how do aces date allos?

I'm ace and I would definitely prefer an asexual partner because I feel like I'd feel almost uncomfortable(?) with a sexual partner, but ik that's pretty uncommon (to find aces). For those who are dating allos, how do they idk manage their libido(?) without hooking up or having sex w you?

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Made this small "bracelet" of the asexual flag (Might change flair)
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Made garlic bread to celebrate Ace Week yesterday! Plus my outfits from the week and a lanyard and some dice I made

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Made this "bracelet" of the Asexual flag
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I hadn't known that the word "cake" was used as an euphemism for ass or butt until recently. It's kind of ironic? that there are many memes about asexual loving cakes
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Am I an Asexual if I yearn for it but cannot feel it or I just havent met the right person?

My experience with asexuality is full of doubt. That's a given, of course, since that's how you figure it out. But the weird thing I experienced was how that doubt was fueled by the partners I've had.

At first, I genuinely believed that I would like intimacy since I've consumed so much content around it. But when I experienced my first interaction with intimacy, I did not feel any arousal at all. I convinced myself that I'll like it eventually, but it did not happen. The worst part was that my partner would encourage me to spice things up, but I could not fake what I felt anymore.

Then I thought maybe it was the person I was with, but it went the same direction with the next two partners I had.

They all said the same thing, "Oh, what if you try this and you'll like it," and I just want to pull my hair out because I tried, and the answer is no. Sometimes I envy other couples; I also want to feel pleasure.

In recent years, I'm still filled with doubt. How many years do I have to figure it out and doubt myself? I wish I knew the answer.

Your thoughts?

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Fucking tired... Found this on IG...

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No clue what other flair to put this under... Close enough.

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My partner doesn’t seem to remember I’m ace

Fair warning this has brief mentions of non-disclosed NSFW topics for anyone who cannot handle that, keep scrolling!

I love my girlfriend so much. We have so much in common. We’ve met via mutual friends and due to distance we haven’t met, but of course we FaceTime a lot, often times with her irl friends or mine too. We get along great, and never fight but there’s one thing that I feel is only a problem to me: I hate her sexual jokes.

I make dirty jokes all the time, however they’re usually never targeted at me or a particular person. They’re always about fictional characters or hypothetical scenarios, never (or at the very least) very rarely about me or my gf. I don’t like sexual jokes that have anything rooted in my reality. It makes me very uncomfortable and annoyed.

My girlfriend is sexual 24/7 (her words, not mine) she brings it up every day in basically every conversation, a joke that is about me or her desires, despite the fact I’ve explicitly told her before not to. I don’t think she’s ignoring it; I think she genuinely forgets.

I’ve been very insecure and confused with sexuality as I am practically never interested in it. I hate watching it, I hate hearing about it, and I’d hate contributing into it if I were asked. I don’t know if this is because I’m genuinely asexual/acespec, I’ve been on antidepressants since childhood, or I have incredibly intense bottom dysphoria. Regardless, I’ve done my best to respect her boundaries but she just can’t seem to respect this thing I’ve asked of her. If you have been in this situation, what should I do?

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