For all of you here on r/aaaaaaacccccccce. Found this on a Reddit video... now I’m hungry at 1:43 in the morning.
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Long time lurker here: thank you
I’ve been following this group for a while because my wife is asexual and I want to understand her sexuality deeper so I can celebrate who she is.
Took me until the 13th year of our marriage to deduce it. She doesn’t talk about it much and I’m not going to push it.
Reading about how you interact with the world and your frustrations helps me learn how to love my wife better. This place helps me empathize and use my critical thinking to better love her and be the husband she needs.
So thank you for being you.
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I’ve been following this group for a while because my wife is asexual and I want to understand her sexuality deeper so I can celebrate who she is.
Took me until the 13th year of our marriage to deduce it. She doesn’t talk about it much and I’m not going to push it.
Reading about how you interact with the world and your frustrations helps me learn how to love my wife better. This place helps me empathize and use my critical thinking to better love her and be the husband she needs.
So thank you for being you.
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Im bi so I sent a joke I saw somewhere on here to my asexual friend
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This blows my mind..how do people want to instantly copulate with someone they don't know?
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I can’t get over being asexual...
I am asexual and my boyfriend is highly sexual. There are times, however, when I won’t want to engage in sex for a few weeks at a time. And even though he’s very understanding and assures me I can say no whenever I want—I just can’t stop feeling guilty. I don’t feel like I can say no all the time (not because of him)and I feel guilty when I do. When I say no when he wants sex I feel intense guilt and self hatred, and will always think he deserves better or someone normal. I hate myself and wish I was normal for him. I love him so much and I just want to fulfill all his needs. Sometimes I feel like I have to force myself to have sex with him because if I say no too many times he’ll get fed up and leave me (though he tells me he would never). After I do that I feel even more intense self hatred and I wish I was a different person. He says not to feel bad and it’s totally fine, but I can’t help it. Because I know deep down he’s upset when I say no. I don’t know what to do.
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I am asexual and my boyfriend is highly sexual. There are times, however, when I won’t want to engage in sex for a few weeks at a time. And even though he’s very understanding and assures me I can say no whenever I want—I just can’t stop feeling guilty. I don’t feel like I can say no all the time (not because of him)and I feel guilty when I do. When I say no when he wants sex I feel intense guilt and self hatred, and will always think he deserves better or someone normal. I hate myself and wish I was normal for him. I love him so much and I just want to fulfill all his needs. Sometimes I feel like I have to force myself to have sex with him because if I say no too many times he’ll get fed up and leave me (though he tells me he would never). After I do that I feel even more intense self hatred and I wish I was a different person. He says not to feel bad and it’s totally fine, but I can’t help it. Because I know deep down he’s upset when I say no. I don’t know what to do.
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Save water, save planet...(saw this and thought it fit here...fr tho if you must do the frickity frack at the very least turn off the water and save the planet & some money)
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Am I asexual?
So, I'm using a throwaway account I just made to ask this question, since I suspect that some of my circle of friends might know what my main account is, and I don't want to cause unnecessary drama. Also, this is going to be a long post, partially for background and partially cause I think I really just need to vent at this point.
Anyway, onto the actual question.
So, I'm a 17 year old girl, and about a month ago I broke up with my first serious relationship with a guy. We'd been dating for about 6 months or so, and were getting along well. We shared a lot of the same interests, and while we generally held similar beliefs about things, there was always a fair bit we disagreed on, and could hold serious and intriguing discussions about.
We started going out on his insistence. I wasn't really into him, or anything. I recently started going to a co-ed school from a previously private school, and as an introvert with, at the time, not many friends, I didn't go out much. This was my first real experience with being friends with boys (or real friends at all, really). Everything went great, at first. He was my best friend, at the time, and after about two months he popped the question on me. He'd told me that he'd been working up the courage to try for a while, but I'd never really thought about him as anything other than a friend. But, this being my first experience, I wasn't really sure what was expected of me in order to start dating. I figured, I know he's a cool guy and he's pretty cute, so I agreed to go out with him.
At first, it was okay. It was a typical teen relationship thing, super awkward with a lot of missteps on my part, but overall pretty fun. But as time progressed and things got a little more serious, I started to notice a lot of signs that he was way more into me than I was into him.
