Alrighty, i just wanna make sure im not alone

I feel so out of place.

Lets just say, im in highschool and.. you probably know how this goes.

I just want a genuine conversation and friend where we can hangout, talk, bond, dance, goof off, etc, without everything turned sexual.

So far, i am unsuccessful with this matter. People here are either crazy horny, rude, talk crap behind peoples backs, etc.

Like, at this point, im just trying to find someone who sex isn’t everything to them and are at the very least, respectful.

People here will look at you and be like, “thats the one” without even talking to you. Then ask you out, or only talk to you because they had that physical interest and would like to get to know you more because they like how you look.

People checking people out, like crazy, chatting with their friends about someone as they walk by. Dude, im talking about these people are the type of people on why we have a dress code. Cuz i’ve met people, if you could see an outline of someones bra through their shirt, someone is wearing leggings, etc, and they go feral and its insane. “Dang.. that girl needs to cover up…” thirsty type of people. Most people here just wants to bang!! Its nasty and just straight up rude and disrespectful at this point.

Im just looking for just one respectful person and partner to be by my side. Someone who understand me, and i, them. Someone who we can match eachothers energy. Someone who is respectful enough to not check people out, and just NOT BE A FREAKING PERVERT. WHERE IS THE RESPECT IN THIS WORLD- WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND-

I have multiple friend groups here, but why does none of them feel like home? if that even makes sense. I just wish i had one person, one person.

Unless i just need to accept this alone factor, i got my dog, my hobbies, my music, etc haha.

Thanks for listening lol! Havea great day! ✨✨✨ take some garlic bread lol spawns garlic bread





https://redd.it/1n4wyzc
@asexualityonreddit

Am I Asexual? Looking for thoughts

Hi everyone, 25F here, I’ve been questioning my sexuality and I’d like to hear some thoughts from others who might relate. I don’t really feel sexual attraction to men or females. I only have intimacy rarely if I have a strong emotional connection with a man, but even then, I don’t actually enjoy sex. I can easily go months without sex or masturbation and not miss it, and most of the time I feel disgusted when I masturbate or see nudity/sexual content. Because of this, I think I might lean more toward being asexual rather than demisexual, possibly even sex-repulsed. I’d really appreciate hearing from others about whether this sounds like asexuality to you, and how you’ve come to terms with your identity or navigated relationships if you feel similarly.

https://redd.it/1n4vz0b
@asexualityonreddit

Bread?

Other than ✨Garlic Bread✨, what are your favourite varieties of bread? (I'm partial to cinnamon)

https://redd.it/1n4zxfu
@asexualityonreddit

Am I asexual?

Ever since my bf of a year broke up with me, I haven’t felt sexual attraction to anyone. Could I just be missing the sexual connection I had with him or could I be asexual?

https://redd.it/1n52px5
@asexualityonreddit

Has anyone else experienced this on Reddit?

https://redd.it/1n557ot
@asexualityonreddit

We’ve won
https://redd.it/1n58rnb
@asexualityonreddit

For the 14 people who recognize it
https://redd.it/1n59n5o
@asexualityonreddit

I’m so far removed from sex I just don’t care.

I really don’t. I’m asexual because I just don’t care.

Sex sounds so boring. I never understood why people liked it.

https://redd.it/1n5bdmq
@asexualityonreddit

ace and allo relationship

I'm ace F19 and I finally found a guy that I like and he actually likes me back, he's M21. we haven't talked about it yet, but I'm assuming he's allo. I'm just concerned that this relationship isn't gonna go anywhere because of our sexuality difference.
does anyone have any advice on how early into this I should tell him I'm ace? or advice on how to make it work between us if he is allo?
thanks guys<3

https://redd.it/1n59lrm
@asexualityonreddit

Can you find a body nice or attractive as an aesthetic appeal without finding it sexually appealing?




Like. Finding a body form or shape attractive or nice but you don’t find it sexually attractive.


Or see it like a renaissance statues or something like that.


Bc i do. I can find a body nice. I have Heard ppl saying nice body to others when they like someone. I always thought they meant the aesthetic appeal until they would tell me what they want to do with their body….


I never thought of doing something sexual with a body and i still dont. But i do find them huggable ( all bodies. I mean it as a compliment. I love hugs )

I would want to hug them but never go far from doing anything sexual.


Or maybe paint one like a renaissance painting.



I appreciate the aesthetic appeal but never gotten what was so appealing to do something sexual with someones body when you love them.

I dont think i feel this way. Idk how it feels.




