28 M - So Happy This Is A Real Thing!
28 M here who’s always been single & never in a relationship his whole life. I recently came across this forum and I’m so happy that being Asexual is a thing - I’ve been this way my whole life and never even knew the term Asexual or that such a thing exists, such a community and way of being exists. I never knew to label myself as an Asexual and after decades of being ridicule, I’m so glad I can confidently do so now!
I am attracted to women, I am an hetereoromantic ace. But I just feel that there are so many more purer and thoughtful and emotionally-available ways of displaying affection and love for another person. I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way and yeah, happy to finally find out there are others who think the same way I do!
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28 M here who’s always been single & never in a relationship his whole life. I recently came across this forum and I’m so happy that being Asexual is a thing - I’ve been this way my whole life and never even knew the term Asexual or that such a thing exists, such a community and way of being exists. I never knew to label myself as an Asexual and after decades of being ridicule, I’m so glad I can confidently do so now!
I am attracted to women, I am an hetereoromantic ace. But I just feel that there are so many more purer and thoughtful and emotionally-available ways of displaying affection and love for another person. I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way and yeah, happy to finally find out there are others who think the same way I do!
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is dating hard as an asexual?
pretty much the title, i'm a straight man and i would love a relationship in the future but my brain keeps telling me it's not possible as i'm a sex repulsed asexual and no woman would like that.
quite negative i know, but is it easy to find an asexual partner?
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pretty much the title, i'm a straight man and i would love a relationship in the future but my brain keeps telling me it's not possible as i'm a sex repulsed asexual and no woman would like that.
quite negative i know, but is it easy to find an asexual partner?
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Questioning myself
I am currently questioning myself
And I would like some help from those who are more knowledgeable on the subject than me
It’s been a while
Since I had a relationship
And I thought after all this time
I would find the urge to return to that again
But no nothing i feel happy and content by myself with my cats
So I’m back to questioning, if it’s aromanticism or just a midlife crisis
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I am currently questioning myself
And I would like some help from those who are more knowledgeable on the subject than me
It’s been a while
Since I had a relationship
And I thought after all this time
I would find the urge to return to that again
But no nothing i feel happy and content by myself with my cats
So I’m back to questioning, if it’s aromanticism or just a midlife crisis
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Am I asexual?
Hi everyone! This post is probably going to be abit TMI but I’m getting in over my head questioning my sexuality, so please be nice, if you’re not going to just don’t reply to this :) I’m 17f and have been openly bisexual since I was 13. I have friends who either have had sex/sexual activity or do want it to happen, every time we are all together, the topic of sex gets brought up. Every time I get uncomfortable, don’t really talk and try to change the subject then they make fun of me for ‘not getting any’ (I havnt had a partner for over two years and have only kissed someone) it’s became a joke that I’ve never done anything sexual and is ‘too innocent’ I have no clue what to say so I just say that I don’t want to do anything like that. Which is true; I have no intention of doing anything sexual with anyone and I can’t imagine myself ever doing that. However, I have read smut before (2020 Wattpad phase 😭) and I’m not phased by sex scenes in movie or tv shows, I’ve just never thought of myself doing it. I’m really overthinking this so I would just like some nice advise please, I’m sorry this is so long, thank you for reading ☺️
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Hi everyone! This post is probably going to be abit TMI but I’m getting in over my head questioning my sexuality, so please be nice, if you’re not going to just don’t reply to this :) I’m 17f and have been openly bisexual since I was 13. I have friends who either have had sex/sexual activity or do want it to happen, every time we are all together, the topic of sex gets brought up. Every time I get uncomfortable, don’t really talk and try to change the subject then they make fun of me for ‘not getting any’ (I havnt had a partner for over two years and have only kissed someone) it’s became a joke that I’ve never done anything sexual and is ‘too innocent’ I have no clue what to say so I just say that I don’t want to do anything like that. Which is true; I have no intention of doing anything sexual with anyone and I can’t imagine myself ever doing that. However, I have read smut before (2020 Wattpad phase 😭) and I’m not phased by sex scenes in movie or tv shows, I’ve just never thought of myself doing it. I’m really overthinking this so I would just like some nice advise please, I’m sorry this is so long, thank you for reading ☺️
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Why nobody beliefs?
Why is being asexual so difficult? People consider it a non-existent thing.
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Why is being asexual so difficult? People consider it a non-existent thing.
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If your queerplatonic partner got with someone romantically, would you personally consider it cheating?
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Problems with gay male friend understanding me
Long time lurker here.
I have known I am ace for a long time. I have very little experience dating and I have never had sex, nor do I feel very interested in the idea of that right now. I’m still figuring out whether I am asexual or demi, but I know I am ace either way.