Maybe it stemmed from the verbal abuse he received from his parents, and the fact that I really cared about him (I try to be as nice a person as I can) impacted him more than it should've, or maybe he really just liked me more than I liked him, but I soon grew really uncomfortable with how things were progressing.
It was just the typical teenage stuff, you know? Nothing sexual or the like, just minor kissing, hand holding and such. At first I was okay with it, but as time went on I started growing more and more uncomfortable with the situation. He told me, after about 5 months, that he loved me, and that was kind of a shock to my system. I didn't know much about what I was doing, but I knew for a fact that I didn't love him, and had a kind of meltdown where I confided into my closest friend that I didn't love him, didn't even know if I liked him, and that's when it kind of hit me.
I wasn't attracted to him, at all. I found him aesthetically appealing and fun to be around, but the kissing, hand holding and the like had made me kind of uncomfortable. I'd been debating for months, at that point, if I wanted to break up with him because I wasn't sure if I was really feeling the relationship to the same extent as he was, and didn't want to lead him on, but this was the first time I realized that, even though we were both really close, I wasn't really into him in that way, and couldn't imagine us, for example, having sex in a few years or anything of that sort. Actually, the whole relationship had it's fun moments, but my uncertainty as to what I was doing, if I wanted to do this, and the stress of dealing with another person's mountain of serious problems when I couldn't even carry my own was too much to bear.
A few months after I'd made that realization, I started to notice a lot of other things about my behaviour. I didn't really look at anyone in any way beyond how they act as a person, or felt attracted to anyone in particular, despite how, at this point, I'd been hanging around people of both sexes for over a year, I hadn't really felt anything I could describe as attraction.
More to the point, I find the idea of sex, frankly, repulsive. I'm obviously a virgin, myself, so I don't know how I would feel ab
So, I'm using a throwaway account I just made to ask this question, since I suspect that some of my circle of friends might know what my main account is, and I don't want to cause unnecessary drama. Also, this is going to be a long post, partially for background and partially cause I think I really just need to vent at this point.
Anyway, onto the actual question.
So, I'm a 17 year old girl, and about a month ago I broke up with my first serious relationship with a guy. We'd been dating for about 6 months or so, and were getting along well. We shared a lot of the same interests, and while we generally held similar beliefs about things, there was always a fair bit we disagreed on, and could hold serious and intriguing discussions about.
We started going out on his insistence. I wasn't really into him, or anything. I recently started going to a co-ed school from a previously private school, and as an introvert with, at the time, not many friends, I didn't go out much. This was my first real experience with being friends with boys (or real friends at all, really). Everything went great, at first. He was my best friend, at the time, and after about two months he popped the question on me. He'd told me that he'd been working up the courage to try for a while, but I'd never really thought about him as anything other than a friend. But, this being my first experience, I wasn't really sure what was expected of me in order to start dating. I figured, I know he's a cool guy and he's pretty cute, so I agreed to go out with him.
At first, it was okay. It was a typical teen relationship thing, super awkward with a lot of missteps on my part, but overall pretty fun. But as time progressed and things got a little more serious, I started to notice a lot of signs that he was way more into me than I was into him.
Maybe it stemmed from the verbal abuse he received from his parents, and the fact that I really cared about him (I try to be as nice a person as I can) impacted him more than it should've, or maybe he really just liked me more than I liked him, but I soon grew really uncomfortable with how things were progressing.
It was just the typical teenage stuff, you know? Nothing sexual or the like, just minor kissing, hand holding and such. At first I was okay with it, but as time went on I started growing more and more uncomfortable with the situation. He told me, after about 5 months, that he loved me, and that was kind of a shock to my system. I didn't know much about what I was doing, but I knew for a fact that I didn't love him, and had a kind of meltdown where I confided into my closest friend that I didn't love him, didn't even know if I liked him, and that's when it kind of hit me.
