Hello! Question: How would YOU like asexual characters to be written?

Sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong subreddit or formatting it wrong, I'm very new to all of this. Truth is, I'm writing a story in which I've included a variety of asexual and aroace characters. But I'm a little nervous going into writing them.


I always planned to just write them as people, because thats what they are. But I think it's unfair not to consider the opinions of people who actually fall under the aromantic and asexual umbrellas.

Another thing I'm struggling with is how to show their orientations. It's not necessary for all the characters, but I've noticed there's barely ever in show confirmation of a character being ace or aro, s I thought it'd be a nice touch to have some in canon confirmation.

So here's the deal. If you have any opinions on characters who are: Asexual but not aromantic, demi romantic, aroace, or if you just want to share your opinions, feel free! Everyone is valid and I'd like to hear all thoughts.

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Who’s a character you HC as ace just because you want them to be?

Like theres no reason they would be but you still like to think they are

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Can asexuals enjoy some sexual acts and want to initiate it?



Yes ik there are sex-favorable asexuals here but i am not really talking abt sex.


I am talking abt an act or an intimacy that some asexuals percieves as sexual but still wanna act on it/try it out bc they enjoy the act/they are curious abt it.

Or maybe they like getting themselves off Idk.


Sooo yeah, i wanna know if you guys can initiate sexual acts out of enjoyment without sexual attraction?

I would like to know

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Been dating somebody, but pretty sure I am asexual.

I have been dating somebody for a good while now and never touched him. He's never touched me because he's a gentleman. Every time I think of trying to get intimate, I get flushed with anxiety. I hoped for years that I wasn't asexual because there was often something very seriously wrong with some of the men I dated. Many wanted to get intimate too fast. One was a racist and a slight incel. I've had a time with it. But this man is most of what I want in a man. A Christian, sense of humor, not a racist, a lot in common with me. Just one problem. I still have trouble wanting to get closer.

I think of the idea of having an asexual life and I feel happier so long as I can do something meaningful with my life. Right now, I have a career I don't care for, but it makes a lot of money. Anyway, one of my friends came down on me, saying I needed to figure myself out. I tried to explain to her that every time I fooled around, I didn't like it and wanted it to end. She said it might be different since I really care about him. I do think I need to at least try so I can move on with him or without him, but it really hurts that my friend can't listen to what I'm saying.

People can accept other sexualities, gender orientations, different religions, different skin color, different whatever. Why not this? I want to try for the sake of the man I've been dating, but I'm also very sick of trying to make myself the norm.




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I need to know if it's just a me thing or if it's an ace thing

I strongly believe I was asexual at birth the reason why is I never understood the whole male female thing. I never could never comprehend it. Like why is it important as I got older it started to make some sense to me but it still hasn't fully clicked. Is it a just me thing is it an asexual thing or is it something else

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Reddit helped me realize I'm asexual

I'm not sure how to start this so I'm just going to get right into it. Reddit helped me realize I'm asexual. When I first learned about asexuality, I thought it was just not liking or wanting to have sex, so I didn't even consider whether or not I'm ace. When I learned that asexuality is about attraction, not action, that kinda started my phase of questioning my sexuality.

At first I thought I wasn't asexual because I still had crushes or people and experienced attraction. I thought asexuality meant no attraction at all.
It took me a couple years of questioning before I realized that I'm asexual. When I first started seriously considering whether or not I'm ace, I thought I was a combination of quoisexual and cupiosexual.

But one day I was thinking about how I'm on a couple of NSFW subreddits, and when I see people without any clothes on, the thought of sex and the feelings of sexual attraction just weren't there. When I see certain people without clothes on on Reddit, I don't really feel much of anything. I do admire their physique and sometimes I get gender envy. But I just don't feel that sexual desire when I look at them.

I realized that the reason I thought I was quoisexual is because I don't really understand sexual attraction, but it was more of an experience of not being able to understand it because I can't relate to having sexual attraction.

So it took me awhile to figure it out, but in the end, I did.

