Question for asexual people who have sex
Hi asexual community!!
I'm asexual homoromantic.
I have a question for all asexual people (above all for gay ace) who are sexually active.
How did you find out you like sex, even if you don't have sexual attraction?
Or do you do only sex to satisfy your partner desires?
In other words, can you describe what is sex for you?
Thanks in advance
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Hi asexual community!!
I'm asexual homoromantic.
I have a question for all asexual people (above all for gay ace) who are sexually active.
How did you find out you like sex, even if you don't have sexual attraction?
Or do you do only sex to satisfy your partner desires?
In other words, can you describe what is sex for you?
Thanks in advance
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I think my friend is aphobic
When the topic of my sexual orientation comes out, my friend always hits me with the "How do you know if you haven't even tried it yet". And I'm each and every time stunned by her point of view as she's also part of the LGBTQIA+ community (she's bi) and have explained multiple times what the label of asexuality (and in particular, being sex-repulsed asexual) applies to me and to my experience. I feel upset but don't know how to move forward
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When the topic of my sexual orientation comes out, my friend always hits me with the "How do you know if you haven't even tried it yet". And I'm each and every time stunned by her point of view as she's also part of the LGBTQIA+ community (she's bi) and have explained multiple times what the label of asexuality (and in particular, being sex-repulsed asexual) applies to me and to my experience. I feel upset but don't know how to move forward
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My wife and I were intimate for the first time in over 5 years
My wife and I have been together 8 years. We’re very much in love, but both consider ourselves ace and don’t really find sex enjoyable. We’ve done it maybe 10 times in our relationship. We recently decided that we want children, and as much as we don’t care for sex, we want to conceive them naturally. Yesterday was the first time since before the pandemic that we did anything more than kiss. As much as we’re not sex fans, we want to avoid using any sort of fertility clinic or procedure. We are excited to eventually become parents, but at the same time can’t wait to not have to have sex anymore. Has anyone else done this in their relationship?
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My wife and I have been together 8 years. We’re very much in love, but both consider ourselves ace and don’t really find sex enjoyable. We’ve done it maybe 10 times in our relationship. We recently decided that we want children, and as much as we don’t care for sex, we want to conceive them naturally. Yesterday was the first time since before the pandemic that we did anything more than kiss. As much as we’re not sex fans, we want to avoid using any sort of fertility clinic or procedure. We are excited to eventually become parents, but at the same time can’t wait to not have to have sex anymore. Has anyone else done this in their relationship?
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Religion and asexuality
I was 19 years old the first time I had a boyfriend (I am a man). I described the sexual aspect as feeling like a prostitute in my own relationship. Sex wasn’t for me, it felt like a chore. But I also had feelings for my ex, but I would rather masturbate alone than actually have sex.
We broke up and I got really into Christianity. And for about a year or so I didn’t watch porn or masturbate or have sex. I didn’t really think or worry about it. I thought I was really good at breaking free of lust.
And then I reconnected with my ex and it sent things into haywire—we hooked up… sorta. We didn’t actually have sex, and I was distraught at how far we went (the homosexual shame). But soon after that I started dating a girl I’d been going in dates with.
But I never wanted to have sex with her—I never really was INTO her. We ended up breaking up because I wasn’t into her. The whole time I thought “hey how cool I’m doing this Christianity thing really well.”
And like… I’ve felt attraction to men (more than women at least). They were the ones I was drawn to. But the draw to them was more like okay I wanna be so connected to you that we are inseparable, and that sort of intimacy only comes from sex (Christian teachings that sex is pure communion, total connection, etc).
Martin Luther even declared the union between Christ and the Church as the same thing as the union between a husband and a bride during sexual intercourse.
No one would want me unless I was sexually intimate with them. And I was lonely and alone. And so I went on a journey of sexual connection after sexual connection. Intense hyper sexual behavior with people I wasn’t attracted to, excepting the fact that I wanted to “get off.”
Most times I think of the smell of their breath or the way things feel texturally, the dirtiness, the yuckiness of it all. I was filled with despair so much because I was simultaneously experiencing desire for monogamous and fully committed relationships and the shame of Christianity.
I was romantically attracted to women, but since I wasn’t sexually attracted to women I consider myself sexually attracted to men. But if I could simply not be sexual at all and have a fully committed relationship, I would be okay I think.
But because religion has affected me so much, I can never tell whether I’m suppressing my sexuality and attractions towards men, or if I’m simply just a man with a libido and not attracted to men. Or experience very little attraction.
