First day as coming out Asexual
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Can a relationship between a sexual person and an asexual person work?

If anyone is in a mixed sexual relationship, I’d love to hear how you and your partner compromise and cope with the mismatch.

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Sad Vent. Please Advise

Please bear with me here. It's 3am and I've been crying off and on all day since Friday night. And this is also my first experience dealing with rejection like this. And sorry if this is all over the place. I'm emotional, not clear headed, and half asleep kind of.

I'm 26F and ace, unsure if plain ace or gray ace. I've known I'm ace since 2021 and actually had my then-boyfriend of the time break up with me because of it. His exact words, "I can't date a whore that won't put out for me." That's another short story for another day 😑, but I have posted about it in the past I believe. I recently bought my first ace pride merch, just a t shirt and some stickers. No, I do not have photos since I've deleted them and thrown them away in an emotional crying fit. Kinda regret it, kinda don't. They arrived Thursday afternoon. I really liked the shirt though. It was just 4 cute chibi frogs on top of each other in the ace flag colors. I kept crying anytime I looked at it, so I threw it away and deleted the one picture I took of it.

My current partner of 2.5yrs knows I am ace. He's fine with it according to him, but I think he has issues with it since he brings up my lack of desire for sex (compared to his desire) any time we have an issue, which is rare. But still hurtful, and I've told him that. So I already wasn't going to wear that shirt around him. And please do not comment on my relationship. I love my partner and would do just about anything for him. He's my favorite human, and I don't typically like humans. I'm an animal person, I work vetmed. He knows this.

I washed the shirt, showered, and put it on Friday night. I was excited to wear it. I showed it to my dad (yes, I live with my parents. US economy sucks right now. F the evil cheeto puff that controls my home right now 😑) and was basically showing it off. This was my first (and right now, emotionally decided, my last) time getting anything ace pride. I don't hide my identity, but I also don't go shouting it from the rooftops. I don't exactly feel safe exposing my asexuality when it's easier to hide it since most people don't really understand (or want to in some cases). Let's just say my father was less than supportive. The gist was, "It's not part of the LGBT so I don't know why you're proud. It's a cute shirt though. I like the frogs." I just took the shirt off and buried it in a dresser drawer with the stickers.

Again, please do not comment on my father. This has been the only time he hasn't supported me. And I will fight to defend him, we have more history than I'm going into right now. There was no yelling involved in that discussion. Normal volume, no harsh or angry tones. One exact quote from me, "We have different opinions on this. It's okay."

That was Friday night. Other things happened yesterday (Saturday) with my dad that were upsetting. Again, do not comment on that. We're family, we won't always get along and it has nothing to do with the shirt. I actually threw the shirt out after the Saturday disagreement. And again, no yelling was involved with that one either. I asked for something and offered to help make it happen, i was shot down. And that particular request was a reoccurring one throughout my childhood, so the no just hit hard for some reason. But Saturday isn't the important part, I'm just adding context for the situation.

Dad did try to apologize for everything, and I heard him out, but I did cut him off at the end and said that he had nothing to apologize for. That this is his house and he's entitled to his opinions just like I am.

Dad left the house later, I went to his room to talk to Mom for a bit since she called me in there, and saw the shirt on the floor. I asked why it was there, Mom said she didn't know. She asked why I threw it out, I explained that I'm not going to wear it and it won't fit Dad. Asked if she wanted it, she said no, so I said that I was throwing it back in the trash where it belonged. She asked why I was throwing away a frog shirt when I love herpetology. I said that they're just stupid

frogs and I wasted my money on the damn thing for no reason, so it's going back in the trash. And I did just that then stated bawling again. I woke up around 3ish (almost 4 now) and just started crying again, which apparently woke up my dad since he asked if I was okay.

I've just been crying on and off since then. I feel rejected in a way. I know my dad loves me. But I feel like something in me died a little. I've never felt particularly sensitive over someone accepting me or not for my sexuality. It doesn't affect them unless they're my partner, so why should their reaction affect me? That's always been my mentality.

I'm asking for advice on dealing with my own feelings about this, not advice on my relationships I've described (extremely briefly and only two snapshots in time, I may add). And PSA, if you bash my father or boyfriend, I will either respond or delete that comment if I can.

