Seems very asexual in nature to me
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My Parents Wish I Was Straight

My (he/him) parents don’t want me to tell people I’m ace, they want me to say “I’m not interested in girls right now!” When I objected, my dad said, “Why not? It’s true, isn’t it?”

The way they said it was so infuriating to me. They sounded so chipper and innocent, but I knew what was really going on. They wanted me to act as if I were or could be straight, just so they don’t have to acknowledge that their son isn’t into girls.

…

Truth be told, this was a couple of years ago, but I still get upset about it sometimes. I haven’t really had any good people I could talk to about it, though. Any kind words would be appreciated.

Y’all remember to love yourselves. 💜

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Excitement towards myself

There are times when I get turned on, not by someone, but by myself. I even have fantasies about myself alone, whether it's about provocative expressions or clothing. Is it normal for me to get turned on by myself as an aroace?

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¿Soy asexual con indiferencia al sexo o solo demisexual?

¡Hola! vengo aquí con una inquietud bastante compleja de responder y que considero compleja de responder, les pongo en contexto:

desde que tengo 15 años me he identificado de manera clara como asexual, esto debido a que nunca tuve la intención de ver a los demás de manera sexual ni sentir este tipo de atracción por ellos (entendiendo que me atraen todo tipo de personas románticamente) y desde ese momento hasta ahora que estoy en mis 20 y tantos se ha mantenido así.

el tema es que hace poco conocí a una chica que me atrae bastante de manera romántica, y de la nada comencé a desarrollar otro tipo de sentimientos por ella asociado principalmente a que si me imagino manteniendo un vínculo sexual con ella, esto jamás me había pasado con otra persona. Estuve investigando por mi cuenta y resulta que hay personas asexuales que tienen sexo regularmente con propósitos de no atracción (principalmente para satisfacer a sus parejas y demás) pero no creo que esa vision encaje conmigo.

por otro lado, he descubierto la etiqueta de la demisexualidad como una manera de identificarme, sin embargo, me he identificado como asexual tanto tiempo que ya todo mi círculo cercano me ve de esa forma y tengo miedo de que esta chica me juzgue por mi manera de expresar mi sexualidad ¿qué debería hacer en este sentido? ¿elegir una nueva etiqueta o mantenerme con la que ya tengo?

pd: publico esto aquí ya que me interesa conocer otras perspectivas de vida y sobre todo del espectro de la asexualidad.

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"no touchey" - Emperor Cusco
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Am I somewhere on the spectrum?

Been feeling confused for a long while and am hoping that even if the answer is no y'all's insights might point me in the right direction. 26M.

To preface- I feel sexual attraction quite frequently. I masturbate relatively regularly. I fantasize about people I know/ significant others. I watch porn and read erotica.

But the thing is... sex itself REALLY doesn't do it for me. Ever since my first time it's repeatedly been a huge let down, and I've tried with enough women that at this point I'm pretty confident sex just isn't for me. It's been enough of a letdown that I've never achieved climax during sex, which has, without fail, inflicted psychic damage on the women I've been with. It just leaves me and them feeling awful, and means I tend to get a lot of breakup texts after one attempt.

I've even been to a urologist about it, who tested my testosterone levels and then just kinda shrugged when it came back above normal. I've even tried to find a therapist who specializes in sex but none have ever returned my calls/emails.

Anyway, I know this doesn't align with most (if not all) asexuals. But if anyone has had a similar experience, or has heard of something that sounds like it fits, I'm all ears. I'm just tired of feeling confused.

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I had sex and now I’m confused.

I, 25m, am or was bi.

I’ve done the deed with a guy before (once like 10 years ago) but this was my first time with a girl.

I had… performance issues to say the least, like she was very, very pretty but the bells did not toll for me.

I tried it, didn’t like it, and now I’m sat questioning myself.

Like, what am I? I feel somewhat hollow, I feel sexual attraction but I don’t think I want to have sex again. Am I asexual? Am I demisexual?

help me pls

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Do you view Sex pragmatically?

Often when asked as an Ace (and Aro) person, I’m asked how I view sex as a concept. And frankly it’s a shrug. Nothing wigs me out much, except stomach acid for some weird reason.

Anyway, it often baffles me why so many people put sex acts on a pedestal. Yes they are a form of intimacy for partners, still it’s treated as sacred and somehow also abhorrent.

You want to talk about it, but also not. You want to explore it, but also not. Allo people in general seem to love the idea of sex but the act of speaking it out loud makes them spout things like purity culture and so many rules that differ from person to person. (As in the ‘correct’ way to do sex or talk about it or even think about it)

To me Sex is just something we as animals do. As all animals do. We all feel arousal, whether we want to or not, some of us just don’t have a need to act on said arousal and some of us do (badly). It’s puzzling to me why people find this so weird, or even find sex in media or in conversations repugnant.

Like yes I know time and place. Yet even when it’s okay to talk about it, people act like they should whisper.

Sorry if this incoherent rambling isn’t as straight forward. I guess I’m wondering if anyone else thinks this way. Or am I weird for shrugging my shoulder when a friend wants to talk about nsfw with me, because it literally is nothing?

