is this a weird question or not?
am i the only asexual that kinda enjoys adult content, i dont mean the irl stuff (cause thats too much for me). Im able to handle nsfw content in moderate amount but somtimes its too much for me and i dont let it consume by brain or head. idk if its just me. cause i dont really feel sexual attraction when viewing such content.
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am i the only asexual that kinda enjoys adult content, i dont mean the irl stuff (cause thats too much for me). Im able to handle nsfw content in moderate amount but somtimes its too much for me and i dont let it consume by brain or head. idk if its just me. cause i dont really feel sexual attraction when viewing such content.
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weird coming out story
commented this in another post earlier, thought i'd share it here as well because it left an impression on me.
i used to play this one online game and i met a dude there. we met in this one groupchat function to chat. and we all hit off very well. this one guy started to private message me because i was the only one who didn't have discord and he claimed he didn't want me being left out. i did befriend the others but i got the closest to him and another guy (who wasn't weird plus he was attached). initially he assumed i was a guy but after talking more he found out i'm a girl and we got along well. from there we played together often, he'd help me level up because i'd quite recently restarted on a new character at that point. then i noticed he seemed interested in me, he mentioned he liked my personality and started joking about meeting me someday and marrying me and asked for my number multiple times. he actually wanted discord but that was a no from me. i told him not now because we only knew each other in-game for a couple of months, plus giving numbers out to strangers is weird.
eventually i told him i'm asexual and his response was, asexuals can date. i didn't tell him i was aromantic too, because i am actually cupio. so what i did was tell him that's true, and asked him if that would be a problem for him. then he started getting all defensive saying my sexuality isn't his business, why am i telling him, he never asked, it's totally irrelevant, etc. basically he was acting like he hadn't been hitting on me and that me sharing my sexuality was unsolicited. he blocked me after and we never talked again. very confusing experience.
for a long time after i felt like maybe it was my fault, maybe he really didn't need to know that, maybe i was jumping the gun for bringing it up in the first place. maybe talking about sex even in this way was being inappropriate. but was i really the one being weird when he'd talk about marrying??
it took a long time before i stopped blaming myself and decided online men can be so weird. he wasn't the only weirdo i'd met via games so. i would think he only befriended me to hit, but it was kind of nonsensical because we lived continents apart plus he never took it hard when i rejected giving my number. he'd just laugh it off and then try again days later. maybe he was hoping to sext idk. well whatever it is i hope you're happy out there, go fk yourself, Tim.
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commented this in another post earlier, thought i'd share it here as well because it left an impression on me.
i used to play this one online game and i met a dude there. we met in this one groupchat function to chat. and we all hit off very well. this one guy started to private message me because i was the only one who didn't have discord and he claimed he didn't want me being left out. i did befriend the others but i got the closest to him and another guy (who wasn't weird plus he was attached). initially he assumed i was a guy but after talking more he found out i'm a girl and we got along well. from there we played together often, he'd help me level up because i'd quite recently restarted on a new character at that point. then i noticed he seemed interested in me, he mentioned he liked my personality and started joking about meeting me someday and marrying me and asked for my number multiple times. he actually wanted discord but that was a no from me. i told him not now because we only knew each other in-game for a couple of months, plus giving numbers out to strangers is weird.
eventually i told him i'm asexual and his response was, asexuals can date. i didn't tell him i was aromantic too, because i am actually cupio. so what i did was tell him that's true, and asked him if that would be a problem for him. then he started getting all defensive saying my sexuality isn't his business, why am i telling him, he never asked, it's totally irrelevant, etc. basically he was acting like he hadn't been hitting on me and that me sharing my sexuality was unsolicited. he blocked me after and we never talked again. very confusing experience.
for a long time after i felt like maybe it was my fault, maybe he really didn't need to know that, maybe i was jumping the gun for bringing it up in the first place. maybe talking about sex even in this way was being inappropriate. but was i really the one being weird when he'd talk about marrying??
it took a long time before i stopped blaming myself and decided online men can be so weird. he wasn't the only weirdo i'd met via games so. i would think he only befriended me to hit, but it was kind of nonsensical because we lived continents apart plus he never took it hard when i rejected giving my number. he'd just laugh it off and then try again days later. maybe he was hoping to sext idk. well whatever it is i hope you're happy out there, go fk yourself, Tim.
