Adult sites no longer accessible in the UK

UK internet users may (or may not) have noticed that a lot of sites hosting adult content are no longer accessible from today. Proof of age is now required, which could mean uploading documents or using facial recognition.

Although there are some good intentions behind this, it isn't proving popular with many people. And I'm guessing if it works here, it will be rolled out elsewhere.

I'm curious to know how aces feel about it? Will you / would you go down the proof of age route? Will you miss those sites or will you barely notice? And do you feel this is potentially about more than supposedly keeping kids safer?

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Genuinely why do ppl care what we do in private?

Listen, I understand asexuality can be a complex sexuality due to the large spectrum surrounding it, so there's bound to be questions out of pure curiosity. I get that.

But then almost half of the questions I see here are stuff like "do asexuals enjoy sex???" "do asexuals masturbate???" "do asexuals enjoy hot sloppy style footjob dommy mommy mlm french kissing??" and shit like that. Literally, why do y'all wanna know so badly? Do u see us, ace folk, asking u, an allo, what u do in bed 24/7? No we do not bcuz we're not licensed sex therapists therefore it's none of our fucking business. Plz be respectful and do the same, what we do with our sex lives does not concern u, nor does it affect u in any way.

There's an entire FAQ here just for that reason which answers every question in detail, no need to be so invasive with ur questions.

Also srry if I came off very aggressive with this post, I rlly needed to voice my frustrations abt the fact that some ppl rlly need to just stfu over certain personal topics

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Am I asexual?

Hi! I’m a 25yo female and really would like to conceptualize my sexuality. For starters, I’ve had very negative interactions around sexual experiences due several molestations between my early childhood and into late teens. Unfortunately, that led to me becoming hyper sexual within my late teens early twenties. I also struggled with the PTSD from one of the repressed molestations as a child which resulted in me having recurring nightmares all throughout my early twenties. I’m currently on the other side of this hurdle with some therapy and some close platonic relationships that came and go through the years. I think I’m doing better now.

In this years, I found myself in some monogamous relationships (while they weren’t always the best I don’t think they were caused by my traumatic childhood). I say all of this to say, sex feels like a tasks that I get a reward for which would be satisfaction for my partner but it doesn’t inherently feels like a shared experience for me anymore. From partner to partner, I could never shake the feeling of it being nothing more than something to do and something that I should do right. I do enjoy sex, I do get urges with being with someone, even more if I’m attracted the person but also feel like it’s a chore and then I also have to be good at it.

I never really thought much of this until I’ve met my most recent partner who identifies as polyamorous. I enjoy our relationship for what it is and him being polyamorous didn’t change my feelings but I do think it has highlighted this feeling of sex being a chore even more. I thought it was because I was averse to physical intimacy but I enjoy experiences with him and enjoy satisfying him, that chore again. Our relationship is new and I’ve shared with him about this disconnect I have with sex but I haven’t told him about the sexual abuse I experienced as a child (mainly because in my previous relationships it never felt as if it carried much weight neither did it feel like my partners made room for it. Not saying my current partner wouldn’t be receptive but I’m so tired of being let down and being vulnerable with the weight of something so heavy and having someone drop it like it’s nothing. I’m also just scared of not receiving the care I need. As a person, I’m very selective in terms of being vulnerable and I pose as being well rounded to protect myself as I don’t really have anybody). I don’t think his sexual relations is affecting it because I feel like if we have sex more then this feeling grows more even though I enjoy being with him sexually. If it matters our relationship is poly/monogamish ( although I don’t really like to identify myself as monogamish or anything really; I feel like “me”). Just really needed someone to talk to about this tbh

TLDR; am I asexual? Navigating internal conflicts post childhood sexual abuse.

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Quote from my asexual friend

"Imagine if i could do actual asexual reproduction. like imagine if i could make clones of myself and take over the world."

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Why though
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Trying to figure out which section of ace I am

I’m ok with kissing and cuddling and other intimate things like that but sex…I realized I have very little desire for it but that I could maybe do it with my partner. I’m scared that means I’m not ace, even though I know being ace means “experiencing little to no sexual attraction”. I hope this makes sense

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Do we have stereotypes?

So I feel like all other sexual orientations have stereotypes: like gay men are feminine, or gay women move way too fast, or bisexuals are artsy/alternative. Not saying I agree with these or anything, but they definitely exist.

So I guess I’m wondering if there are similar ideas about asexuals that you have heard?

