Are "sexual needs" really a thing?
Is it valid to label sexual desires as "needs" in a relationship? I hear about this so often and I have trouble understanding it. Every time I try to date a man I have this issue where they want to have sex and I don't. And eventually they'll tell me their sexual needs aren't being fulfilled and I just don't understand it. I get that we're human beings and reproduction is sort of an instinct for us but I don't see how that equates to having recreational sex on a regular basis like how most people seem to want it. I really just don't see how it can be a need.
I've had friends and family both agree and disagree with me on this. Am I messed up? I understand how someone's partner not wanting to have sex with them can effect their self esteem and certain feelings, but I do not understand how one can feel as if they need sex in a relationship the same way they might need reassurance or need to feel loved.
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Is it valid to label sexual desires as "needs" in a relationship? I hear about this so often and I have trouble understanding it. Every time I try to date a man I have this issue where they want to have sex and I don't. And eventually they'll tell me their sexual needs aren't being fulfilled and I just don't understand it. I get that we're human beings and reproduction is sort of an instinct for us but I don't see how that equates to having recreational sex on a regular basis like how most people seem to want it. I really just don't see how it can be a need.
I've had friends and family both agree and disagree with me on this. Am I messed up? I understand how someone's partner not wanting to have sex with them can effect their self esteem and certain feelings, but I do not understand how one can feel as if they need sex in a relationship the same way they might need reassurance or need to feel loved.
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Can some asexuals have sexual needs?
Like..not for ppl but for their horniness?
Like, they are so hungry they need food but they dont crave a specific food. They just crave food?
Idk how to explain it. Ppl keep saying that asexuals dont have sexual needs. Which i got confused bc there are some who has libido and yes ik there are some who has a libido but dont need to be taken care of. I am talking abt the ones who needs sex for their libido.
Idk if its possible or not. So i am here to Ask if it is possible?
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Like..not for ppl but for their horniness?
Like, they are so hungry they need food but they dont crave a specific food. They just crave food?
Idk how to explain it. Ppl keep saying that asexuals dont have sexual needs. Which i got confused bc there are some who has libido and yes ik there are some who has a libido but dont need to be taken care of. I am talking abt the ones who needs sex for their libido.
Idk if its possible or not. So i am here to Ask if it is possible?
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Anyone else depressed that they won’t ever find an ace partner?
Im a very romantic ace and I dream of the perfect relationship with another ace, however I’m also socially awkward and scared to talk to people. I’m also scared of men which is rough because I’m attracted to men..
I’m also less likely to find someone who will accept me because I’m also nonbinary.. AFAB but I present gender neutrally.
It upsets me that I’ll end up probably in an online relationship, that means I can’t ever hug, cuddle, or kiss my partner.. and I am extremely touch starved
I cant settle for an allo, I cant compromise either. I’m sex repulsed and even if someone touches me sexually while fully clothed I get uncomfortable and nope out.
Either way I’m scared of dying alone, I wish I was Aro as well as Ace so I wouldn’t have to worry about this.. sucks to be in the 1% of people worldwide..
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Im a very romantic ace and I dream of the perfect relationship with another ace, however I’m also socially awkward and scared to talk to people. I’m also scared of men which is rough because I’m attracted to men..
I’m also less likely to find someone who will accept me because I’m also nonbinary.. AFAB but I present gender neutrally.
It upsets me that I’ll end up probably in an online relationship, that means I can’t ever hug, cuddle, or kiss my partner.. and I am extremely touch starved
I cant settle for an allo, I cant compromise either. I’m sex repulsed and even if someone touches me sexually while fully clothed I get uncomfortable and nope out.
Either way I’m scared of dying alone, I wish I was Aro as well as Ace so I wouldn’t have to worry about this.. sucks to be in the 1% of people worldwide..
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Ok it's a rant but more like a ugh do I have to identify myself rant
So I recently went to LGBTQ community thing I was the only person with the he pronouns. I didn't say I'm asexual because I don't really feel the need to identify myself and I'm not out to my coworkers or family and only 2 people in my life are aware.
So I don't broadcast it even if my coworkers wouldn't care it would be a violation of the unspoken separation of life and work rule.
My friends and family would probably have a million questions and make it into a big deal I would be defined by my asexuality.
So yeah I realize that I seem to be getting kind of pushed to the edge like I'm hitting a fence. One of them tells me they're a lesbian and I'm just like ok cool. afterwards I started to think about it and realized she probably wanted me to identify myself.
I'm just miffed like I get why they are cautious with men but I really don't want to feel like I need to wear an ace flag pin or something. O well I guess keep going until they realize I'm not trying to sleep with them or something else.
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So I recently went to LGBTQ community thing I was the only person with the he pronouns. I didn't say I'm asexual because I don't really feel the need to identify myself and I'm not out to my coworkers or family and only 2 people in my life are aware.
So I don't broadcast it even if my coworkers wouldn't care it would be a violation of the unspoken separation of life and work rule.
My friends and family would probably have a million questions and make it into a big deal I would be defined by my asexuality.
So yeah I realize that I seem to be getting kind of pushed to the edge like I'm hitting a fence. One of them tells me they're a lesbian and I'm just like ok cool. afterwards I started to think about it and realized she probably wanted me to identify myself.
I'm just miffed like I get why they are cautious with men but I really don't want to feel like I need to wear an ace flag pin or something. O well I guess keep going until they realize I'm not trying to sleep with them or something else.
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