I’ve always been fine to have solo masturbation time, but when the shame of Christianity meddled with the growth of my authentic understanding of sex, I got super confused.
And I guess I am terribly confused still. Two years after “accepting” being gay or whatever, and being in a 10 month relationship, I still do not like sex, don’t really WANT it. I don’t feel feral, ever. I just feel like meh.
And I’ve considered my health issues being the problem, where maybe I just feel crappy all the time and so sex is low priority… but I still masturbate so my libido is there…
Idk..
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I was 19 years old the first time I had a boyfriend (I am a man). I described the sexual aspect as feeling like a prostitute in my own relationship. Sex wasn’t for me, it felt like a chore. But I also had feelings for my ex, but I would rather masturbate alone than actually have sex.
We broke up and I got really into Christianity. And for about a year or so I didn’t watch porn or masturbate or have sex. I didn’t really think or worry about it. I thought I was really good at breaking free of lust.
And then I reconnected with my ex and it sent things into haywire—we hooked up… sorta. We didn’t actually have sex, and I was distraught at how far we went (the homosexual shame). But soon after that I started dating a girl I’d been going in dates with.
But I never wanted to have sex with her—I never really was INTO her. We ended up breaking up because I wasn’t into her. The whole time I thought “hey how cool I’m doing this Christianity thing really well.”
And like… I’ve felt attraction to men (more than women at least). They were the ones I was drawn to. But the draw to them was more like okay I wanna be so connected to you that we are inseparable, and that sort of intimacy only comes from sex (Christian teachings that sex is pure communion, total connection, etc).
Martin Luther even declared the union between Christ and the Church as the same thing as the union between a husband and a bride during sexual intercourse.
No one would want me unless I was sexually intimate with them. And I was lonely and alone. And so I went on a journey of sexual connection after sexual connection. Intense hyper sexual behavior with people I wasn’t attracted to, excepting the fact that I wanted to “get off.”
Most times I think of the smell of their breath or the way things feel texturally, the dirtiness, the yuckiness of it all. I was filled with despair so much because I was simultaneously experiencing desire for monogamous and fully committed relationships and the shame of Christianity.
I was romantically attracted to women, but since I wasn’t sexually attracted to women I consider myself sexually attracted to men. But if I could simply not be sexual at all and have a fully committed relationship, I would be okay I think.
But because religion has affected me so much, I can never tell whether I’m suppressing my sexuality and attractions towards men, or if I’m simply just a man with a libido and not attracted to men. Or experience very little attraction.
I’ve always been fine to have solo masturbation time, but when the shame of Christianity meddled with the growth of my authentic understanding of sex, I got super confused.
And I guess I am terribly confused still. Two years after “accepting” being gay or whatever, and being in a 10 month relationship, I still do not like sex, don’t really WANT it. I don’t feel feral, ever. I just feel like meh.
And I’ve considered my health issues being the problem, where maybe I just feel crappy all the time and so sex is low priority… but I still masturbate so my libido is there…
Idk..
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I wish I wasn’t ace
I’m honestly starting to get depressed over this. I want to fall in love, I want to experience being in love and being loved in return for once in my life. I’m nearing my thirties and have yet to be in a romantic relationship.
I just wish I could flip a switch and become allo. I’ve met men that I’ve been compatible with on every other level, but me being ace is always that one thing that they can’t work with. I'm sex averse/repulsed and monogamous so there is no working around it for me. And I understand that just as I can't compromise, most allo people can't either, but I’m tired of this. I've met more rejection than one could even imagine.
I don’t even try with allo men anymore. I know my partner needs to be ace. I’ve been posting on asexual subreddits, I’ve been on acespace… but finding someone who is both ace and otherwise compatible is so so so hard. Not to mention I live in a small country so finding someone locally isn’t likely.
I just don’t want to be single all my life…
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I’m honestly starting to get depressed over this. I want to fall in love, I want to experience being in love and being loved in return for once in my life. I’m nearing my thirties and have yet to be in a romantic relationship.
I just wish I could flip a switch and become allo. I’ve met men that I’ve been compatible with on every other level, but me being ace is always that one thing that they can’t work with. I'm sex averse/repulsed and monogamous so there is no working around it for me. And I understand that just as I can't compromise, most allo people can't either, but I’m tired of this. I've met more rejection than one could even imagine.