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Anyone found any canonically asexual characters?
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Do you believe sapiosexuality is an actual sexuality? I know this question has been debated for years. But I just wanted to know your thoughts



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How's autumn treating you?

Heya! I'm 25 yr old ace girl and autumn is already here still the weather is kinda crazy and feels a bit like summer lol for Southern sphere it'd be spring right?
Anyways I'm just here to say hello to other aces, make sure you love yourself for who you are :) Honestly, these days I feel a little nostalgic about the time when I had friends online all over the world to exchange banters and all, and at that time I had a bf whom didn't bring up the sexual topic at all so I didn't even have to come out as ace. Well looking back at it now maybe he was asexual too? After that I had a relationship with an allo and it didn't go that well, and several years after that, I'm now here feeling content but at the same time being single for long started to make me feel a bit confused like I start to want to fall in love again but idk why I also imagine falling in love with someone like my first bf. It was quite some time ago now, and importantly it's not that Im missing him or anything and there were reasons I broke things off, but the appearance and how he would talk and all just started to randomly pop up in my head. How do you deal with it?
Anyways, feel free to talk to me as I'm totally down for meeting new people to talk to :)

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Asexual Ereasure should be discussed

I've only been nice to this woman in our five meetings. She blurts out some graphic sexual shit from nowhere. Why does everyone assume ulterior motives? Should I get an asex sign and walk around? Sure, people will look at me but, not the way they leer now

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Got an all-ace flush five in Balatro
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I dislike how people assume sex is involved in a romantic relationship

People can date and have a romantic relationship without having sex, you know.

This speaks volumes about how sex-obsessed the United States is. It’s not like this in other places of the world, at least not to this extent.

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Complimentary garlic bread
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It seems like my "boyfriend" doesn't respect that I'm an ace.
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how north/south are you going?
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cómo odio los besos largos y mi enamorado a fuerzas quiere darme beso en los labios

hola, pues verán amo mucho a mi enamorado pero Dios, a veces me incomoda que me bese la boca y él no lo entiende. Según él yo soy la primera chica en besarle y así 7n7 cosa en la que no creo xd pero aún así es muy atascado. Me besa en público, es muy expresivo Y AMO LA INTENSIDAD pero preferiría que solo me abrazara, me diera la mano o no sé besos en el cachete. Pero puaj, no tiene mal olor en la boca, NI NADA MALO, al contrario sus labios son demasiado suavecitos como un malvavisco jaja pero damn 💀 besar en la boca me incomoda y no me hace caso. Ustedes creen que es mucho de contacto físico/ está muy emocionado porque no ha besado a ninguna mujer en la boca en sus casi 20 años o simplemente es alguien que no entiende y me fuerza :’( aaaaaaaaaaayuda

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Does Ace have a fetish?

Can an ace like BDSM related things?

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Apparently, We're Pretty Smart
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Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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are you attracted to voices?

been listening to a lot of nsfw audios lately and realized i have a thing for voices.i would mainly listen to the ones with very little dialogue, but i moans, whimpers, and breathiness of the voices. i’d rather listen to these audios than have sex lol

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Online Over the Garden Wall Watch Party

I have an aspec discord that's going to have a Halloween Over the Garden Wall watch party at the end of the month if anyone would like to join

https://discord.gg/jVBugT3Jnv

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Bracelet
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Family gathering story

I'm at a family gathering and just heard a story of a couple.

There was theis guy who said he's religious and that he'd maintain his purity and wouldn't get married, but yk the desi families.
So he was forced to get married, he made it clear that even if he got married he still won't have any kids and would treat his wife as nothing more than a friend.
They're now married for 16 years and living happily, no kids. The family accept them as religious too.
My cousin who knew them personally told me that they are actually both asexual and used religion to find an excuse

It's really shows the hypocrisy of society.
If they had directly said that they're asexuals the people would probably call then delusional and made weird remarks " it's not real just try it" " how can tht be a thing, having offspring is necessary" etc
But they accepted it when they used religion as a cover up.
*Desi people would accept things they don't really want to if it's religion.

i just wanted to share this story, no hard feelings...

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