So yeah, like the title says, can an asexual find a body nice as an aesthetic appeal instead of sexual? I would like to know

https://redd.it/1n5d7nn
@asexualityonreddit

Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

https://redd.it/1n5erif
@asexualityonreddit

It's simple math , please🥲
https://redd.it/1n5dqim
@asexualityonreddit

Bro why is it that religious people praise abstinency but not asexuality?

(I do understand that many asexuals do want to have sex and aren’t commonly abstinent but this is my experience and I am abstinent along with asexuality.)

Carrying on…

I recently talked to an extremely religious person who I knew to be lgbtqi(mind the absence of the a) accepting. I mentioned in passing that I was asexual and they flipped out! They said that there’s a first floor suite waiting for me in hell.

They also said that I shouldn’t say that I was on the lgbtqi spectrum since they said I was a “straight person who either couldn’t or didn’t want to have sex” (I am a minor btw.) they also said that if I was abstinent I should just “say it instead of trying to be special with a fake title”

I also mentioned that I was gay aroace where they said that “I couldn’t be two things and (once again) are just trying to be special.)

They also said the classic “sexuality is just a basic human need” line, which I obviously disagreed with. When I mentioned that I was also aromantic (making me aroace) they said something very similar, at this moment I really didn’t know what to do so I said that they could think whatever the hell she wanted and carried on with what I was saying before (which was something about photography btw)

Sorry for the long post.

TLDR; aphobe gets pissy about a passing mention. (I wish my phone would stop trying to autocorrect “aphobe”)

If you read that all, have a chocolate 🍫

https://redd.it/1n5e1fw
@asexualityonreddit

“If you're sex-averse and don't watch porn, what do you even do for fun?” me in my room:

https://redd.it/1n5dvzz
@asexualityonreddit

I'm just trying to have a drink
https://redd.it/1n5ee3o
@asexualityonreddit

Disappointed really vent
https://redd.it/1n5mwr6
@asexualityonreddit

funny way i found out i was ace

when i was around 6-ish, i had a fear of randomly becoming pregnant when you reached adulthood (as in becoming pregnant without sexual contact). i would literally go to bed SHAKING because i knew i would become an adult someday, and that meant surprise baby in my uneducated mind.

at 14, i had heard about asexuality, and the term clicked with me. at that point, i was never sexually attracted to anyone, even while going through puberty.

now, at 17, i feel like my childhood fear of pregnancy had a part in me discovering i was ace. the idea of becoming pregnant still makes me queasy, but i know now that it'll most likely never happen to me.

just a funny story i wanted to share since i was a dumb kid, but i guess it helped in the long run 😅

https://redd.it/1n5l5e5
@asexualityonreddit

Heartstopper Asexuality Representation

As an ace person, I’m really curious to hear people’s thoughts about the aro/ace representation in Heartstopper.

When I discussed my criticism of the show in the main Heartstopper sub, I got a lot of downvotes because, according to them; ‘Isaac is the only aroace character in a romance show’ so ‘of course he wouldn’t have much screentime’. But for me Heartstopper isn’t just a romance show. It explores queerness, friendship, bullying, conformity, (platonic) love, and identity; all themes that are extremely relatable and relevant to aro/ace people. I love the show (have watched it countless times lol) but honestly feel that asexuality could have been explored in a slightly more in-depth and nuanced way.

For me one of my favourite ‘representation’ moments in the show wasn’t actually a scene with Isaac (the openly ace character) but the scene where Nick and Charlie (both allosexual) first discuss sex and Charlie is like, “I’d only want to do it if you did, and if you didn’t ever want to do it, then I wouldn’t either”. I saw people on Twitter saying that dialogue/scene was 'cheesy', 'the bare minimum', 'unrealistic' etc, but for me that line represents the exact kind of healthy communication and affirmation of identity I want to have in my future relationship as an ace person :)

I’m appreciative to see aroace rep in mainstream media, but to be completely honest, I find the rest of the asexual ‘moments’ in Heartstopper a little lacking and overly simple. I was disappointed that much of the aroace discussions in Season 3 felt shoehorned in and as if they didn’t get the same care, time and exploration as all of the other identities represented on the show. Especially when Alice Oseman said she had ‘big ace plans’ for Isaac and because I loved her novel ‘Loveless’…I suppose I was expecting a little more from the show. I also hate that we know very little about Isaac's personality, life, and back story. Kind of feeds into the stereotype of ace people being ‘innocent’, ‘childish’, ‘boring in the bedroom = boring in life’ caricature. 

Anyways, sorry for the long post and I’m curious to hear what others think!

Edit: I also want to add that I'm not judging anyone who likes or enjoys the asexual representation on the show! I actually thought the scene where Isaac hugged the Ace book in the library was really, really beautiful, among many other moments :)

https://redd.it/1n5sjdx
@asexualityonreddit