Asexual and heteroromantic
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Hey so i found this video and it made me thought of you guys

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Found at Spencer's Gifts (US)
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Why is there so much hate/uneducated replies here.

For about the past couple months I have been seeing lots of people hating asexual people who still have sex or want to have it.

And I have also seen replies from people who say having sex doesn’t make you asexual.

Why do people forget that asexuality has nothing to do with having, liking, disliking sex. But rather sexual attraction. I see people saying someone is not Ace because they have a bf/gf and have sex. Yet op says they don’t feel sexual attraction.

It’s funny because they are so fast to say oh maybe it’s trauma or something that you need to work out. I saw someone tell someone “your still to young to know if your ace.” Why are most aces gatekeeping.

Saw a comment where they got mad because someone had a different ace experience and they felt like their asexuality was being invalidated because it wasn’t the same.

Being asexual does not have set rules someone must follow. Or set experiences someone must follow. It just comes down to feelings sexual attraction or not (yes there are exceptions like gray, Demi, flux,spike and so on) but again they still feel not attraction.

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Aphobia warning! Told a guy how my brand of Asexuality works, immediately says something he wouldn’t say to a gay person.

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Guys
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It's nice to see Asexuality in media.
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Squirtle Pikachu and Charmander on a bench with pokeball
https://youtu.be/8pVnfNzxnSw

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(Do it, switch)
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I need to know if I'm normal

I wasnt sure if I should flag as nsfw bc I'm only 16 but I do talk ab masterbation in this, pretty much just a side detail, its not like described lol. Just how horrible it makes me feel :').

Hi, I'm asexual and also ftm.

I believe I'm asexual, but sometimes I can't tell if I would rather be a Ken doll than have genitalia because I'm trans or bc I'm asexual and I just need to assure myself that I'm normal and not crazy :').

This is kind of embarrassing to share, but I get aroused sometimes and then I feel a lot of shame for having that feeling. It especially happens around my period, which I've been told is normal because of hormones and stuff, but it really just makes me feel so shameful and like I'm an awful person.

And if I ever try to masterbate it just makes it worse but it does make the feeling go away instantly bc I hate it so much.

I just want the feelings to go away, and last night was just kind of a breaking point for me where I sobbed and couldn't sleep until around 1am and I just wanted to talk to someone about it and I feel like I have no one I can talk to about this specific topic.

I've never posted here before, but I thought maybe someone on this page would understand and be able to make me feel normal instead of like some sort of freak or something.


EDIT: I'm also autistic btw so emotions are a lot more intense for me sometimes, so just thought I'd add that.

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Is it sexual attraction?

I’m also confused when it comes to romantic attraction, but that’s another rabbit hole.

I very much feel attracted to people physically, and have preferences in men, not women, although I feel aesthetically attracted to both. Personality can play a preference in attraction, but that’s not relevant I think.

My opinions on sex are a little confused. I’m not too interested in sex and don’t desire it, nor do I fantasize about it, but I’ve also never had sex, and I would be open to trying it. I still feel partially aroused when I see someone good-looking, and aesthetic attraction is definitely there but there may be something more.

But I do have ‘kinks’ I think, none of which directly involve sex (some are very random), and I don’t find any sexual pleasures or thoughts when it comes to them. Ejaculating I don’t like though, mostly because I don’t like the feeling of cum and where it is. But I do search these scenarios out and partially masturbate to them, and I do think about these scenarios with people I’m attracted to.


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Hello! Question: How would YOU like asexual characters to be written?

Sorry if I'm posting this in the wrong subreddit or formatting it wrong, I'm very new to all of this. Truth is, I'm writing a story in which I've included a variety of asexual and aroace characters. But I'm a little nervous going into writing them.


I always planned to just write them as people, because thats what they are. But I think it's unfair not to consider the opinions of people who actually fall under the aromantic and asexual umbrellas.

Another thing I'm struggling with is how to show their orientations. It's not necessary for all the characters, but I've noticed there's barely ever in show confirmation of a character being ace or aro, s I thought it'd be a nice touch to have some in canon confirmation.