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My asexuality is ruining my love life
Yesterday for the second time this year, the girl I was dating broke things off citing a lack of physical touch/intimacy (in mild forms even) saying it was a turn off. And I completely expected it.
This happened before mid this year. I am really fed up. I have no interest in physical touch/intimacy at all, and it’s taking a serious toll on my relationships. HELP.
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Yesterday for the second time this year, the girl I was dating broke things off citing a lack of physical touch/intimacy (in mild forms even) saying it was a turn off. And I completely expected it.
This happened before mid this year. I am really fed up. I have no interest in physical touch/intimacy at all, and it’s taking a serious toll on my relationships. HELP.
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I wish I wasn’t asexual.
If my words are jumbled up I’m sorry. I don’t know how to make this neat as possible without looking like a mess.
I’m sorry this is long.
I’m 18F and been together with my bf for a year and a half and recently me and him broke and it was because of my asexuality. He said that he can’t live without “it” if you know what I mean and I understood but it sucked. I had told from the start that I was asexual and he was ok with it at first but at the end he realised he wasn’t.
But tbh I knew that one day he would realise he couldn’t live without it and one day we would end. I did hope I would be wrong and we could be together forever but I was delusional. We had planned our future because we had similar plans for the future and everything.
3 months before we broke up I started realizing it more that it won’t work out I just had this feeling idk how to explain it I just knew it would happen just not sure when. I had been preparing myself mentally for when it would happen. And when the day came it was like any other just few hours before it happened we were laughing and playing Minecraft
Not realizing what was about to come and then it happened.
Then when we were just talking told me he can’t live without it. we talked about it a bit and then decided to end it. I wasnt crying It just was this deep feeling I couldn’t grasp I just felt nothing even the next day I felt nothing just emptiness tho I did start to realise how much I have of him, his gifts, the pictures the memories. He was my first actual bf and he showed me how it’s to be loved.
It feels strange not being able to cry about it I can only feel the emptiness the realization I’m not with him anymore. And that now I’m just by myself.
Idk how I’ll continue with life it feels strange I feel like I won’t ever find anyone who’s asexual and would actually love me, all the parts of me even the strange and weirds ones as well.
I always have felt like I’m difficult to love and that I have a strange personality and that I have so much history that not many could handle.
I just want to be loved for me and not for my body.
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If my words are jumbled up I’m sorry. I don’t know how to make this neat as possible without looking like a mess.
I’m sorry this is long.
I’m 18F and been together with my bf for a year and a half and recently me and him broke and it was because of my asexuality. He said that he can’t live without “it” if you know what I mean and I understood but it sucked. I had told from the start that I was asexual and he was ok with it at first but at the end he realised he wasn’t.
But tbh I knew that one day he would realise he couldn’t live without it and one day we would end. I did hope I would be wrong and we could be together forever but I was delusional. We had planned our future because we had similar plans for the future and everything.
3 months before we broke up I started realizing it more that it won’t work out I just had this feeling idk how to explain it I just knew it would happen just not sure when. I had been preparing myself mentally for when it would happen. And when the day came it was like any other just few hours before it happened we were laughing and playing Minecraft
Not realizing what was about to come and then it happened.
Then when we were just talking told me he can’t live without it. we talked about it a bit and then decided to end it. I wasnt crying It just was this deep feeling I couldn’t grasp I just felt nothing even the next day I felt nothing just emptiness tho I did start to realise how much I have of him, his gifts, the pictures the memories. He was my first actual bf and he showed me how it’s to be loved.
It feels strange not being able to cry about it I can only feel the emptiness the realization I’m not with him anymore. And that now I’m just by myself.
Idk how I’ll continue with life it feels strange I feel like I won’t ever find anyone who’s asexual and would actually love me, all the parts of me even the strange and weirds ones as well.
I always have felt like I’m difficult to love and that I have a strange personality and that I have so much history that not many could handle.
I just want to be loved for me and not for my body.
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Woo! i think
Just told my mom about me being aroace. I just showed her the google definition of aroace and said theres a whole group of people like me. She said oooh understood. She already knew i wasnt interested in dating and getting married and stuff like typical people. Im also sexually repulsed. So now she has a term for it. She also acknowledged that we are part of the lgbtq community. That was the scariest part for me due to all the stigma surrounding the community and us being asians lol. Also since intimacy stuff is kinda taboo in asian communities/my household, i feel like i dodged a bullet by being aroace. Like i can stay the innocent daughter to my parents instead of the sexually deviant child exploring intimacy and being awkward about all that.
