i hate this

I hate when you're genuinely being kind and supportive standing up for someone and somebody's like “they're not gonna let you hit bro” 🥀

BRO I wouldn't wanna hit someone eitherway. I AM NOT A VIOLENT PERSON!

https://redd.it/1n398hk
@asexualityonreddit

I'm disturbed by something my therapist said about attraction

One of the reasons I started therapy was that I wanted to explore why I can’t seem to feel attraction toward people, despite multiple attempts. I want to have a partner but I can't really fall in love so it never works.

My therapist told me I’m “picky” and that I need to learn to like the other person. He compared it to eating anchovies, saying that if you eat anchovies every day, you will eventually learn to like them—and that, in the same way, it works with people.

I told him I have tried forcing myself many times, and it has never created attraction. For example, I have a male best friend who is attracted to me, has confessed his feelings, and with whom I’ve attempted kissing and touching many times over the years. When my friend takes it too far with touching, I get so uncomfortable I almost want to hit him. My therapist didn’t seem to believe me and said I must not be doing it often enough. He insisted that I have to initiate, force myself to kiss, and do it daily for at least six months.

He also insisted that "eveyone does this" because many people are staying in a relationship only because they have a kid, or because they share a house.

When I asked him what this implied about sexual orientation—because if you can learn to like anyone, what’s the point of having orientations—he said that sexual orientations are not real, and that all humans are essentially bisexual.

I feel really disturbed. I was expecting a therapist to perhaps mention he wanted to explore where my lack of attraction comes from, not that he would actually believe that you can force yourself. I'm not sure I ever want to see a therapist again. I've already seen 7 in my life and never helpful. (I'm not from the US, if this matters)

https://redd.it/1n3d0la
@asexualityonreddit

why have sex when i can have a bird?

Like, they sing, they peck, and they're birds, doesn't that sound way more interesting than sex?

https://redd.it/1n37h1r
@asexualityonreddit

bottom text

https://redd.it/1n3hbsn
@asexualityonreddit

Does anyone developped intrusive thoughts after finding out abt asexuality?



Bc i did…i dont even wanna talk abt any details of myself. Bc i won’t


Lets say that you never felt sexual attraction in your Life and thought that sexual attraction meant admiration or cuteness aggression.


Until you found out abt asexuality and then realized how you misunderstood sexual attraction your entire Life bc of how ppl described it to you.

And now you started to develop intrusive thoughts abt if you are feeling sexual attraction and are just unconsciously repressing it yayyy.

Or the fact that your brain is telling you how you are forcing yourself not to feel that way for others bc you are forcing yourself or be ace or that you think its ‘’ shameful ‘’ even though you don’t know what could possibly be shameful abt sexual attraction but STILL don’t know how it supposed to feel either


( don’t talk abt how sexual attraction feels pls. I dont want any explanation since sexual attraction is just so confusing and very hard to even know you feel it or not to the point it becomes a crisis. So plsss dont explain it to me )

And now you are sitting there with your brain not giving you a break : D


Soooo, yeah. Who wants to talk abt it?

https://redd.it/1n3ksq3
@asexualityonreddit

Aces have family!
https://redd.it/1n3kcp4
@asexualityonreddit

I am making queer coat of arms, finally got around to adjust and give full colors for Ace, still looking for ideas/ advice/ suggestions for Aro-Ace. Anyone got anything good?

https://redd.it/1n3mxix
@asexualityonreddit

I am making queer coat of arms, finally got around to adjust and give full colors for Ace, still looking for idead7 advice / suggestions for Aro-Ace. Anyone got anything good?

https://redd.it/1n3mui4
@asexualityonreddit

So true lol
https://redd.it/1n3praq
@asexualityonreddit

came out to my family, didn't really go as I expected.

Came out to my family last night, and this is how they responded

Dad: "Well, cats exist." For context, my dad is a vet. And apparently, cats are such f*cked up animals that in almost every part of the textbook content on mammals should come with a side note that says 'except cats'. Idk if that's true or he's just exaggerating. Him being a dog person might have sth to do with it as well. But yeah. I guess in his book a human not having any sexual attraction isn't any weirder than a mammal being able to drop from great heights and being fine. Which does make sense.

However, he did go on Google to 'research' asexuality and decided it was fate that I was born on the year of the dragon.

Mom was surprised that I wasn't bi or lesbian. "You always said you thought (female princess character) was pretty!" "When I was like 3, mom, and I'm ace, not blind!" "Oh."

My brother, a psychology major just went into his room and brought out his textbook, opened to the part of Freud and generously handed me a pen, saying "Stab him to death- you already killed his theory, might as well finish the job."

My family is weird, but I love them.


\+) my family is pretty conservative, so I was expecting some kind of backlash or having to explain myself. I mean I did, but only because my parents had never heard of that term. My brother helped, said he had a classmate who was aro.

https://redd.it/1n3oqy5
@asexualityonreddit

what’s the freakiest explicit song you vibe too even though you’re maybe sex repulsed?

i’m currently vibing so bad at “house tour” by sabrina carpenter (the queen of freakyland) and i’m sex repulsed lol

https://redd.it/1n3uy3f
@asexualityonreddit

is he ace
https://redd.it/1n40xi3
@asexualityonreddit

Is there a possibility?

There is a possibility that I might like someone being aroace. I'm not saying that I'm going to like several people. I mean, I mean that at some point in my life I could like someone.

https://redd.it/1n42x8v
@asexualityonreddit