It doesn't matter. We shall march on.
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How feasible is it to live with a best friend?

I’ve known my best friend (we’re both women btw) for about 13 years now, and she’s amazing. When we were younger, we’d joke that we’d live together someday.

Well, we’re in college now. The other day, she asked me if I’d want to own a house or share an apartment with her some day—as in, we’d grow old together, raise some cats along the way—and I told her, truthfully, that it sounds amazing. She’s aroace, so she’s never planning on getting married or having children.

As for me, it’s odd. I’m asexual, but not quite aromantic. I’ve had crushes (rarely, though), I’ve been on dates and I’ve felt the butterflies, but I’ve never had a boyfriend, and I’m not interested in marriage or children either. Honestly, I’ve never felt as comfortable with or as connected to someone as I do with my best friend. She’s the only person I can hang out with for days on end and not get bored or end up feeling drained. Maybe that’s why I don’t feel like dating anyone. So, I would love to live with her for the rest of my days.

But it seems like that’s just… not a thing people do? I’ve seen people who are married with children, who are married/dating but without children, who live alone, who live with their friends until they can move out, but never someone who lives with their best friend permanently. I know it’s early to be thinking about any of this, but still, is it possible? Are we just weird?

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Sharing all of my asexual pride pins, including my new oyster 💜do you have a favourite?
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Got banned because they’re aphobic 🤩
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Stop it with these posts - PLEASE

Vented about this before, but seeing more posts like that again I couldn't keep quiet.

Okay, alloromantic asexuals - how would you feel about an allosexual saying something like "I wish I was asexual, everything would be SO much easier if I didn't have any sexual desires"?

I'd assume you wouldn't like it, correct? You wouldn't like it because such a person would be ignoring the struggles of being asexual while also not fully understanding what asexuality even is. And rightfully so, because it subtly invalidates your identity, making it out to be something that makes your life easier, when it's not.

Why then do I see at least one post every week or so being like "I wish I was also aromantic, being aroace would be sooooo much easier because I just wouldn't care for romance nor crave affection"???

Saying that is just as insensitive and invalidating as an allosexual saying they wished they were ace. It completely ignores the struggles of being aromantic while also misrepresenting it.

Being aroace is NOT easy. On top of feeling broken for not experiencing sexual attraction like most people aroaces also lack normative romantic attraction. It's an additional factor that can make them feel even more alienated by society.

And it's not all black and white either; aromantics CAN care for romance. Aromantics CAN desire romance. Aromantics CAN desire affection - try explaining to someone how you want to date them, but won't love them back the same way they do. Try explaining to someone how you want affection and emotional closeness, but don't want it to be romantic.

I implore you, stop making posts like that and even more so, stop thinking that way. It's hurtful, invalidating, and yes, it's low-key arophobic.

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Am I asexual?

I’m 19 year old boy. I’ve only ever been attracted to men; I even find myself wanting to kiss them or be close. But when it comes to sex, I get completely icked out. It messes with my head so much that I start wondering whether it's internalized homophobia or maybe a form of asexuality.

To be honest, the way I’ve experienced attraction has always been more about emotional and physical closeness; like wanting to cuddle or just be with someone. But almost every relationship seems to revolve around sex, and that part just... disgusts me.

I don’t know what this means or what I should call it. I’m just trying to understand myself better.

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PS: Dont comment, I think I have got enough info.. Idek why I posted when Ik nobody can know about me except myself🤦‍♂️

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My newest pride pin design! The oyster 💜 which is your fave?
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My first thought when I saw this was “I’m ace”
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My story abt ‘’ idk if its just me ‘’ ( yes it is )




( btw im sorry if my writing sucks. I Hope ppl understands what i am saying bc….i have problems. And its a stupid post sooooo yeah )


Ok soooo, like the title says, idk if its just me ( pretty sure it is )

But does is happen to misunderstand sexual flirts?


Like..when a person says ‘’ your delicious ‘’ or ‘’ i wanna eat you ‘’


I would think of something else other than sexual ( unless its said in a seductive tome then i would feel uncomfortable)


Anytime i use these words i usually would mean ‘’ i have cuteness agression and i wanna kiss ur face so much to the point of turning your face into a pruny raisin ‘’
Or just want to sqeeze them ( or playfighting )



But then when they mean it in a sexual way i just go ‘’ oh… ‘’

Idk man, i am weird and i need to fix my vocabulairy bc i suck at writing.

But this experience happens to me a lot and idk if others do that too.

Since i have seen some of you guys using the word ‘’ hot ‘’ as aesthetically appealing.


Can it be the same with these two words?


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If the asexual community was a fantasy kingdom, what role would you play?

