What’s it like for others who are Hopeless Romantics and also Ace?
For me personally it’s a really weird conflict where there’s this desperate craving for affection and a romantic relationship. Like super wholesome, cheesy, corny stuff. But at the same time sex is super gross(I’m sex-repulsed) and I don’t want that ever.
https://redd.it/1mbvovr
@asexualityonreddit
For me personally it’s a really weird conflict where there’s this desperate craving for affection and a romantic relationship. Like super wholesome, cheesy, corny stuff. But at the same time sex is super gross(I’m sex-repulsed) and I don’t want that ever.
https://redd.it/1mbvovr
@asexualityonreddit
Reddit
From the aaaaaaacccccccce community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the aaaaaaacccccccce community
do you think they know that poop comes from butts?
listening to so many songs going on and on about asses, im a little surprised there isn't a compilation disc set , Nothing Butt Asses, sold by the time warner company
featuring songs like
Ms New Booty
Baby Got Back
Thong Song
Honky Tonk Badonkadoink
My Humps
Back That Ass Up
Bootylicious
like, i enjoy a bunch of these songs, but still wonder- do you think they know poop comes from butts?
https://redd.it/1mbwow9
@asexualityonreddit
listening to so many songs going on and on about asses, im a little surprised there isn't a compilation disc set , Nothing Butt Asses, sold by the time warner company
featuring songs like
Ms New Booty
Baby Got Back
Thong Song
Honky Tonk Badonkadoink
My Humps
Back That Ass Up
Bootylicious
like, i enjoy a bunch of these songs, but still wonder- do you think they know poop comes from butts?
https://redd.it/1mbwow9
@asexualityonreddit
Reddit
From the aaaaaaacccccccce community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the aaaaaaacccccccce community
This media is not supported in your browser
VIEW IN TELEGRAM
anyone else came to a realisation they were asexual midway through intercourse?
https://redd.it/1mcdqbe
@asexualityonreddit
https://redd.it/1mcdqbe
@asexualityonreddit
(reupload bc i accidentally messed up and added wrong tags) I might be demisexual?
(Contains NSFW topics!!!!!)This is really long so sorry for all the words but im looking for advice on my identity and how to talk to my non-asexual partner about it.
I (18FTM (non-medically transitioned)) have been sex-repulsed and have had extremely little sex drive since around 13yrs old. Even after 5yrs I still find portrayals of sex in any media pretty gross and it makes me really uncomfortable. This makes me feel uncomfortable around my peers and friends as many of them are typically sex-favourable.
However, when me and my bf (18M) are getting more intimate and he gets physically aroused, a lot of the time I find it attractive and feel sexual desire towards him. This is quite weird as like I said I have had very little sex drive for a while. However, other times I still find it gross and it makes me move away so I can't feel his "yknow". (He's accepting of this and he moves if I ask or move away).
We've been dating for 7 months now and we have a deep emotional connection. I've never felt this emotionally connected to someone before and I've never had these sexual feelings before, which is what makes me think I might be demi-sexual. He knew I was asexual before we started dating but right now he thinks that im fully asexual and have no sex drive.
Neither of us has been in an "intimate" relationship before so I dont even know how I would go about talking to him about this.
I feel like I would really benefit from talking to him about it and I want to share with him that im exploring this side of my identity, but I don't want to make stuff weird between us or make him feel like he's being pressured into helping me figure it out, yknow? Plus we're so young I don't want to accidentally push things and f*ck things up.
Im also debating if im gray-asexual, I know that covers a lot of identities within the ace spectrum but the amount of sexual desire I feel when me and him are being more intimate does fluctuate as stated above. Before meeting my bf I only really felt some desire during ovulation where the libido was caused by hormones instead.
Idk. I'm young and im still figuring things out. Me and him really appreciate communication within our relationship, i just need to figure things out and find a way to approach him with this topic.
Any advice is greatly appreciated :]
TL;DR i might be demisexual bc I've started feeling sexual desire towards my bf after gaining an emotional connection and not feeling anything like this before. Any advice on how to better figure things out/approach him with this topic?
https://redd.it/1mcjm8i
@asexualityonreddit
(Contains NSFW topics!!!!!)This is really long so sorry for all the words but im looking for advice on my identity and how to talk to my non-asexual partner about it.
