My friend keeps infantilizing me
So I came out as aromantic and asexual to my friend about a year and a half ago, he seemed pretty accepting for about a year. A few months ago he started doing this thing where when he makes a sexual joke, if I don't instantly laugh at it or if it takes me a second to register what he said, he will call me a "sweet summer child". One scenario that recently happened was we were playing a game together and he made a sexual joke about tentacles and I said in a joking tone "What kind of videos are you watching" and then I chuckled, his response to that was that "It makes sense I wouldn't know about that kind of thing", at the time his response sort of stunned and confused me so I didn't say anything in response, just sort of went quiet. I really want to confront him about it but he only does this kind of thing maybe once every other week or so meaning that when it does happen it catches me off guard and I don't know how to respond to it in the moment.
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So I came out as aromantic and asexual to my friend about a year and a half ago, he seemed pretty accepting for about a year. A few months ago he started doing this thing where when he makes a sexual joke, if I don't instantly laugh at it or if it takes me a second to register what he said, he will call me a "sweet summer child". One scenario that recently happened was we were playing a game together and he made a sexual joke about tentacles and I said in a joking tone "What kind of videos are you watching" and then I chuckled, his response to that was that "It makes sense I wouldn't know about that kind of thing", at the time his response sort of stunned and confused me so I didn't say anything in response, just sort of went quiet. I really want to confront him about it but he only does this kind of thing maybe once every other week or so meaning that when it does happen it catches me off guard and I don't know how to respond to it in the moment.
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Countering every myth/sterotype/argument/against asexuality
Because it's recently been on my mind.
"Asexuals aren't oppressed"
We actually are, I'm going to give you a whole list why!
"You just need to find the right person."
Okay, buddy. I'm waiting.
"Asexuality isn't a part of the LGBTQ community."
We deviate from heterosexuality, so we are.
"Asexuals can't be in relationships."
Believe it or not, romantic attraction and sexual attraction are different things.
"Asexuals are traumatized."
No, a decent amount of us were born with little to no sexual attraction, and wasn't brought on by sexual trauma.
"Asexuals just hate people/are antisocial."
Although I am personally an asshole, it isn't related to my lack of sexual attraction. It's just an added bonus. There's a lot of cool and friendly asexuals out there.
"Asexuality is a medical problem,
/disorder."
No, it isn't. It's recognized as a sexual orientation.
"I can change you."
No you can't, you sound like a rapist.
"Asexuals are childlike/innocent."
Lots of asexuals have had sex before. Some never will. That doesn't make us childlike.
"Demisexuality is normal/what everyone experiences."
If it was, then celebrity crushes and hookups wouldn't exist. Maybe you have some things to consider if you think it's normal.
"Asexuality isn't real."
I guess I'll just vanish then.
"Asexuals don't make sex jokes."
That's not true. To me, sex is nothing but a joke.
"You're too young to know if you're asexual."
You're too young to know if you're straight then.
"How can you tell if someone is attractive?"
Because I understand basic societal beauty standards.
Let me know if there's something I missed.
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Because it's recently been on my mind.
"Asexuals aren't oppressed"
We actually are, I'm going to give you a whole list why!
"You just need to find the right person."
Okay, buddy. I'm waiting.
"Asexuality isn't a part of the LGBTQ community."
We deviate from heterosexuality, so we are.
"Asexuals can't be in relationships."
Believe it or not, romantic attraction and sexual attraction are different things.
"Asexuals are traumatized."
No, a decent amount of us were born with little to no sexual attraction, and wasn't brought on by sexual trauma.
"Asexuals just hate people/are antisocial."
Although I am personally an asshole, it isn't related to my lack of sexual attraction. It's just an added bonus. There's a lot of cool and friendly asexuals out there.
"Asexuality is a medical problem,
/disorder."
No, it isn't. It's recognized as a sexual orientation.
"I can change you."
No you can't, you sound like a rapist.
"Asexuals are childlike/innocent."
Lots of asexuals have had sex before. Some never will. That doesn't make us childlike.
"Demisexuality is normal/what everyone experiences."
If it was, then celebrity crushes and hookups wouldn't exist. Maybe you have some things to consider if you think it's normal.
"Asexuality isn't real."
I guess I'll just vanish then.
"Asexuals don't make sex jokes."
That's not true. To me, sex is nothing but a joke.
"You're too young to know if you're asexual."
You're too young to know if you're straight then.
"How can you tell if someone is attractive?"
Because I understand basic societal beauty standards.
Let me know if there's something I missed.
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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I am making queer coat of arms. Each with their own mythical heraldic animal. Asking for advice, inspriration and cool ideas, since this is still kinda in the making and I wanna collect peoples' ideas and opinions :D
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I am making queer coat of arms. each with their own mythical heraldic animal. Asking for advice, inspriration and cool ideas, since this is still kinda in the making and I wanna collect peoples' ideas and opinions :D
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