my medical transition. But even thinking after that, I’m not sure if this feeling will change. I don’t have fear or trauma around sex, but I also have no desire for it.

I don’t really know how to describe it better has anyone else felt this way?

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Help

Hi. I came out to my parents about being asexual this year. My mom refuses to believe me, saying how can I know when I’ve never had sex. How can I tell her I’d prefer support not nonsense ?

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ik ik it’s Tarantino but I do agree with him on this
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Admit it, you want her socks
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I think there are way more asexuals then what google says

Im asexual and im thinking here there’s no ways there aren’t more then 1% or 5% of people who are on the spectrum like no way man there has to be way more

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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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I want love
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Thinking of coming out

So for context I am 15 and turn 16 in less than half a year. My parents are conservative and a little bit queerphobic and antiLGBTQ+ but this mostly stems from strong religious belief(The church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) I share their religious belief and the church itself is surprisingly accepting of people of all sexualities(Do some research and come to your own conclusions but please don't argue with me about it[If you do decide to research then make sure to use the correct sources 😁\]) although does have some doctrine that some people interpret as such and such LGBTQ+ thing is bad, my parents included, they don't actively hate LGBTQ+ people and they tried to be supportive of my nonbinary sibling(until they started being a jerk) but my church doesn't have ANY doctrine about asexuality whatsoever so I'm honestly not sure how they would react and don't know if I should. Sorry for the unnecessarily long message. TIA!!!!!

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Heard rumors

Apparently some people just see attractive people and think; I would like to bang that (eventually, if not immediately). Is this true??? Or like if its a celeb theyll fantasize about it? <-- Im not sure about this one. Is this real?

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My partner doesn’t want intimacy “ace mode”

Throwaway account as my partner knows my main and I don’t wanna make them feel uncomfortable.

My partner is trans masc and non binary, this is my first relationship with someone who’s trans and NB as well as my first relationship I feel genuinely safe and comfortable in, I’m doing my damn hardest to learn about it and support them.

Typically our lives are electric, good times had in the bedroom and endless cuddles/kisses, but lately things have been kinda quiet the last few weeks on that front, not a problem - while I have a high drive and can easily out run my partner on the sexual side of things I’m fine sorting myself out. But i have questioned it as it’s not like them to not initiate cuddles.

They told me cuddles are making them feel weird at the moment, like it’s super intimate and it’s sending uncomfortable feelings down their spine, same with sex mentally they want to but physically they’re just not feeling it. They called it their “ace mode” to them cuddles is an aftercare thing. (Even tho we cuddle outside of sex anyway especially before sleeping)

They’ve assured me it’s not me, that mentally they want me and want to pleasure me but their body gets the ick at the idea of performing those actions? They’ve also assured me it’s temporary

I’m not sure how to feel about it, I get it, I think but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t triggering abandonment issues of mine as well as other things.

I’d appreciate someone else’s thoughts on this/ just an ear so I can vent


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First time “feeling” like this.

Hello all,

I’m hoping this is okay (first time poster). I didn’t feel comfortable posting this on my main Reddit account so I made this one to log into when needed.

Anyway, I’m not sure how to process what I’m feeling. I’ve been friends with a woman I’ll refer to as “H” for her. We have been friends for many years now. I know I am asexual. I won’t share “H”s sexuality, as that feels disrespectful to share information that she obviously cannot consent to me sharing. I will share thought that we are both females and near the same age as each other.

I’m unsure of what I’m feeling towards her though. Being asexual I’ve never felt genuine romantic or sexual attraction towards someone to know what it feels like. I’m not sure I’m smart enough for the “you just know” recognition, like I’m sure everyone has heard said before. What i have noticed these last few months is that I just always want to be with her. I maintain the same level of stress and anxiety whether I’m with her or not, but when I am around her life feels much easier to mentally cope with. When I’m not around her though I am constantly worried about her. I’m not worried about my place in her life or how she feels about me. I just worry about if she’s doing okay, if she’s safe, if she’s taking care of herself, etc.. I think I have this longing feeling for some kind of contact with her that I never have with others, but not in a NSFW way. Sometimes I think I just want to hold her or be held by her, maybe some light tickles like on our backs or arms, a kiss on the cheek or forehead at the most. Prior to these random feelings, I’ve never liked the idea of participating in any kind of “relationship” activities of the sorts.

It’s unlikely that I would ever confess these feelings to her. I can imagine how uncomfortable I would be if a friend confessed that they might have feelings for me that go beyond a normal friendship. I also would not want to cut contact either because she is my best friend. I’m afraid though. I’m afraid that one day I’ll ruin the best friendship I’ve ever had for feelings I don’t even understand. I’m also afraid that I feel like I suddenly don’t know myself. It took so long to understand and accept the fact that I was asexual. Being that different felt broken, but then it became a new type of comfort and felt like a bunch of weight was off my shoulders. I also feel like I’m too old to be having these school girl type crushes. It feels silly but normal and scary all at once.

Have others gone through a similar situation? For those who didn’t pursue further, was it easy to let those feelings fizzle out? Did you find out more about yourself?

Even if no one has any advice, it was nice to get this off my chest. Thanks in advance to whoever takes the time to read this.

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Idk what title to put…i am running out of ideas
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I love the asexual community

I love you guys. You make me feel okay. I get so excited when I find out someone is also asexual. I feel like theres an understanding that I can have with you guys that I can’t with allos… that’s nothing against allos, I just think that I feel a camaraderie with a fellow ace in a certain way. And that feeling is something that really brings me joy. Thank you all.

Sorry if this is weird.. Im feeling heartfelt

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What do you think about kissing?
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What's the closest, most intimate term you're willing to call someone without leaning towards the "twin flame" or "soulmate" category?



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How do you feel about the daily “is my partner ace?” posts?

Interested in what other people’s take on this is. It’s not one or two posts, it’s all the time!

I think people ask with the best intentions, but it comes from a place of entitlement and allo privilege. I don’t think we need to hear how miserable a fellow ace is making their partner by not putting out. Our community really lacks in pride, and stuff like this just contributes to that. Also hate that there are asexuals who feel they have to partake in sexual activity just to keep their partner happy. I have so much love and empathy for our community, this should be a safe space. Kinda feels like a bit of an invasion.

What’s your take?

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