I (18FTM (non-medically transitioned)) have been sex-repulsed and have had extremely little sex drive since around 13yrs old. Even after 5yrs I still find portrayals of sex in any media pretty gross and it makes me really uncomfortable. This makes me feel uncomfortable around my peers and friends as many of them are typically sex-favourable.
However, when me and my bf (18M) are getting more intimate and he gets physically aroused, a lot of the time I find it attractive and feel sexual desire towards him. This is quite weird as like I said I have had very little sex drive for a while. However, other times I still find it gross and it makes me move away so I can't feel his "yknow". (He's accepting of this and he moves if I ask or move away).
We've been dating for 7 months now and we have a deep emotional connection. I've never felt this emotionally connected to someone before and I've never had these sexual feelings before, which is what makes me think I might be demi-sexual. He knew I was asexual before we started dating but right now he thinks that im fully asexual and have no sex drive.
Neither of us has been in an "intimate" relationship before so I dont even know how I would go about talking to him about this.
I feel like I would really benefit from talking to him about it and I want to share with him that im exploring this side of my identity, but I don't want to make stuff weird between us or make him feel like he's being pressured into helping me figure it out, yknow? Plus we're so young I don't want to accidentally push things and f*ck things up.
Im also debating if im gray-asexual, I know that covers a lot of identities within the ace spectrum but the amount of sexual desire I feel when me and him are being more intimate does fluctuate as stated above. Before meeting my bf I only really felt some desire during ovulation where the libido was caused by hormones instead.
Idk. I'm young and im still figuring things out. Me and him really appreciate communication within our relationship, i just need to figure things out and find a way to approach him with this topic.
Any advice is greatly appreciated :]
TL;DR i might be demisexual bc I've started feeling sexual desire towards my bf after gaining an emotional connection and not feeling anything like this before. Any advice on how to better figure things out/approach him with this topic?
https://redd.it/1mcjm8i
@asexualityonreddit
Reddit
From the Asexual community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the Asexual community
I want a relationship but am scared to get into one due to sexual pressures and expectations
I'm afraid of feeling trapped in a relationship but I also crave intimacy with someone romantically and want to be a priority to someone. I'm afraid that if I get into to a relationship ship there will be sexual pressure put on me to perform for a partner amd no one will understand me. They will simply think I am selfish for denying my partner what they want and I will be the only person trying to explain my side. People seem to think not giving a partner sex is selfish but it benefits the partner and is about THEIR desires not mine. I do not want the expectations of a baby either if I do get into a relationship. I feel like no one would understand me and they would only argue with me or try to prove me wrong instead of trying to understand. It's always what seeks to happen. They compare my sexuality to a child and say that "children are selfish" or they tell me I havent met the right person yet when I say I'm asexual. It feels like theu are just trying to prove Ixm not asexual or there's always the silent "oh yeah? Prove it. Do you do x y z? See I knew you were lying!"
https://redd.it/1mco6fc
@asexualityonreddit
I'm afraid of feeling trapped in a relationship but I also crave intimacy with someone romantically and want to be a priority to someone. I'm afraid that if I get into to a relationship ship there will be sexual pressure put on me to perform for a partner amd no one will understand me. They will simply think I am selfish for denying my partner what they want and I will be the only person trying to explain my side. People seem to think not giving a partner sex is selfish but it benefits the partner and is about THEIR desires not mine. I do not want the expectations of a baby either if I do get into a relationship. I feel like no one would understand me and they would only argue with me or try to prove me wrong instead of trying to understand. It's always what seeks to happen. They compare my sexuality to a child and say that "children are selfish" or they tell me I havent met the right person yet when I say I'm asexual. It feels like theu are just trying to prove Ixm not asexual or there's always the silent "oh yeah? Prove it. Do you do x y z? See I knew you were lying!"
https://redd.it/1mco6fc
@asexualityonreddit
Reddit
From the Asexual community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the Asexual community
The layers of confusion I had seeing this post lol. At first glance thought it was from this sub.
https://redd.it/1md3d6g
@asexualityonreddit
https://redd.it/1md3d6g
@asexualityonreddit
Aesthetic appeal + sex-favorable = pseudo-sexual attraction?
Male married to a female here. I am asexual, and appear to be "sex favorable" if that makes sense. We have sex, it feels good....when it happens. Zero "pull" "draw" or feeling of "I need to get some of that". It is mechanical, but pleasant mechanical, and there are emotional/bonding feelings.
