I messed up as a parent

Driving home after dinner as a family, somehow my wife mentioned eventual grandchildren. After my 9 yo reacted, my 12 yo said he didn't think about children and thinks he's asexual. I can't explain all the reasons why, but my wife and I were ultimately dismissive with comments like "you're young to be thinking about sex and children" "you don't need to label yourself" and more.

Clearly we didn't respond in a healthy manner, but what do we need to do next?

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I hate being called hot XD
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Guys!! It’s possible to find asexuals that are your type!

I recently met someone! And then soon we got really close and started dating and he said he was asexual!! And I honestly couldn’t be happier! Like I found someone who understands what I feel and I don’t need to make my self agree with things I don’t agree with!!!
Fellow asexuals it is possible! ♾️

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Almost 2026 and still waiting for people to agree on what sexual attraction exactly is

Lots of mixed opinion on what it is exactly so ya.

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For all my alloromantics out there
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damn okay.
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The amount of invasive questions and disregard for folks on the ace spectrum is crazy

I just wanted to vent about this. Every time I'm open about my sexuality, it seems like people feel the need to have free reign to ask deeply personal and invasive questions about what it looks like--or disregard my identity completely. It's so frustrating to me. Especially because I have friends in my life that do this too. I can tell they don't "believe me." I hate it.

Questions like
-Well, do you enjoy sex?
-How can you be asexual if you have sex?
-You know normal people dont want to hook up with everyone they see either, right?

On and on. I just want to fire back with "well, how do you know you're straight? How do you know you're gay?"

Like, you just know. You figure it out. I've spent years agonizing that I felt like a piece of me was missing because I didnt experience the same sexual attraction everyone else does. I hate being dog piled and dismissed even by members of a community that are supposed to accept non-traditional sexualities.

That's all. Just wanted to vent.

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Sex and Sexuality

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Hi there,

Im looking to get more participants for my groups and I research study. We’re conducting our research study on if sexual identity has an influence on sexual pleasures. The more participants the better- would highly appreciate the participation!

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I just came out. So relieved.

I had a total meltdown post therapy with my brother (we live together). Explained that I loved my bf but didnt care about sex and didnt know what to do. My brother was entirely calm and told me ' I feel the exact same way'

I thought i was insane for feeling like sex was just a side. Turns out my brother felt the same way this whole time.

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I feel ashamed of my desire for only cuddling and not sex


I (37M) separated from my partner (35M) of nine years a few months ago.

Reflecting on the relationship and my own feelings since separating, it has become clear to me that I am asexual.

After dipping my toe back into the dating pool for the first time this week, I raised my lack of interest in sex with my therapist. She started to “reassure” me that my interest in sex would return as I heal from the separation, find a new partner, etc.

I had to clarify that there isn’t anything to “return”. Sex has always been something I’ve done because it was the expectation, not because I ever wanted it.

I’ve known that about myself for a while. What I’m realizing now, however, is that I still have physical desires.

I want to cuddle. I want to kiss. I want to touch. I want skin contact. I want to rest my head on someone’s lap and feel his hands running through my hair.

I feel embarrassed by this. These feel like the kinds of things a child wants, not a gay man pushing 40.

How do you handle the fact that you don’t have “grown up” desires?

How do you communicate this to other people without feeling embarrassed?

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hiii is this normal, and asexuals actually feel like this?
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Here is my Touch Chart
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Petah I'm absolutely clueless
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My best friend told me I have "An advantage to talking to girls because I'm ace" and it's making me angry and confused

A few months back I came out to my best friend, who is as straight as a flag pole, that I'm ace. He did ask a bunch of questions because I've shown to like girls, have libido and have kinks. I explained to him that I'm only romantically interested in girls and that libido is just the biological process that everybody has. My kinks: I'm a gray ace so some things bring forth that.

Anyway, he is generally supportive but I believe he does not fully grasp what Ace means because a few months ago he told me "Bro, you have such an advantage in talking to girls, because if you make it clear that you are ace they won't automatically assume you're trying to fuck them and be on drop guard"

And this statement is like. I don't know it makes some sense from a purely logical perspective but it makes me angry for some reason. It's like he's saying "As an Ace you can be straight better" and sure I'm romantically straight, but most of my conversations with women are very asexual in nature. And if I do I'm usually quite anxious to share that I'm ace because of my social anxiety, but at the same time I'm worried people are going to think I'm just another straight guy wanting just to have sex, which I am not.

Or worse: I end up thinking "I hope they don't get feelings for me "Romantic or Sexual" because then I would have to deal with that.

Before anyone asks: I am in therapy about my anxiety and even on meds about it.

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PLEASE can we not start another round of the touch chart?

Having lived through the first round, I still don't need to know that much about your preferences for your junk touch.

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Calm down bro i asexual

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[OC] Sometimes that's all you need to hear

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