My boyfriend doesn't do anything for me unless I have sex with him

Hi, this is a throwaway account. I have been ace for as long as I can remember, but I have been out for about 4 years now. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and we don't have sex often. This is due to my medical issues and being ace. He was okay with this until we moved out on our own. Since we have more alone time that we should be having sex at least once a month, but he will backtrack and say it's okay. Now if I ask for help with anything, such as carrying things (I have some weakness), driving, and any other simple things that someone wouldn't feel to make a comment on. These comments are often the lines of "I am not your maid" or something similar then followed up by "I don't say anything about us never having sex". I just been frustrated that I can't be loved or cared for by someone. I apologize if this post isn't allowed, but I needed to vent somewhere with no biased opinion.

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So many thoughts.
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Making some prehistoric pride dinosaur again, currently still finishing them up and adding ones that have been requested for a while now :D Can you guess what is what?

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Making some prehistoric pride dinosaur again, currently still finishing them up and adding ones that have been requested for a while now (Aro-Ace especially) :D Can you guess what is what?

https://redd.it/1n60m3t
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Making some prehistoric pride dinosaur again, currently still finishing them up and adding ones that have been requested for a while now (Aro-Ace especially) :D Can you guess what is what?

https://redd.it/1n60hdx
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Seems very asexual in nature to me
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