Im also sapphic tho, but i did not tell her that lol. I feel like coming out as aroace is so much easier than admitting i fancy girls as well. I am Terrified to admit that and i dont want to at all. Since i wont be acting on my sapphic urges in the near future i wont bother coming out as sapphic to her. Aroace will be my identity as far as she is concerned
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Just told my mom about me being aroace. I just showed her the google definition of aroace and said theres a whole group of people like me. She said oooh understood. She already knew i wasnt interested in dating and getting married and stuff like typical people. Im also sexually repulsed. So now she has a term for it. She also acknowledged that we are part of the lgbtq community. That was the scariest part for me due to all the stigma surrounding the community and us being asians lol. Also since intimacy stuff is kinda taboo in asian communities/my household, i feel like i dodged a bullet by being aroace. Like i can stay the innocent daughter to my parents instead of the sexually deviant child exploring intimacy and being awkward about all that.
Im also sapphic tho, but i did not tell her that lol. I feel like coming out as aroace is so much easier than admitting i fancy girls as well. I am Terrified to admit that and i dont want to at all. Since i wont be acting on my sapphic urges in the near future i wont bother coming out as sapphic to her. Aroace will be my identity as far as she is concerned
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So basically, my friend added these songs to our group playlist. And they're so explicit, I freaking hate it. And I had to listen to this in the middle of class, and I couldn't skip the songs and guess what. She has this thing on where she can't listen to anything explicit.
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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As much as I love being single and asexual and I do… I wish I could find me an Asexual Butch lesbian cis woman who is all I can’t do and I do what I can do.
It feels incredibly sad that any time I find a Cis Butch Lesbian woman it is also sex, sex, sex, oh look strap on, strap on, STRAP ON…
Why can’t there be a Cis Asexual Butch Lesbian Woman opposite of my Cis Asexual Grunge Tomboy Lesbian Woman ass.
They do what I can’t.
I do what I can.
We cuddle cuddles that aren’t the spooning ones.
We kiss long as don’t touch my face.
🥺
Is my outdated ass doomed?
Not to mention the Ace Phobia in other LGBTQIA+ subreddits that could in any way pertain to us seeing as I’m a lesbian too as well as Asexual.
Also don’t get me started on others perpetual need to jam it down their throats that it can only be trauma and fear reasons as to why no sex. They rather choke to death on there perceived notions than change their thoughts, beliefs and opinions by stepping out of their pure unadulterated sexual box.
How about I just don’t want to. Or better yet my face goes red and chapped like it is winter. “Did you use a bad concealer on your zits?” Shut up on that I say. So no. I just don’t want to. That is the reason.
Ask yourself, “Do I do everything and do I have to? No?”
…and you don’t demand others do as such when you don’t. If you don’t do everything and don’t have to; then neither do others.
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It feels incredibly sad that any time I find a Cis Butch Lesbian woman it is also sex, sex, sex, oh look strap on, strap on, STRAP ON…
Why can’t there be a Cis Asexual Butch Lesbian Woman opposite of my Cis Asexual Grunge Tomboy Lesbian Woman ass.
They do what I can’t.
I do what I can.
We cuddle cuddles that aren’t the spooning ones.
We kiss long as don’t touch my face.
🥺
Is my outdated ass doomed?
Not to mention the Ace Phobia in other LGBTQIA+ subreddits that could in any way pertain to us seeing as I’m a lesbian too as well as Asexual.
Also don’t get me started on others perpetual need to jam it down their throats that it can only be trauma and fear reasons as to why no sex. They rather choke to death on there perceived notions than change their thoughts, beliefs and opinions by stepping out of their pure unadulterated sexual box.
How about I just don’t want to. Or better yet my face goes red and chapped like it is winter. “Did you use a bad concealer on your zits?” Shut up on that I say. So no. I just don’t want to. That is the reason.
Ask yourself, “Do I do everything and do I have to? No?”
…and you don’t demand others do as such when you don’t. If you don’t do everything and don’t have to; then neither do others.
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