I don’t even try with allo men anymore. I know my partner needs to be ace. I’ve been posting on asexual subreddits, I’ve been on acespace… but finding someone who is both ace and otherwise compatible is so so so hard. Not to mention I live in a small country so finding someone locally isn’t likely.
I just don’t want to be single all my life…
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Long Term Relationship
I'm sure this is a dime-a-dozen story:
Mostly just need to get this out there, so feel free to stop here. I'm Allo, and I'm sorry for this post, because it feels like I'm 'grabbing the mic' so to speak, without being welcome here. I can't talk about my partner's asexuality without outing them to anyone, so I'm stuck throwing it into the void.
We've been together for 12 years and married for 9. I love them so deeply it hurts. They love me the same and I truly believe that. I understand a common misconception for allos about asexuals is to conflate love and lust.
My partner has recently realized they were more and more comfortable with the term Asexual to describe their sexuality, and feelings around sex. I'm not sure if they've landed yet on a label or umbrella term that describes them more specifically. I'm still learning what I can from them, but unfortunately I'm an emotional mess.
We were sexually active at more of an allo-cadence at the beginning of our relationship, but after we got married and had our child, that tapered off significantly. What I thought at the time, was that my partner and I were tired and 'touched out' and that was the reason behind our slow tapering off of sex. We eventually stopped all together, and it's been a few years now.
It's not the only source of distance between us. I've a lot of blame on my shoulders for letting our relationship sit on the back burner, and no longer being romantic with my partner after marriage. We weren't growing together, and felt like we were slowly drifting apart, and that's my fault. They tried but finally had enough and quiet-quit the romantic side of our relationship, because I already had. It took me a while to finally see it. I've been the focus of my partner's empathy over the last few years, and I've been selfish. I had a mental health crisis, and also came out to them early in our marriage before our child was born. I was the needy one in the relationship, and my partner held things down, and chose me despite me not being what they thought. I want to do the same for them. I want this to work somehow.
After coming out recently, they told me "I don't want to have sex." I figured that's enough said really, and I respect that, I really do. They also said they enjoy the feeling of sex, but never want it or think about it. I feel like they're trying to let me down slowly, and are afraid to rip off the band-aid. If they don't want sex, they don't want sex. I can't help but feel sorry for them, for having to do things they were uncomfortable with their whole adult life. It makes me feel gross for my role, because I thought we both felt the same way about sex.
The sentiment here seems to be that we're incompatible, and things won't work between us, which breaks my heart so much, because we love each other. I want nothing more than intimacy between us, but I don't want to push anything, or make them feel guilty, so obviously it shouldn't happen. If that's how it's going to be, that's how it's got to be. They've stated what they want.
So I don't know what we're going to do. The thing I want is the thing I can't have. I want them to desire me sexually, I always have, and now I know that's just not a thing that's going to happen, and it never was happening in the first place.
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I'm sure this is a dime-a-dozen story:
Mostly just need to get this out there, so feel free to stop here. I'm Allo, and I'm sorry for this post, because it feels like I'm 'grabbing the mic' so to speak, without being welcome here. I can't talk about my partner's asexuality without outing them to anyone, so I'm stuck throwing it into the void.
We've been together for 12 years and married for 9. I love them so deeply it hurts. They love me the same and I truly believe that. I understand a common misconception for allos about asexuals is to conflate love and lust.
My partner has recently realized they were more and more comfortable with the term Asexual to describe their sexuality, and feelings around sex. I'm not sure if they've landed yet on a label or umbrella term that describes them more specifically. I'm still learning what I can from them, but unfortunately I'm an emotional mess.
We were sexually active at more of an allo-cadence at the beginning of our relationship, but after we got married and had our child, that tapered off significantly. What I thought at the time, was that my partner and I were tired and 'touched out' and that was the reason behind our slow tapering off of sex. We eventually stopped all together, and it's been a few years now.
It's not the only source of distance between us. I've a lot of blame on my shoulders for letting our relationship sit on the back burner, and no longer being romantic with my partner after marriage. We weren't growing together, and felt like we were slowly drifting apart, and that's my fault. They tried but finally had enough and quiet-quit the romantic side of our relationship, because I already had. It took me a while to finally see it. I've been the focus of my partner's empathy over the last few years, and I've been selfish. I had a mental health crisis, and also came out to them early in our marriage before our child was born. I was the needy one in the relationship, and my partner held things down, and chose me despite me not being what they thought. I want to do the same for them. I want this to work somehow.
