I'm sick of being objectified
For context I am a 16 identifies female born female apothisexual, I work at a wendy's and I am just sick of being seen as a body or a women first and a person with feelings second The amount of times someone has come in and would just stare at my br***ts the entire time they were ordering and make comments like oh you remind me of my granddaughter(To be clear in a creepy way usually the ones who stare) or your so pretty(again in a creepy way), even had a late 30s man ask me on a date once, is sickening the fact that someone can just go into a fast food place leer at a minor and make creepy comments and it's seen as normal is honestly so revolting to me. I genuinely just hate it I have two older sisters who have had numerous similar/worse situations mean while my brothers have had no such similar situations(obviously this still happens to some men but it is unfortunately way more common and normalized to sexualize and objectify women)
sorry about my bad grammar I wasn't sure how to word this in the way I wanted to also sorry if this breaks any rules of the subreddit
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For context I am a 16 identifies female born female apothisexual, I work at a wendy's and I am just sick of being seen as a body or a women first and a person with feelings second The amount of times someone has come in and would just stare at my br***ts the entire time they were ordering and make comments like oh you remind me of my granddaughter(To be clear in a creepy way usually the ones who stare) or your so pretty(again in a creepy way), even had a late 30s man ask me on a date once, is sickening the fact that someone can just go into a fast food place leer at a minor and make creepy comments and it's seen as normal is honestly so revolting to me. I genuinely just hate it I have two older sisters who have had numerous similar/worse situations mean while my brothers have had no such similar situations(obviously this still happens to some men but it is unfortunately way more common and normalized to sexualize and objectify women)
sorry about my bad grammar I wasn't sure how to word this in the way I wanted to also sorry if this breaks any rules of the subreddit
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Asexual reproduction!
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According to this, we asexuals have a special method of reproduction! Stay garlicy :P
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can asexuals sexually desire within fantasy context?
So i consider myself asexual.
In real life, I rarely experience sexual attraction to anyone, and when I do, it’s short-term.
However, when I watch p.rn and see a specific actor (let’s call him M) in a sexual scene, I feel sexual desire specifically for M in that moment.
Outside of that scene, I don’t find M attractive, I am not attracted to him, and most likely I wouldn’t care about him even if I saw him naked in real life.
Does this mean I’m actually sexually attracted to M(because i do desire him when i see him in sexual scene) or is my desire only part of a fantasy attraction?
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So i consider myself asexual.
In real life, I rarely experience sexual attraction to anyone, and when I do, it’s short-term.
However, when I watch p.rn and see a specific actor (let’s call him M) in a sexual scene, I feel sexual desire specifically for M in that moment.
Outside of that scene, I don’t find M attractive, I am not attracted to him, and most likely I wouldn’t care about him even if I saw him naked in real life.
Does this mean I’m actually sexually attracted to M(because i do desire him when i see him in sexual scene) or is my desire only part of a fantasy attraction?
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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Am I Aromantic or just confused?
I'm really confused about what I am. For a while, I thought I was asexual, then I found out I was demisexual, but these days I don't know if I'm aromantic. I feel physical attraction to people, and I hang out with friends. I think kissing is super cool, and I find the idea of sex attractive when I'm in a relationship where I really trust the person (I CAN'T HOOK UP WITH SOMEONE I DON'T KNOW OR HAVEN'T GOTTEN CLOSE TO). When I have crushes on people, I get a little obsessed with them, but it doesn't last long, a maximum of 1/2 months. I've never felt those butterflies in my stomach or anything like that.
A while ago, I was "hooking up with someone," but I couldn't LIKE the person. Initially, I really liked the person, and I thought they were pretty and so on, but it turned out that I suddenly no longer thought they were pretty, interesting, or even cool. I thought that if the person simply disappeared without giving me an explanation, I wouldn't care. After we "broke up," I didn't suffer, I wasn't even sad.
I came across the question of whether I've NEVER really liked someone. I've had a few crushes, but every time I moved towards something more serious, I froze and couldn't have anything more with that person, so I distanced myself and instantly forgot about the person.
I really don't know if I'm aromantic. I know I've never fallen in love with anyone. I don't know if it's because I have bad luck, or if it's because I REALLY idealize what a relationship would be like, since I'm a lover of romance books/movies.
