Am I asexual?
I'm writing here because I'm not an expert on the subject (and sorry for the grammar, English is not my language). I don't think I experience sexual attraction, or at least I don't understand how it works. I like engaging in sexual activity, I really enjoy getting pleasure from it, I also like reading stuff about sex and got excited, but I don't think of other people that way. I can't imagine myself having sex with others even though I want to, I've never had thoughts like "I want to have sex with that person". When I try to imagine other people in that way, it feels out of place and almost disgusting. Sometimes it's as if my brain is trying to figure out how or what it feels like to be sexually attracted to others, but this desire for satisfaction seems contradictory(?). I don't know how to explain it, and I don't know if I fit the spectrum...
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I'm writing here because I'm not an expert on the subject (and sorry for the grammar, English is not my language). I don't think I experience sexual attraction, or at least I don't understand how it works. I like engaging in sexual activity, I really enjoy getting pleasure from it, I also like reading stuff about sex and got excited, but I don't think of other people that way. I can't imagine myself having sex with others even though I want to, I've never had thoughts like "I want to have sex with that person". When I try to imagine other people in that way, it feels out of place and almost disgusting. Sometimes it's as if my brain is trying to figure out how or what it feels like to be sexually attracted to others, but this desire for satisfaction seems contradictory(?). I don't know how to explain it, and I don't know if I fit the spectrum...
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Sex positive asexuality discrimination
I could just scream right now. Over the past day, ive been getting berated and downvoted on a post i made where in the comments i mentioned being a sex positive asexual. I dont understand why so many people cant get it through their head that just because i dont look at people and experience attraction doesnt mean i cant have the good feels in my pants. The ignorance is just beyond me. This one redditor in particular commented no less than five times that im “mislabelling” myself and “confused” and im actually aromantic (ive been in love many, many times so trust me im not). I know reddit is a place full of trolls and bigots but its honestly just exhausting and ruined my day.
Thanks for listening to my vent
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I could just scream right now. Over the past day, ive been getting berated and downvoted on a post i made where in the comments i mentioned being a sex positive asexual. I dont understand why so many people cant get it through their head that just because i dont look at people and experience attraction doesnt mean i cant have the good feels in my pants. The ignorance is just beyond me. This one redditor in particular commented no less than five times that im “mislabelling” myself and “confused” and im actually aromantic (ive been in love many, many times so trust me im not). I know reddit is a place full of trolls and bigots but its honestly just exhausting and ruined my day.
Thanks for listening to my vent
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Alternatively: "What if I asexually reproduced on the ace pride bed?"
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I know this might sound weird but I love you guys
Just wanted to tell yall how much i love this community
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Just wanted to tell yall how much i love this community
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Something I learned about surgeries I wished I'd known sooner
I recently learned hospitals that train medical students also have had a history of doing un-consensual pelvic exams and prostate exams on those who are under anesthesia before surgery. The surgery doesn't have to be related to the area being examined, although I can't say for oral surgery whether patients often wear gowns. It's been passed since the early 2003s for some states and more recently 2020s for others banning this without explicit consent being signed by the patient. Nonetheless it's scary how I never knew this was a thing some trainees had been given permission to do under supervision of the surgeon.
As someone with cptsd from sexual abuse (AFAB) this is insane to not know about till later in my life. I would look up whether you're in the states or not if you are protected by needing signed consent because apparently not all states (US) require hospitals to ask permission before doing these procedures without your knowledge. Request medical records of post surgeries since they still list what is done even if they never told you every procedure taken that wasn't what you thought the surgery entailed
I don't mean to fear monger, I just want to share in case anyone would want to look into it themselves and be ready to be extra clear what you're comfortable with people doing to you, and to stand your ground on HIPPA rights.
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I recently learned hospitals that train medical students also have had a history of doing un-consensual pelvic exams and prostate exams on those who are under anesthesia before surgery. The surgery doesn't have to be related to the area being examined, although I can't say for oral surgery whether patients often wear gowns. It's been passed since the early 2003s for some states and more recently 2020s for others banning this without explicit consent being signed by the patient. Nonetheless it's scary how I never knew this was a thing some trainees had been given permission to do under supervision of the surgeon.
As someone with cptsd from sexual abuse (AFAB) this is insane to not know about till later in my life. I would look up whether you're in the states or not if you are protected by needing signed consent because apparently not all states (US) require hospitals to ask permission before doing these procedures without your knowledge. Request medical records of post surgeries since they still list what is done even if they never told you every procedure taken that wasn't what you thought the surgery entailed
I don't mean to fear monger, I just want to share in case anyone would want to look into it themselves and be ready to be extra clear what you're comfortable with people doing to you, and to stand your ground on HIPPA rights.
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Idk seems a bit asexual tho
https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomeyuri/comments/1mmyeog/equestria_girls_i_mean_shes_got_you_there/
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https://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomeyuri/comments/1mmyeog/equestria_girls_i_mean_shes_got_you_there/
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Anyone else dislike masturbation yet still need to do it 😒
I don't know about most asexuals but I dislike masturbation. Yet Im still a human and have libido.
I really don't like being horny. I don't know if most people do.
So in order to avoid getting horny I masturbate. I also am dopamine deficient and have trouble falling asleep so I got into the habit of doing it regularly to feel something and fall asleep.
Im trying to figure out a system or something so i can not be horny and masturbate as little as possible.
Does anyone else feel like this? Or experience something similar? Any ideas, or thoughts would be great! Thanks!
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I don't know about most asexuals but I dislike masturbation. Yet Im still a human and have libido.
I really don't like being horny. I don't know if most people do.
So in order to avoid getting horny I masturbate. I also am dopamine deficient and have trouble falling asleep so I got into the habit of doing it regularly to feel something and fall asleep.
Im trying to figure out a system or something so i can not be horny and masturbate as little as possible.
Does anyone else feel like this? Or experience something similar? Any ideas, or thoughts would be great! Thanks!
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