So here's the deal. If you have any opinions on characters who are: Asexual but not aromantic, demi romantic, aroace, or if you just want to share your opinions, feel free! Everyone is valid and I'd like to hear all thoughts.

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Who’s a character you HC as ace just because you want them to be?

Like theres no reason they would be but you still like to think they are

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Can asexuals enjoy some sexual acts and want to initiate it?



Yes ik there are sex-favorable asexuals here but i am not really talking abt sex.


I am talking abt an act or an intimacy that some asexuals percieves as sexual but still wanna act on it/try it out bc they enjoy the act/they are curious abt it.

Or maybe they like getting themselves off Idk.


Sooo yeah, i wanna know if you guys can initiate sexual acts out of enjoyment without sexual attraction?

I would like to know

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Been dating somebody, but pretty sure I am asexual.

I have been dating somebody for a good while now and never touched him. He's never touched me because he's a gentleman. Every time I think of trying to get intimate, I get flushed with anxiety. I hoped for years that I wasn't asexual because there was often something very seriously wrong with some of the men I dated. Many wanted to get intimate too fast. One was a racist and a slight incel. I've had a time with it. But this man is most of what I want in a man. A Christian, sense of humor, not a racist, a lot in common with me. Just one problem. I still have trouble wanting to get closer.

I think of the idea of having an asexual life and I feel happier so long as I can do something meaningful with my life. Right now, I have a career I don't care for, but it makes a lot of money. Anyway, one of my friends came down on me, saying I needed to figure myself out. I tried to explain to her that every time I fooled around, I didn't like it and wanted it to end. She said it might be different since I really care about him. I do think I need to at least try so I can move on with him or without him, but it really hurts that my friend can't listen to what I'm saying.

People can accept other sexualities, gender orientations, different religions, different skin color, different whatever. Why not this? I want to try for the sake of the man I've been dating, but I'm also very sick of trying to make myself the norm.




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I need to know if it's just a me thing or if it's an ace thing

I strongly believe I was asexual at birth the reason why is I never understood the whole male female thing. I never could never comprehend it. Like why is it important as I got older it started to make some sense to me but it still hasn't fully clicked. Is it a just me thing is it an asexual thing or is it something else

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Reddit helped me realize I'm asexual

I'm not sure how to start this so I'm just going to get right into it. Reddit helped me realize I'm asexual. When I first learned about asexuality, I thought it was just not liking or wanting to have sex, so I didn't even consider whether or not I'm ace. When I learned that asexuality is about attraction, not action, that kinda started my phase of questioning my sexuality.

At first I thought I wasn't asexual because I still had crushes or people and experienced attraction. I thought asexuality meant no attraction at all.
It took me a couple years of questioning before I realized that I'm asexual. When I first started seriously considering whether or not I'm ace, I thought I was a combination of quoisexual and cupiosexual.

But one day I was thinking about how I'm on a couple of NSFW subreddits, and when I see people without any clothes on, the thought of sex and the feelings of sexual attraction just weren't there. When I see certain people without clothes on on Reddit, I don't really feel much of anything. I do admire their physique and sometimes I get gender envy. But I just don't feel that sexual desire when I look at them.

I realized that the reason I thought I was quoisexual is because I don't really understand sexual attraction, but it was more of an experience of not being able to understand it because I can't relate to having sexual attraction.

So it took me awhile to figure it out, but in the end, I did.

I now identify as a combination of gray asexual and cupiosexual

If you don't know about cupiosexuality, here's an excert from the Sexuality Wiki on Fandom

Cupiosexual, previously known as Kalossexual, is a microlabel on the Asexual Spectrum. Cupiosexual is defined as someone who does not experience sexual attraction but still desires/likes a sexual relationship. Cupiosexuals are commonly sex-favorable but they do not have to be. Cupiosexual may also be used by individuals who sometimes feel sexual attraction but desire a sexual relationship even without attraction; for example, a demisexual individual who dates someone on the assumption that they will develop sexual attraction later on. Another example could be a fraysexual individual who dates someone even after they lose their sexual attraction.

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