After coming out recently, they told me "I don't want to have sex." I figured that's enough said really, and I respect that, I really do. They also said they enjoy the feeling of sex, but never want it or think about it. I feel like they're trying to let me down slowly, and are afraid to rip off the band-aid. If they don't want sex, they don't want sex. I can't help but feel sorry for them, for having to do things they were uncomfortable with their whole adult life. It makes me feel gross for my role, because I thought we both felt the same way about sex.
The sentiment here seems to be that we're incompatible, and things won't work between us, which breaks my heart so much, because we love each other. I want nothing more than intimacy between us, but I don't want to push anything, or make them feel guilty, so obviously it shouldn't happen. If that's how it's going to be, that's how it's got to be. They've stated what they want.
So I don't know what we're going to do. The thing I want is the thing I can't have. I want them to desire me sexually, I always have, and now I know that's just not a thing that's going to happen, and it never was happening in the first place.
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Asexual coming-out
I just came out as asexual today 💜 I feel relieved and very proud !
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I just came out as asexual today 💜 I feel relieved and very proud !
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I feel broken
I’m sure a lot of y’all have felt this and I’m far from the only person on here to say this, but got I feel so broken. I’ve just recently come to terms with being ace, and I’m pretty sex repulsed. Not judging anyone who enjoys sex of course, do you have fun. It’s just not who I am, and I feel like we live in such a horny world, girls guy and others alike. I just constantly feel so pressured to enjoy sex, I feel boring and broken and wrong for not wanting to have sex. I’m a massive people pleaser and I was hypersexual for most of my teenage years, cause of being r*ped. But I don’t think my trauma has anything to do with being ace and having like no libido. It’s not some health thing, I masturbate and enjoy it, but I can’t get over the guilt of not wanting to sleep with people and not being sexually attracted to people I guess. I feel like everyone I talk to like that I try and be sexual and then I just end up being like, I can’t do this, and then everyone just tries to guilt trip me, being like “you really don’t like this? What if I blah blah blah” and It’s like, no, there’s nothing you can do, I just don’t want to. And then I just give in cause I feel bad and i hate it and I hate myself and I wish I was normal. Which is silly cause I’d never say or think that about someone else in my shoes yk. Idk.
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I’m sure a lot of y’all have felt this and I’m far from the only person on here to say this, but got I feel so broken. I’ve just recently come to terms with being ace, and I’m pretty sex repulsed. Not judging anyone who enjoys sex of course, do you have fun. It’s just not who I am, and I feel like we live in such a horny world, girls guy and others alike. I just constantly feel so pressured to enjoy sex, I feel boring and broken and wrong for not wanting to have sex. I’m a massive people pleaser and I was hypersexual for most of my teenage years, cause of being r*ped. But I don’t think my trauma has anything to do with being ace and having like no libido. It’s not some health thing, I masturbate and enjoy it, but I can’t get over the guilt of not wanting to sleep with people and not being sexually attracted to people I guess. I feel like everyone I talk to like that I try and be sexual and then I just end up being like, I can’t do this, and then everyone just tries to guilt trip me, being like “you really don’t like this? What if I blah blah blah” and It’s like, no, there’s nothing you can do, I just don’t want to. And then I just give in cause I feel bad and i hate it and I hate myself and I wish I was normal. Which is silly cause I’d never say or think that about someone else in my shoes yk. Idk.
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Asexuality and Internal Locus
I've been thinking about the asexuality spectrum for some time, trying to make sense of my experience. Just finished reading ACE by Angela Chen.
I've been wondering about ways to describe my experience without leaning so much on identity labels because it seems like any label I land on becomes something I feel that I have to defend eventually.
I've been thinking about the concept of internal vs external locus of control. If I think about it, I experience my sexuality as something deeply internal, a part of myself I'm hesitant to share unless I feel very safe with someone. I also don't find that it's dependent on outside stimulus (ie attraction).
It seems to me that maybe the opposite is true for allosexual folks. Sexuality being experienced much more as an external effect.
If I had to pick an identity I would probably choose demi or gray. However thinking about it in terms of internal vs external locus or process feels useful.
Does that make sense to anyone else?
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I've been thinking about the asexuality spectrum for some time, trying to make sense of my experience. Just finished reading ACE by Angela Chen.
I've been wondering about ways to describe my experience without leaning so much on identity labels because it seems like any label I land on becomes something I feel that I have to defend eventually.
I've been thinking about the concept of internal vs external locus of control. If I think about it, I experience my sexuality as something deeply internal, a part of myself I'm hesitant to share unless I feel very safe with someone. I also don't find that it's dependent on outside stimulus (ie attraction).