Ruler? Knight? Dragon tamer? Be creative! Sky’s the limit!

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PSA

Sex repulsed is not the same thing as sex negative. If you don't want to see people taking about being repulsed by sex or genitals, don't go into the threads that are flaired as sex repulsed, that's literally what the post flairs are for.

That's all. Have a wonderful day.

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First Kiss [Part 2: The Council]

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How do you feel whenever you kiss a partner or friend? Do you get the "butterflies" sensation? Or is it just regular sensual contact?



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What's a common misconception regarding asexuals and aromantics?

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I already know I’m asexual but…

I already know I am asexual whether I use the term and say it in person in real life or not.

As the gay I am and with the also fact that I have mild autism…

I know I’ll probably never find my other cis nonsexual butch woman half; one who I can be completely romantic with all while living life and the outside of that looking in looking like a parent child dynamic when so not that…

But I do think it would be nice.

Never having friends doesn’t help me either; but knowing my mild autism isn’t my fault; it helps a bit.

I don’t quite understand the other asexual terms like allo as one example of the others. I’m pure asexual. Not because of any reason really other than that my body and sensitivity when being full adult to my lower half does not mix. I don’t particularly want to look like I put a bad product on my face or chapped lips type of red. I don’t want to deal with it.

What are your thoughts on your part of all that is Asexuality; or in my preferable case… Nonsexual?

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How to come to terms with the fact that you might never find a partner?

I'm sex-averse to pretty much all sex acts, I also have a libido of literally 0. However I'm monogamous and when I've vented about this in the past all I've gotten was "well some aces have sex" which like okay? Not in my situation lol, or "well then have an open-relationship" Which honestly makes me feel like I'm inherently undesirable/have to be penciled into my partner's schedule with others rather than with a life partner/in a one-sided situation where I'm committed to one person - but they aren't committed to me. I'm also not aromantic so I have no desire for a QPR, and the "just find a friend group" advice was always so unsatisfactory since romantic relationships =/ friendship. I'm 21F, I've never tried dating before and honestly I'm considering just giving up before even starting. At the same time I'm deeply upset I may never find a life partner. Sorry if this was too much of a ramble lol.

I'm aware of the ace dating sub but ngl i'm skeptical of long-distance, online, relationships.

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Everyone need to know this
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Trying to figure out if I’m just anxious or actually on the Ace spectrum

I (25 afab enby) have been trying to figure myself out since the start of the year in earnest. I’ve been medicated off and on for anxiety since I was 13, and I’ve been struggling the last few years to figure out if I’m actually on the ace spectrum or if my anxiety is the barrier preventing me from pursuing relationships. I’ve had one sexual partner, and initially I thought it was going to be a one night stand. She was also on the ace spectrum, and we met during pride month at a bar. After spending 17 hours together, I figured we had run our course since we lived 6 hours away from one another. In actuality, we long distance dated for about 6 months. She was the one who initiated this, and I did find myself attracted to her and enjoyed some of our sex. I also appreciated that when I expressed wasn’t enjoying it, she stopped and was okay with just cuddling. We ended up just fizzling out, but have chatted off and on the last few years if we end up in the other’s city.
I find folks attractive and do get aroused thinking of other people, but when I see real potential of the folks I “like” liking me back, I immediately panic and think through the possibilities of a relationship and nip it in the bud. I think through a combination of my body image, our compatibility, and our existing relationship. It happened a few times with guys when I was younger, and recently happened with another afab person whom I deeply care about and think is attractive. I thought for a while that it was my comp het, but now that it’s also happening with women/queer folk I think I need to figure it out.
I love my independent life. I am financially independent, I have a dog who is my child, and a great healthy community of folks who reciprocates the energy I put into it. I don’t feel like I’m missing out as the token “single” of my crew. I think in order for me to want a partner long term, they’d have to significantly add to my existing life. That being said, I do enjoy drunk make out sessions with strangers/my friends. I am self sufficient in the bedroom on a regular basis, and cuddling brings me joy. Just trying to figure out if my anxiety is due to self esteem issues or something else.

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I just feel so confused

I don't want to be in a relationship with anybody I feel like the times where I had a crush on somebody was because I was bored and I needed some entertainment but one time this crush almost turned into a relationship but I didn't want one I wasn't attracted to the person and it's just other people as well like I like the idea of me like talking to them and stuff like that but when it comes to like being lovey-dovey and stuff like that.
It's disgusting and I don't want to do it and I just like genuinely do not see a future with somebody being married and even having kids I don't want to do any of that.

It would be nice to have somebody to call my partner but I'm very confused because at the same time I don't want a partner so I don't know if I'm a sexual aromantic or if I'm just an avoidant attachment.

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