Now when I see a woman, I can feel (and have felt) "she is beautiful", gorgeous, pretty, or similar adjectives. I may even have "a type".
Here is where I sometimes get confused - I can see a woman who is aesthetically beautiful and think "she looks athletic, so if we had sex it would be fun", or "she is a gymnast and flexible, so if we had sex it would be fun", "If we were married, sex would be fun", I could go on about various features but you get the point.
It is almost like when people think "that person's tall, it may be difficult to hug them at times".
I have only had one sexual partner so I have no reference points.
Can anyone else relate? Does this still sound like asexuality? The combination of sex-favorable-ness and aesthetic appeal almost seems like it could mimic sexual attraction. There is still no "feeling hot" "ravenous hunger" or similar feeling, though.
https://redd.it/1md6xzx
@asexualityonreddit
Male married to a female here. I am asexual, and appear to be "sex favorable" if that makes sense. We have sex, it feels good....when it happens. Zero "pull" "draw" or feeling of "I need to get some of that". It is mechanical, but pleasant mechanical, and there are emotional/bonding feelings.
Now when I see a woman, I can feel (and have felt) "she is beautiful", gorgeous, pretty, or similar adjectives. I may even have "a type".
Here is where I sometimes get confused - I can see a woman who is aesthetically beautiful and think "she looks athletic, so if we had sex it would be fun", or "she is a gymnast and flexible, so if we had sex it would be fun", "If we were married, sex would be fun", I could go on about various features but you get the point.
It is almost like when people think "that person's tall, it may be difficult to hug them at times".
I have only had one sexual partner so I have no reference points.
Can anyone else relate? Does this still sound like asexuality? The combination of sex-favorable-ness and aesthetic appeal almost seems like it could mimic sexual attraction. There is still no "feeling hot" "ravenous hunger" or similar feeling, though.
https://redd.it/1md6xzx
@asexualityonreddit
Reddit
From the Asexual community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the Asexual community
And here’s some casual Ace erasure: Christian Theology Edition
https://redd.it/1mdbkw3
@asexualityonreddit
https://redd.it/1mdbkw3
@asexualityonreddit
“Just date other asexuals”
So, so many times on dating sites or apps, or even in the wild when discussing my dating life and my asexuality, people tell me these words and I’m so, so tired! How common do they think asexuality is?
“Why would asexuals even want to be with allosexuals? It can never work, asexuals should just date each other and leave allos alone.”
“Have you ever considered finding an ace partner?”
Have I? Have I? It’s so, so infuriating. Do these people think we don’t know that? Do these people think we’re not trying to find asexual partners? I always ask them if they’ve ever met someone who’s openly ace and they always go quiet. Yes, there are asexual dating sites, but we’re still a pretty small bunch of people, and just being asexual doesn’t guarantee they’d be a good match otherwise. Also, as someone who lives in a small country, I do feel like I have a tiny bit of a better chance finding someone if I’m in both asexual dating spaces and the dating apps targeted to allos.
I’m so tired. Finding a partner is really hard in the first place. Having ignorant allos saying stuff like this makes it really exhausting.
https://redd.it/1md9t04
@asexualityonreddit
So, so many times on dating sites or apps, or even in the wild when discussing my dating life and my asexuality, people tell me these words and I’m so, so tired! How common do they think asexuality is?
“Why would asexuals even want to be with allosexuals? It can never work, asexuals should just date each other and leave allos alone.”
“Have you ever considered finding an ace partner?”
Have I? Have I? It’s so, so infuriating. Do these people think we don’t know that? Do these people think we’re not trying to find asexual partners? I always ask them if they’ve ever met someone who’s openly ace and they always go quiet. Yes, there are asexual dating sites, but we’re still a pretty small bunch of people, and just being asexual doesn’t guarantee they’d be a good match otherwise. Also, as someone who lives in a small country, I do feel like I have a tiny bit of a better chance finding someone if I’m in both asexual dating spaces and the dating apps targeted to allos.
I’m so tired. Finding a partner is really hard in the first place. Having ignorant allos saying stuff like this makes it really exhausting.
https://redd.it/1md9t04
@asexualityonreddit
Reddit
From the asexuality community on Reddit
Explore this post and more from the asexuality community