Family gathering story

I'm at a family gathering and just heard a story of a couple.

There was theis guy who said he's religious and that he'd maintain his purity and wouldn't get married, but yk the desi families.
So he was forced to get married, he made it clear that even if he got married he still won't have any kids and would treat his wife as nothing more than a friend.
They're now married for 16 years and living happily, no kids. The family accept them as religious too.
My cousin who knew them personally told me that they are actually both asexual and used religion to find an excuse

It's really shows the hypocrisy of society.
If they had directly said that they're asexuals the people would probably call then delusional and made weird remarks " it's not real just try it" " how can tht be a thing, having offspring is necessary" etc
But they accepted it when they used religion as a cover up.
*Desi people would accept things they don't really want to if it's religion.

i just wanted to share this story, no hard feelings...

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Questioning if I’m Ace

I know y’all probably get this all the time, but just been thinking for a bit. I’m 20 M, ever since I was 14 I found I had some sort of attraction to men, just kind of an ambiguous thing. (I’ve just called it gay) I’ve watched gay porn and have had fantasies, but in the real world I have had no urge, no desire, like they are not there at all. And no idea what those feelings are truly like outside of a fantasy. Yet I got some weird thing for men. My parents keep on asking when I’m gonna get a boyfriend, but I don’t care if I have one, but yet I have dreams of having one and I’m just kind of confused. Is it asexuality or some mental disconnect I haven’t addressed? Just mostly asking for some more info maybe more perspectives. Thank you for reading, and your time.

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I’m about to mute every lesbian subreddit I’m so frustrated.

I tried once more just to see if maybe there was a “diamond in the rust” type of thing and nope; I was wrong.

Once again this subreddit is the most nicest, kindest and most respectful for me to my sexuality.

So many lesbians are down right horrible.

Like what does it take for someone; somebody like me to find a Cis Butch equivalent of my grunge ass?

Why are there so many mean Butch lesbians? Like oh; all would be fine if only Asexuality wasn’t apart of me.

So you’re telling me that my dream Butch is out there; but only problem is they want sex?

I’m sorry that I love stereotypical 1990’s presenting cis Butch lesbians; but without the softball, axe and sex part.

Is it too much to ask to come across one whether I end up with one or not? To know the Butch version of my grunge ass exists (which by the way is the opposite seeing as Butch and Grunge are like the siblings of the lesbian world if you will) would be nice.


Someone; somebody… Understand. I mean…

It is so frustrating. Gaaaasassssndjdjdjdhrhrhrhdhdhehdh

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Why is sex a flex?

Like 90% of my friends think that a gay ace wants to hear about their straight sexcapades. And they'll go into detail about it too. Like, who asked? Im happy for you and your "throat goat", happy that you can grab his butt while he goes down on you.

I just don't want to hear it. Does anyone else deal with this?

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What is a weirdly specific thing you see alot with people and characters in the ace spectrum?

I say it first: Sharks. I have a shark plushy for as long as my sentient memory goes, a friend of mine that's also ace has about 70 (i envy that), there is the vtuber Rin Penrose aka human asexual flag with her own blahaj, Gwenpool is the original owner of Jeff (if you dont count MODOK) and even Alastor has a rivalry with a TV-headed shark

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Made my own affirmation hoodie. What do y'all think?

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Does an ‘ace’-dar exist?

Question is meant to be lighthearted and a spin on the so-called ‘gaydar.’ However, I would say that a few people have picked up on my aceness over the years and I wanted to know if anyone else has, too? What do you think the giveaways are lol? Being waaay to into the cake at the birthday party?

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TO SEX-REPULSED ASEXUALS THAT ARE HOPELESS ROMANTICS , I FOUND SOMETHING AND I WANTED TO SHOW YOU THAT

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TO SEX-REPULSED ASEXUALS THAT ARE HOPELESS ROMANTICS , I FOUND SOMETHING AND I WANTED TO SHOW YOU THAT

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MINECRAFT server for folks like us. aces & aros!!! My friends & I have a MC server that is crossplatform that can hold around a 100 people on it at a single time. Right now theres around 20 people apart of the MC server. Your welcomed to join our community. We do movie nights & game days also! :)
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What even am I


My friend made a point that I could be asexual with a hypersexual trauma response. Personally I’m just confused.

I have DID for some context so that means I have alters or different personalities. One part of them was ace to the point of being repulsed by anything and everything sexual. We had a fusion which means he fused with two of us (3 alters/personalities became one) and since then the host has been a bit asexual but we’re confused on if it’s because of the fusion or if that’s really us

All of my life I thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn’t get there when I had solo time. After realizing I had DID I realized I had been molested and used for sex from at least 4-12.

I had my first relationship last summer (wlw) I don’t remember most of it cuz of my DID. I don’t remember if I ever wanted to kiss them. We did kiss a few times but I think I dreaded it and didn’t understand how to do it. It just felt weird. I’ve never had sex that I’ve consented to so I don’t know if I’d like it. At the moment the idea of having sex (both giving and receiving) with someone or kissing someone makes me feel sick.

I don’t want to be asexual. I want to have kids with someone. Am I just supposed to have a friend and have kids with them I don’t get it.

Then there’s people like my best friend who I’ve always had a thing for and I’ve written songs about kissing people. So I’m just so extremely confused and don’t understand plus I’m ready to start dating again this is the worst timing

I feel like no one’s going to have anything to say and this turned into a sort of vent but idk just how did you know you were asexual and do/did you still ever do anything sexual? (Ik it’s a spectrum)

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What happened to acebook?

Does anyone know what happened to acebook? I went to check it for the first time in a few months, and it’s not working…

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What do I do about my non-asexual boyfriend?

My boyfriend (25m) and I (22f) have been together for nearly a year and now I feel stuck. We’ve only had sex once and now I feel guilty because I’m asexual.

I recently reminded him I’m asexual, since when we first got together he seemed fine. But now I don’t think he knows what it means for me. I don’t feel sexual attraction. Yeah I find my boyfriend hot but I’m just not sexually attracted to anything?

Now, we’ve been arguing a lot because I’ve started saying no more often during intimacy. He tells me that it’s because of my trauma growing up and that when I get better I’ll be normal again.

And i feel even worse when we argue and he calls me immature for this, because he’s seen cases where an asexual person was no longer asexual when they found their partner. I’m not like that. Now I feel stuck because he clearly wants to be intimate and always says that if we aren’t we can’t have a family.

I reminded him I want a family too and that adoption is always an option, and that if he really wanted biological kids instead I’d be willing to do that. I just don’t want intimacy by any other means.

He tells me to “just enjoy it” and that there’s nothing wrong with enjoying it. And that he’s “fine” with me being asexual he just wants me to want it more because my “heart is closed”.

Someone please just help me. I don’t know what to do anymore.

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Question 💭

Hello I’m new here and also new to this community I’m still reading up on things for knowledge and to better understand myself going forward.

My question is can I be both Bisexual and Asexual ?

I personally align with both , I am attracted to both male and female, and I’m also asexual because my attraction to someone stops there . I don’t have the desire to interact in sexual relations , again I’m still looking into things and reading right now
( reading/book suggestions welcome)
I’m trying to figure out if I’m more inline with demisexual or Graysexual .

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Garlic bread >:3
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