My friend asked me if I wasn't aromantic, and I simply didn't accept it because I loved the idea of romance, and I didn't know how to answer... If anyone can help, please, I'm willing to listen to everything!
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I'm really confused about what I am. For a while, I thought I was asexual, then I found out I was demisexual, but these days I don't know if I'm aromantic. I feel physical attraction to people, and I hang out with friends. I think kissing is super cool, and I find the idea of sex attractive when I'm in a relationship where I really trust the person (I CAN'T HOOK UP WITH SOMEONE I DON'T KNOW OR HAVEN'T GOTTEN CLOSE TO). When I have crushes on people, I get a little obsessed with them, but it doesn't last long, a maximum of 1/2 months. I've never felt those butterflies in my stomach or anything like that.
A while ago, I was "hooking up with someone," but I couldn't LIKE the person. Initially, I really liked the person, and I thought they were pretty and so on, but it turned out that I suddenly no longer thought they were pretty, interesting, or even cool. I thought that if the person simply disappeared without giving me an explanation, I wouldn't care. After we "broke up," I didn't suffer, I wasn't even sad.
I came across the question of whether I've NEVER really liked someone. I've had a few crushes, but every time I moved towards something more serious, I froze and couldn't have anything more with that person, so I distanced myself and instantly forgot about the person.
I really don't know if I'm aromantic. I know I've never fallen in love with anyone. I don't know if it's because I have bad luck, or if it's because I REALLY idealize what a relationship would be like, since I'm a lover of romance books/movies.
My friend asked me if I wasn't aromantic, and I simply didn't accept it because I loved the idea of romance, and I didn't know how to answer... If anyone can help, please, I'm willing to listen to everything!
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My phone changed the word "apostila" to "apothisexual" when I was texting my dad and I'm afraid he saw it and just didn't comment anything
if that's how he finds out about it honestly fuck my life man
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if that's how he finds out about it honestly fuck my life man
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21M and looking for bros
Hi, I'm 21 M and bored . I'd like to make new friends and have new fun experiences. I like reading and listening to music. And on most days, I just watch YouTube videos.
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Hi, I'm 21 M and bored . I'd like to make new friends and have new fun experiences. I like reading and listening to music. And on most days, I just watch YouTube videos.
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Am I a pervert?
I'm struggling with this a lot. Here's the thing. I'm asexual. I've never felt sexual attraction to anyone, I could never jerk off to any of my crushes and even my partner doesn't turn me on. Whenever we have sex I don't need it to be reciprocated and we're happy with that. Whenever I watch porn (which is rarely since I don't jerk off that often, I mostly watch solo stuff and usually only get turned on by the sensation the person would get from said action).
My problem is the fact that although I don't get any sexual gratification from this, I still have a lot of sexual thoughts. I have a very dirty mind and I'm ashamed to admit that sometimes I think about being used by older men. I stare at people in the wrong way, but again, not in the way an actual creep would do it. But am I actually a creep? I don't know. I've been exposed to sexual material ever since I was a little kid. I've had stuff happen to me that might've affected my mindset. I was pretty sexualized by my ex and some other people when we were still in puberty (so like 14-15).
So what even am i? Am I a pervert? A creep?
I need somebody to explain to me what is happening because it's making me sick just thinking about my behavior and all the things that come out of my mouth. Please
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I'm struggling with this a lot. Here's the thing. I'm asexual. I've never felt sexual attraction to anyone, I could never jerk off to any of my crushes and even my partner doesn't turn me on. Whenever we have sex I don't need it to be reciprocated and we're happy with that. Whenever I watch porn (which is rarely since I don't jerk off that often, I mostly watch solo stuff and usually only get turned on by the sensation the person would get from said action).
My problem is the fact that although I don't get any sexual gratification from this, I still have a lot of sexual thoughts. I have a very dirty mind and I'm ashamed to admit that sometimes I think about being used by older men. I stare at people in the wrong way, but again, not in the way an actual creep would do it. But am I actually a creep? I don't know. I've been exposed to sexual material ever since I was a little kid. I've had stuff happen to me that might've affected my mindset. I was pretty sexualized by my ex and some other people when we were still in puberty (so like 14-15).
So what even am i? Am I a pervert? A creep?
I need somebody to explain to me what is happening because it's making me sick just thinking about my behavior and all the things that come out of my mouth. Please
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