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It’s okay to be ace!
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Posting my place at its messiest (It’s usually VERY clean and organized so once I’m able to clean everything up I’ll make another post)
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Is this an asexual thing or am i crazy??

Whenever someone is interested in me it ABSOLUTELY FREAKS ME OUT. Like i get an unreasonably immense anxiety, stress, fear, you name it. The feeling is like being hunted (literally), all i want to do is run away, hide and never ever see this person ever again which is so stupid because this applies even for people that i generally like and are my friends. Seriously i feel like an antelope that's being prayed on and it's ridiculousss and unfortunately sometimes it has ruined friendships for me. Anyone relate?

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How do I explain how I feel attraction to my allosexual partner?

I've known that I am Asexual and alloromantic since 2022. I feel proud for finding a big part of my identity, even if at times I am still figuring it out myself.

My partner of over a year is allosexual and alloromantic. He has known that I am Asexual since before we started dating, and I know that a lot of people aren't very educated on asexuality like I have educated myself, but I feel like he doesn't quite understand in what way I am attracted to him nor do I know how to explain to him in a way that is understandable.

I find him pretty. I find many people aesthetically pleasing. And often I might describe them as hot or pretty to relate better to allosexual people. Do I find him attractive in the sexual way? No! That's in the sexuality silly! I'll crack sex jokes and try to flirt with them because I find it fun. I'm not sex repulsed, but I'm not entirely sex favorable either.

Anyway. He seems to get upset if I imply that I'm not sexually attracted to him. I don't mean it in a malicious way, and I only implied it once or twice, but that was sort of a given when he got into a relationship with me, no? Am I being oblivious to something? I know it might hurt a bit, but that's an entire part of my sexuality being that I feel little to no sexual attraction. Surely there's some kind of awareness after over a year??

How do I explain it? How do I educate?

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What is a romantic, sex-free relationship called?

Sorry if this is an extremely obvious question but: What is it called if a relationship is romantic or has romantic elements but is intentionally not a sexual relationship?

It feels weird to just call it a romantic relationship because I think most people will just assume that means it’s also a sexual relationship or used to be one or could be one in the future. QPR also seems wrong because the word platonic is literally in the name but I guess some QPRs can have romantic or romance-coded elements…

Also: Alloaces/ aro-spec aces, what do you call your romantic relationships?

Thx!

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I don't know if this is something people ask on here, but do you think I could be ace?

Hey everyone, I'm not usually one to post something on a forum like this, but thought getting some insight from people who are ace might be helpful, so here I am reaching out to strangers on the internet.

I (19M) grew up relatively sheltered. The sex education I got was really basic like your body is changing, and my health classes were really just nutrition and how to stay healthy. The first time I had even heard the word sex was when I watched a show and a character mentioned wanting it. I immediately asked my parents, and they just said it could be a good thing if done correctly, very vague. They just didn't talk about that stuff, and weren't open to have some of those more difficult conversations with me. During my sophomore year, one of my friends came out as LGBT, so I decided to do my own research. This is where I found out what sex was, as a sophomore in high school.

Originally, I loved the idea of bisexual and thought that was where I was. I spent the summer before my junior year trying out different sexuality labels and gender labels with my friends, and found out that I liked myself just the way I was. I dropped the bisexual label after a year, I think I thought I was bi because I had aesthetic attraction to both genders, or could see myself being close with both.

Recently, I've noticed a huge difference with the way I view relationships. Honestly I should've realized this before. Now that I'm an adult, friends have been telling me about their sex lives and what they find attractive. It just sounded absolutely disgusting, like why would you do that for pleasure?! I've always thought dating was about finding the perfect partner and then raising a family together, at least that's what I've always wanted since I was little.

I remember back in my senior year, when I finally got the courage to ask out the girl I thought would be the perfect partner. She said yes, and then after our first date I realized she wasn't the one I could be with. We did reconnect last year and tried again, but it was clear that it wouldn't work out. I also met an amazing girl this summer, but I don't know if I should pursue an actual relationship despite mutual attraction because of how the last one went (plus she's going to college in a different state).

My biggest desire in life is to find the girl of my dreams and then raise a family. I'm going to school to become a teacher, I love helping kids and want to have some of my own one day. I just don't want to have to go through the whole dating/sex process to get there. It's just that sex piece, like I love hugs and sitting close with people. I had a conversion with my parents on this, and they thought I was crazy. I don't know, do you think there's a chance I could be ace or am I just overcomplicating this?

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Sex scenes in movies

Does anyone else get uncomfortable with sex scenes in movies/tv shows? ESPECIALLY these days when it feels like every single movie has an unprompted or unnecessary sex scene. I’ll never forget watching Oppenheimer and seeing Florence Pugh riding Cillian Murphy. Like… this is a movie about the atomic bomb why the fuck is there a sex scene! I understand that sex sells and most people don’t mind it/like it but it’s literally every single movie. I wanted to get into watching The Boys but it’s basically a porno :/

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