I now identify as a combination of gray asexual and cupiosexual

If you don't know about cupiosexuality, here's an excert from the Sexuality Wiki on Fandom

Cupiosexual, previously known as Kalossexual, is a microlabel on the Asexual Spectrum. Cupiosexual is defined as someone who does not experience sexual attraction but still desires/likes a sexual relationship. Cupiosexuals are commonly sex-favorable but they do not have to be. Cupiosexual may also be used by individuals who sometimes feel sexual attraction but desire a sexual relationship even without attraction; for example, a demisexual individual who dates someone on the assumption that they will develop sexual attraction later on. Another example could be a fraysexual individual who dates someone even after they lose their sexual attraction.

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The Erasure is Real...
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Doubts (from someone who doesn't know if is asexual or what)

(First post in here)
Hello everyone! So, there have been some doubts in my mind since some time and I don't know what to think. I am not too aware or informed at all about asexuality so maybe I am asking for things that are "obvious", so sorry since here.
I enjoy masturbating, I have sexual fantasizes and even had had them about celebrities. But the problem is that I don't want those ideas to happen in real life, not only because the idea itself but because I can't imagen myself in an intimate scenario with someone (I even laugh about once I dreamt about how one of those celebrities flirted with me and offered me to go with him to his room and I was like no thanks, besides everything I had thought about him lol). It's like I prefer those scenarios to keep in my mind. Also, it goes with the fact that I don't have problem about reading/watching other people having sex, even I can imagine myself in the situation but, again, not imagine myself doing it some day.
I insist, I know little about asexuality, so I don't know if these kind of questions might be related or are totally out of context. If someone could bring me a hand with these, I'd be grateful.
Thank you all since here.

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Petition to get the Asexual pride flag changed to this
https://i.imgur.com/jTA5w3L.png

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I have a feeling y'all will agree too
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Someone to share time with

I am 74 years old and am looking for a man to spend quality time with . I am a widow and live alone. I just want someone to share my life with. I am lonely and have a lot to offer.

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Look

r/asexual_teenagers

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Willem Dripfoe:
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Asexual in Egypt

I'm an asexual girl in Egypt (Egyptian obviously) I'm a demiromantic, I want to know if there's other people like me in Egypt, men women, trans, non-binary wtv
And like maybe we can make a small group of us cause I only like know one ace person, and I feel like I'm all alone in this shit


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Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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any teenagers?

I created this group r/asexual_teenagers it will be lovely if you join

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Everything's just getting harder and harder
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I don't know how to tell this guy that I think I'm asexual - help please!

Reaching out to this community with my tale so I can gauge how to broach this. I recently had a bit of a breakthrough with my therapist and uncovered that I may be asexual. I don't really feel sexual attraction towards real people (fictional characters are the exclusion). I have no desire for sex with another person and am opposed to most physical touch in general. Now, I have been dating this guy for a couple months now and we've hugged and held hands but even that has felt really weird to me, like it's wrong for my body to be doing that. The other night after a date he wanted to kiss me but I managed to brush it off as I don't feel comfortable, but didn't know how to tell him. He kissed my cheek and I spent the whole drive home trying to get the feeling off my cheek, very upset. He keeps telling me that I'm beautiful and sexy and I feel really uncomfortable when he says those things. I don't know how to tell him that I think I am asexual and that I don't like the advances, however pure-intentioned they may be. I think he's a lovely and respectful guy, but I can't really see him being okay with me essentially saying "Don't touch me." HELP!

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My Ace Ring Arrived!
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Thank you to the Redditor who mentioned these! I had to go to 2 different Spencer's, but I found it!
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My friend just told me this and it’s too good not to share.

My friends boyfriend: “You know, I just can’t imagine me ever having sex. She’d just stare into someone’s eyes and that’s intimate enough for her.”

My friend: “You know she’s ace right?”

Boyfriend: “That actually makes so much sense.”

There’s no way he actually knows what asexuality is. He barely knows me. But he still managed to completely figure me out. I give off ~the vibes~ apparently.

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