I wasn't attracted to him, at all. I found him aesthetically appealing and fun to be around, but the kissing, hand holding and the like had made me kind of uncomfortable. I'd been debating for months, at that point, if I wanted to break up with him because I wasn't sure if I was really feeling the relationship to the same extent as he was, and didn't want to lead him on, but this was the first time I realized that, even though we were both really close, I wasn't really into him in that way, and couldn't imagine us, for example, having sex in a few years or anything of that sort. Actually, the whole relationship had it's fun moments, but my uncertainty as to what I was doing, if I wanted to do this, and the stress of dealing with another person's mountain of serious problems when I couldn't even carry my own was too much to bear.
A few months after I'd made that realization, I started to notice a lot of other things about my behaviour. I didn't really look at anyone in any way beyond how they act as a person, or felt attracted to anyone in particular, despite how, at this point, I'd been hanging around people of both sexes for over a year, I hadn't really felt anything I could describe as attraction.
More to the point, I find the idea of sex, frankly, repulsive. I'm obviously a virgin, myself, so I don't know how I would feel ab
out it if I were to try it, but the idea of it kind of grosses me out.
I've tried talking to my parents about this. My parents are pretty neutral when it comes to LGBT/GSM issues. They support them, but aren't activists or anything. They've told my sister and I, in no uncertain terms, that if I were to come out as bi, lesbian, transgender, asexual, or such, that they'd still love and support me in every step of the way, and I know I'm really lucky to have them. That being said, whenever I've discussed my problems with them, how despite being 17 I still have that childish view of sex being disgusting and unappealing, how I've as of yet never felt anything I would be confident in describing as attraction or romantic love, they seem to think that it's just me being immature, when it comes to this sort of thing, given that it's relatively a new environment and my first time dealing with this sort of situation, compared to others like my older sister, who'd been going out with other people since she was 13.
I'm generally good with people and social interactions; my aforementioned lack of friends before I transferred schools was more because I knew those people all my life and didn't really have anything in common with them (I'm more introverted and withdrawn while they preferred partying and going out every day) and now that I'm in a different school, I've found a lot of people with really similar interests and have a great friend group. I also, despite everything, get along well with people I've just met, and have good relationships with classmates and teachers and parents alike.
Overall, despite what my parents seem to believe, I'm of the opinion that I might be asexual, but I'm not entirely sure? Especially considering I'm not aromantic, and I definitely want to find a partner in the future, but not really a sexual partner, if that makes sense?
What do you guys think? From what you've heard, do you think my suspicions are correct and I might be asexual, or am I just overthinking things and still too immature to handle these sorts of relationships? Or do you have entirely different theories as to what may be going on?
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I've tried talking to my parents about this. My parents are pretty neutral when it comes to LGBT/GSM issues. They support them, but aren't activists or anything. They've told my sister and I, in no uncertain terms, that if I were to come out as bi, lesbian, transgender, asexual, or such, that they'd still love and support me in every step of the way, and I know I'm really lucky to have them. That being said, whenever I've discussed my problems with them, how despite being 17 I still have that childish view of sex being disgusting and unappealing, how I've as of yet never felt anything I would be confident in describing as attraction or romantic love, they seem to think that it's just me being immature, when it comes to this sort of thing, given that it's relatively a new environment and my first time dealing with this sort of situation, compared to others like my older sister, who'd been going out with other people since she was 13.
I'm generally good with people and social interactions; my aforementioned lack of friends before I transferred schools was more because I knew those people all my life and didn't really have anything in common with them (I'm more introverted and withdrawn while they preferred partying and going out every day) and now that I'm in a different school, I've found a lot of people with really similar interests and have a great friend group. I also, despite everything, get along well with people I've just met, and have good relationships with classmates and teachers and parents alike.
Overall, despite what my parents seem to believe, I'm of the opinion that I might be asexual, but I'm not entirely sure? Especially considering I'm not aromantic, and I definitely want to find a partner in the future, but not really a sexual partner, if that makes sense?
What do you guys think? From what you've heard, do you think my suspicions are correct and I might be asexual, or am I just overthinking things and still too immature to handle these sorts of relationships? Or do you have entirely different theories as to what may be going on?
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I just noticed after a few years that my phone case is almost the ace pride flag colours (would be if the pink wasn't there)
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I wore Ace socks to an interview and "aced it" if you will. I also had a purple shirt with my black pants. *squee*
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