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Is being asexual a blessing?

Would love to hear your thoughts!

Personally, I find it to be a true blessing. The way asexual people love truly warms my heart. Loving someone for who they are and not what they give you. One of the purest forms of love in my opinion! Many asexual people love being close with their partner and sharing life with them. Atleast based on my experience! Thanks to my wonderful fiancé who healed me from a overly sexual ex. (The guy got bricked while I was crying one time!) I love my fiancé and his asexuality is a wonderful part of him which constantly brightens up our relationship. Such an affectionate man, I love him lots.

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"Nice" isn't a conditional thing you get paid back. If you are "nice" to earn something. You are attempting to engage in business transactions

I put this in "unpopular opinion" reddit and it was so unpopular it got locked immediately.

Though I feel it's likely very reluvant to this community and id like to know if you all agree.

The idea of "Nice guys" are not really nice people. A nice person is someone who is kind to others either out of sympathy, manners or human decency.

The idea of a "Nice guy" is in fact a marketing ploy. This is a marketing scheme and thats literally all it is.

Now some people suck at selling a product and marketing that product. In this case they would be the product and thier niceness is attempting to real in customers. Thier payment is what they expect to earn be is romance, favor, a date.

Since they are bad at marketing the market often rejects them. They are basically the same type of folks who throw a fit when they ask someone like the dude on Bar rescue to help fix thier bar.

Than say they are too good to listen to the host of show becuase "I know better than anyone". The fact of the matter is anyone can own a business, it doesn't mean you know how to market, sell or keep a customer.

In business you don't hold customers by gun piont. In fact that might arguably be considered extortion. An extortionist is not a business person. They are a crook.

Ironically, You dont see strippers, daddy's, sugars, pimps, hookers having a fit they didnt make enough sales. They know how business goes. So it shouldn't be different to someone selling thier kindness for romance.

You dont get customers by gun piont. You dont whine when you can't sell a product and if you are a truly nice person, you are nice if you are selling a product or being a freind. People need to stop getting into the business world when they can't read the market.

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“I’ve fully accepted being asexual – but people keep saying I’ll be alone forever.”

Hi everyone 💜
I'm a 22-year-old asexual woman from Iran, and I’ve fully embraced who I am.

I don’t feel sexual attraction — and that doesn’t make me broken. In fact, I love deeply, emotionally, and purely.

Still, people around me say things like:
"You’ll be alone forever."
"No one will love you unless you give them sex."

It hurts, but I refuse to believe love needs sex to exist.

Have you faced this? How did you deal with it? I’d love to hear your stories.

Sending a lotus hug 🪷
– Hannah

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Anything

Don't know what I am looking for, but want to learn everything about asexual spectrum, romantic and aromatic attraction also..

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Written by those above it
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Do you prefer to say you’re “asexual”, “on the ace spectrum”, or something else entirely (like a micro label)?

For me, it depends entirely on who I’m talking to.

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Is this asexuality?

Am I asexual, even if I don't want to be? Am I asexual if I feel like its because someone else took my sexuality away from me? Is it asexuality if I physically CAN'T have sex, even if I want to with some people?

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18Fwhere do yall meet new people?

Where do yall go to meet new people? Cause I don't like going drinking or go to parties

But not only irl, but also on here, cuz I'm 18 now and I can't be in the teen reddits anymore

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Can trauma cause asexuality?

Disclaimer: This isn't meant to offend anyone or to diminish someone's identity as if they're simply traumatized.

I sometimes wonder if I wasn't sexually abused by my mother then I would have less fears regarding sex. As an aegosexual I fantasize a lot and have quite the libido. But my only safe space to appreciate these desires are in my head. The idea of doing something with another person makes me extremely uncomfortable and ofcourse as someone who really looks into themselves often, I'm inclined to believe this is rooted in trauma.

But perhaps there is a difference between pure asexuality and just sex aversion.

Would love to hear your own stories/thoughts!

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How do you feel about sexual media?

I love playing games, and I mosrly play on my switch. Ive gotten into a game called Astral Chain and wanted more alternatives and find other games like it. People said to try bayonetta. Obviously, if you know Bayonetta, you'll know its very sexual. I dont care much about it cause the gameplay looks fun! So my question is. Do you care about media thats to sexual? Or do you dismiss it? Or actively avoid it?

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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YOOO, CUPCAKKE IS ASEXUAL ( confirmed by HER )

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