It seems to me that maybe the opposite is true for allosexual folks. Sexuality being experienced much more as an external effect.
If I had to pick an identity I would probably choose demi or gray. However thinking about it in terms of internal vs external locus or process feels useful.
Does that make sense to anyone else?
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I don't understand if I'm broken or my gf inexperienced
so basically I'm afab20, and my gf is f18. she's been in a relationship with another girl just before we got together, so I've always seen her as the one who knows how to move around and give me pleasure.
Paradoxically whenever we have sex, I mean ok she's on top, but I'm the one giving her the most pleasure, as apparently I'm more practical than I thought, I understand anatomy and having seen porn I know how to do the stuff I've seen. but when it's my turn, I don't get turned on. she can't seem to find my clitoris (which is where I'm def more sensitive and I get more pleasure from that then from being fingered), and overall even tho she's allosexual, I feel like she's a bit goofy as she doesn't masturbate (might that be? I'm curious about her past relationship sex life, not in a perv way).
I think I'm asexual, but sometimes I think my body is just idk broken?, I don't feel any libido ever, nor sexual attraction (I mean, only felt these one single time in my life), and only sometimes sexual desire (so I do masturbate), but the thing that triggers me the most is how I'm not able to feel anything in such context.
I might be not relaxed enough? or is she just not understanding my body? I really don't know
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so basically I'm afab20, and my gf is f18. she's been in a relationship with another girl just before we got together, so I've always seen her as the one who knows how to move around and give me pleasure.
Paradoxically whenever we have sex, I mean ok she's on top, but I'm the one giving her the most pleasure, as apparently I'm more practical than I thought, I understand anatomy and having seen porn I know how to do the stuff I've seen. but when it's my turn, I don't get turned on. she can't seem to find my clitoris (which is where I'm def more sensitive and I get more pleasure from that then from being fingered), and overall even tho she's allosexual, I feel like she's a bit goofy as she doesn't masturbate (might that be? I'm curious about her past relationship sex life, not in a perv way).
I think I'm asexual, but sometimes I think my body is just idk broken?, I don't feel any libido ever, nor sexual attraction (I mean, only felt these one single time in my life), and only sometimes sexual desire (so I do masturbate), but the thing that triggers me the most is how I'm not able to feel anything in such context.
I might be not relaxed enough? or is she just not understanding my body? I really don't know
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I am Ace but I dont like garlicbread
I like bread but not the garlic taste. I used to like it but not anymore. Also it makes people stinky.
I would still choose garlicbread over sex, cause it’s the lesser of two evils.
Anyone else agree with me?
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I like bread but not the garlic taste. I used to like it but not anymore. Also it makes people stinky.
I would still choose garlicbread over sex, cause it’s the lesser of two evils.
Anyone else agree with me?
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A question I've been wanting to ask you all...
Was there ever a time where you were indecisive on who you are, but you knew it was somewhere under the ace or aro spectrum?
And how did it reflect in your relationships and friendships?
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Was there ever a time where you were indecisive on who you are, but you knew it was somewhere under the ace or aro spectrum?
And how did it reflect in your relationships and friendships?
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Open Mc server
Minecraft aro/ace server setup.
Hey guys, I'm just finished up setting a MC server for my discord group (it's an aro/Ace discord) and thought I would share it with you guys if you would all like to join.
In the discord 13 people said they would play or be interested in playing on the server. But obviously they all won't be on at the same time so it's open to other ace/aro people.
Since I'm making it a public server I've installed a claim plugin so no griefieng or stealing would be possible. There are a few other plugins installed but it's mostly vanilla quality of life plugins. You don't need to install anything.
I've created a new discord server just for this so feel free to join. Any other aro/ace discord owners feel free to share with your group if anyone wants to join and make it one big collaborative world where all other servers can hang out and chat on at no extra cost :)
The server has just opened today and both bedrock and Java can join.
The rules are simple.
1) be nice to everyone.
2) no bullying, politics or any other offensive & sensitive topics.
3) have fun.
https://discord.gg/KVrjdQFmb5
Mods delete if not allowed (I've read the rules and it's seems fine). Thanks
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Minecraft aro/ace server setup.
Hey guys, I'm just finished up setting a MC server for my discord group (it's an aro/Ace discord) and thought I would share it with you guys if you would all like to join.