I have told many friends that I am ace, including my gay friend (let’s call him Jack). Almost all of them have accepted me, asked respectful questions, or even shared their own experiences with their sexuality (including straight friends). Everyone except Jack. Jack didn’t outright dismiss me, but we very quickly moved on to a different topic after I told him.
At one point I thought he may have forgotten that I am ace because we were joking back and forth and I asked him to “name every asexual person” and he listed some random celebrities as a joke. Another time, I made a sexual joke and he said something along the lines of “for an asexual person…”
Typing this all out makes me feel like it’s not that much, but I’ve just found myself hurt by this and wondering if he isn’t taking me seriously.
I guess I just don’t know what I should do in this circumstance. I am good friends with him otherwise and I don’t want to cause friction.
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Long time lurker here.
I have known I am ace for a long time. I have very little experience dating and I have never had sex, nor do I feel very interested in the idea of that right now. I’m still figuring out whether I am asexual or demi, but I know I am ace either way.
I have told many friends that I am ace, including my gay friend (let’s call him Jack). Almost all of them have accepted me, asked respectful questions, or even shared their own experiences with their sexuality (including straight friends). Everyone except Jack. Jack didn’t outright dismiss me, but we very quickly moved on to a different topic after I told him.
At one point I thought he may have forgotten that I am ace because we were joking back and forth and I asked him to “name every asexual person” and he listed some random celebrities as a joke. Another time, I made a sexual joke and he said something along the lines of “for an asexual person…”
Typing this all out makes me feel like it’s not that much, but I’ve just found myself hurt by this and wondering if he isn’t taking me seriously.
I guess I just don’t know what I should do in this circumstance. I am good friends with him otherwise and I don’t want to cause friction.
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Am I Ace? (TW: SA)
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Hello, I am a 25f who was always self identifying as Bi... I married my husband after 6 years of living together and he started SAing me... every day almost for 9 months... anyway long story short I think I have a phobia of sex and I feel bad bc he hasn't hurt me the last few months trying to get better but I feel nothing. 0 drive. I am terrified of the concept of sex at all I cant even listen to music or read something that talks about it or I shake and get sick.. they say its an aversion that I can go to therapy to desensitize myself but I panic at the idea of ever trying to do it again or training myself like a misbehaving animal. Is it ace if I just don't ever want to do it again?...or do you think its just trauma?
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Sorry for the trauma dump. Thanks if you can reply.
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Hello, I am a 25f who was always self identifying as Bi... I married my husband after 6 years of living together and he started SAing me... every day almost for 9 months... anyway long story short I think I have a phobia of sex and I feel bad bc he hasn't hurt me the last few months trying to get better but I feel nothing. 0 drive. I am terrified of the concept of sex at all I cant even listen to music or read something that talks about it or I shake and get sick.. they say its an aversion that I can go to therapy to desensitize myself but I panic at the idea of ever trying to do it again or training myself like a misbehaving animal. Is it ace if I just don't ever want to do it again?...or do you think its just trauma?
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Sorry for the trauma dump. Thanks if you can reply.
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My wife is asexual, I am not
Is it acceptable for me to be here? I mean that sincerely. If not, please let me know and I will delete this post.
I’m an allosexual male and my wife, my best friend, my person, has come out as asexual.
We’ve been together over 25 years, but she only came out as asexually after a ten year dead bedroom led to couples councelling, therapy, and introspection.
We are the people we are meant to be with. We love each other dearly. We match for most things, and are opposites where important. Except for, well, that.
Is it appropriate for me to seek advice here, or is the a better sub to look for?
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Is it acceptable for me to be here? I mean that sincerely. If not, please let me know and I will delete this post.
I’m an allosexual male and my wife, my best friend, my person, has come out as asexual.
We’ve been together over 25 years, but she only came out as asexually after a ten year dead bedroom led to couples councelling, therapy, and introspection.
We are the people we are meant to be with. We love each other dearly. We match for most things, and are opposites where important. Except for, well, that.
Is it appropriate for me to seek advice here, or is the a better sub to look for?
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How do I tell my gf I might be asexual
I’m a straight male and I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 months, I’ve recently been realizing that im probably asexual, or at the least gray-asexual, but I don’t know how to tell my gf that I don’t like having sex with her. She can be quite insecure so I don’t want her to think it’s anything to do with her because it really isn’t. I don’t want her to think that I’m not attracted to her, I just really don’t like having sex. Any advice on how to bring this up to her?
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I’m a straight male and I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 months, I’ve recently been realizing that im probably asexual, or at the least gray-asexual, but I don’t know how to tell my gf that I don’t like having sex with her. She can be quite insecure so I don’t want her to think it’s anything to do with her because it really isn’t. I don’t want her to think that I’m not attracted to her, I just really don’t like having sex. Any advice on how to bring this up to her?
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