In the discord 13 people said they would play or be interested in playing on the server. But obviously they all won't be on at the same time so it's open to other ace/aro people.
Since I'm making it a public server I've installed a claim plugin so no griefieng or stealing would be possible. There are a few other plugins installed but it's mostly vanilla quality of life plugins. You don't need to install anything.
I've created a new discord server just for this so feel free to join. Any other aro/ace discord owners feel free to share with your group if anyone wants to join and make it one big collaborative world where all other servers can hang out and chat on at no extra cost :)
The server has just opened today and both bedrock and Java can join.
The rules are simple.
1) be nice to everyone.
2) no bullying, politics or any other offensive & sensitive topics.
3) have fun.
https://discord.gg/KVrjdQFmb5
Mods delete if not allowed (I've read the rules and it's seems fine). Thanks
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Are you guys out to people irl?
I’m 23M and I’m not. Just curious if anyone else is.
I tried telling one person(a distant cousin), because I thought she would get it cuz she lived a life that went against our cultures sexual norms(I’m Indian-American, like South Asian Indian). But she said it sounded like “incel cope” and I just “needed to get laid before I became a full blown incel”. Then she thought I was joking and “saw through the joke” and I laughed it off with her. Yeah, never telling anyone again 💀💀💀
I also gradually stopped talking to her lol.
I just tell people “I’m religious and waiting for marriage, wanna work on my career first” now. People don’t prod and sometimes actually give me respect for it. It’s only a half-lie cuz I am religious and I do wanna work on my career first, but none of those are the concrete reasons why obviously.
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I’m 23M and I’m not. Just curious if anyone else is.
I tried telling one person(a distant cousin), because I thought she would get it cuz she lived a life that went against our cultures sexual norms(I’m Indian-American, like South Asian Indian). But she said it sounded like “incel cope” and I just “needed to get laid before I became a full blown incel”. Then she thought I was joking and “saw through the joke” and I laughed it off with her. Yeah, never telling anyone again 💀💀💀
I also gradually stopped talking to her lol.
I just tell people “I’m religious and waiting for marriage, wanna work on my career first” now. People don’t prod and sometimes actually give me respect for it. It’s only a half-lie cuz I am religious and I do wanna work on my career first, but none of those are the concrete reasons why obviously.
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Was organising my pins and badges and after putting these next to each other, the idea of an ace bimbo confused and intrigues me, is that possible?
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Came across this post today
https://www.reddit.com/r/truscum/comments/znh3hj/why\_is\_asexuality\_apart\_of\_the\_lgbtq\_community/
Why? Why do people discriminate against us and then turn around and cry about how they're so discriminated? Like obviously they are discriminated but shouldn't that make them have more empathy instead of continuing the discrimination cycle? I don't understand why would you assume we're not facing oppression? If you tell someone you're ace or aroace they immediately assume your hormones are messed up, you have mental issues, you were traumatized, you're a prude, or you're faking for attention. We include trans people in LGBTQ+ when that is an identity and not a sexual orientation. Why assume that because we can be in opposite gender relationships, even though they would be heteroromantic and not heterosexual relationships, that we don't count what about bisexuals then if a bisexual woman dates a man are they not bisexual anymore does that automatically make them straight. They claim it's not a sexual orientation but it is objectively more of one then transgender. Asexuality is about how much SEXUAL attraction you feel what about that is not a sexual orientation?
Also not saying that trans people shouldn't be included just that asexuality is clearly more about sexuality than transgender imo.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/truscum/comments/znh3hj/why\_is\_asexuality\_apart\_of\_the\_lgbtq\_community/
Why? Why do people discriminate against us and then turn around and cry about how they're so discriminated? Like obviously they are discriminated but shouldn't that make them have more empathy instead of continuing the discrimination cycle? I don't understand why would you assume we're not facing oppression? If you tell someone you're ace or aroace they immediately assume your hormones are messed up, you have mental issues, you were traumatized, you're a prude, or you're faking for attention. We include trans people in LGBTQ+ when that is an identity and not a sexual orientation. Why assume that because we can be in opposite gender relationships, even though they would be heteroromantic and not heterosexual relationships, that we don't count what about bisexuals then if a bisexual woman dates a man are they not bisexual anymore does that automatically make them straight. They claim it's not a sexual orientation but it is objectively more of one then transgender. Asexuality is about how much SEXUAL attraction you feel what about that is not a sexual orientation?
Also not saying that trans people shouldn't be included just that asexuality is clearly more about sexuality than transgender imo.
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