So now my being Butch can’t happen? Apparently I can’t be both Butch, Tomboy and Asexual??
Listen I could care less I just like posting about it anyways to maybe perhaps make others feel better.
But like…
GET A GRIP YOU BUTCHPHOBIC, BUTCH4BUTCH PHOBIC, HOMOPHOBIC, TOMBOYPHOBIC, 1990’s GRUNGE MOSAIC PHOBIC AND ACEPHOBIC PEOPLE!!
I get there are nonbinary Butch Dyke lesbians. (Hell yeah) But you see; I’m a cis Butch Lesbian with a skinny figure bc 90’s tomboyish ness. Nowhere in my face do I scream MAN. My being Butch shows up in my short hair and when I’m wearing flannel. I’m both tomboyish and Butch; I’m also asexual and can be.
Stop it.🙄
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Listen I could care less I just like posting about it anyways to maybe perhaps make others feel better.
But like…
GET A GRIP YOU BUTCHPHOBIC, BUTCH4BUTCH PHOBIC, HOMOPHOBIC, TOMBOYPHOBIC, 1990’s GRUNGE MOSAIC PHOBIC AND ACEPHOBIC PEOPLE!!
I get there are nonbinary Butch Dyke lesbians. (Hell yeah) But you see; I’m a cis Butch Lesbian with a skinny figure bc 90’s tomboyish ness. Nowhere in my face do I scream MAN. My being Butch shows up in my short hair and when I’m wearing flannel. I’m both tomboyish and Butch; I’m also asexual and can be.
Stop it.🙄
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Question for aegosexuals ( or just, any asexuals tbh )
Ok sooo i have a question for aegosexuals abt something.
So i Heard you guys mostly have sexual fantasies but you guys don’t put yourself in these fantasies to what i understand
So if you guys enjoy the fantasies abt ppl that isnt included by you.
Can it happen that you guys understand the idea of sexual attraction but dont experience it?
Like, you understanding how it works and all when fantasizing but not feel it irl?
Does it work like that for some asexuals or not?
I would like to know
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Ok sooo i have a question for aegosexuals abt something.
So i Heard you guys mostly have sexual fantasies but you guys don’t put yourself in these fantasies to what i understand
So if you guys enjoy the fantasies abt ppl that isnt included by you.
Can it happen that you guys understand the idea of sexual attraction but dont experience it?
Like, you understanding how it works and all when fantasizing but not feel it irl?
Does it work like that for some asexuals or not?
I would like to know
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How do I get over my distaste for allosexuals ?
Hi everyone. I'm 21F and demi. It blew my mind when I found out this wasn't the status quo a few years ago, and not in a positive way at all.
The first thoughts that came to mind were "Are people genuinely able to find others attractive and even go to the extent of sexualizing them on their first encounter ?", "How many times has someone sexualized me without my consent or without knowing me well ?", and so on, which eventually morphed into something close to "How are so many people so shallow and disgusting ?", "Anyone able to see someone sexually from the get go genuinely disgusts me and I don't want to even frequent them."
It's to a point that to me, looking at someone and thinking you'd like something sexual with them without even knowing their name is absolutely disgusting, a breach of consent, superficial. I think I'm genuinely disgusted by anyone who is wired like that.
The thing is, while I dislike it personally, I really have no issue with other people going on casual hookups or anything things of the sort, and I'm not the kind to want to dictate people how to live their lives, especially when it's about something harmless that doesn't affect me. I just want to know how to get over this discomfort because thinking that a majority of people are disgusting and suck well... sucks ! I don't wanna be like that !! I'm struggling to rationalize this.
Has anyone ever faced this ? How did you get over it ? Many thanks <3
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Hi everyone. I'm 21F and demi. It blew my mind when I found out this wasn't the status quo a few years ago, and not in a positive way at all.
The first thoughts that came to mind were "Are people genuinely able to find others attractive and even go to the extent of sexualizing them on their first encounter ?", "How many times has someone sexualized me without my consent or without knowing me well ?", and so on, which eventually morphed into something close to "How are so many people so shallow and disgusting ?", "Anyone able to see someone sexually from the get go genuinely disgusts me and I don't want to even frequent them."
It's to a point that to me, looking at someone and thinking you'd like something sexual with them without even knowing their name is absolutely disgusting, a breach of consent, superficial. I think I'm genuinely disgusted by anyone who is wired like that.
The thing is, while I dislike it personally, I really have no issue with other people going on casual hookups or anything things of the sort, and I'm not the kind to want to dictate people how to live their lives, especially when it's about something harmless that doesn't affect me. I just want to know how to get over this discomfort because thinking that a majority of people are disgusting and suck well... sucks ! I don't wanna be like that !! I'm struggling to rationalize this.
Has anyone ever faced this ? How did you get over it ? Many thanks <3
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Asexual or just lazy?
This is probably a strange question. I'm a 21-year-old girl, and my boyfriend is 26. We're having problems with our sex life. At the beginning of our relationship, everything seemed to be fine, although it took me the first couple of months to get used to him (which was new for me; I was afraid of doing something wrong, even though I hadn't behaved like that before). We moved in together a month after we started dating. We've been together for 4 years now, and for the last two years, it feels like I have to beg for sex. 🙈 I can say right away that I want sex more than he does. But for him, it's normal to go and masturbate, and when I ask why we're not having sex, he tells me he's lazy. 🤷🏼♀️ On my part, during the relationship, there was an issue where I didn't like the duration (it was very fast), and now there's nothing at all. After a conversation, we came to the conclusion that I need to initiate more often (but the thing is, I used to be the one who always initiated, and now it feels like my body doesn't want to do it anymore, and as funny as it sounds, it's like it has forgotten how). We also have a difference in the type of sex we like - he prefers a gentler version, while I prefer it rougher, but at the same time, everything we do always feels like it's on a predictable track. I know he's not cheating, but how can we overcome this situation? We're supposed to have a wedding soon, but I'm worried because of this whole situation. I literally look like a model, so I can’t understand from a girl perspective how can you be lazy for sex or how you can masturbate to a porno when you have a girlfriend that wants to have sex with you 🤷🏼♀️
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This is probably a strange question. I'm a 21-year-old girl, and my boyfriend is 26. We're having problems with our sex life. At the beginning of our relationship, everything seemed to be fine, although it took me the first couple of months to get used to him (which was new for me; I was afraid of doing something wrong, even though I hadn't behaved like that before). We moved in together a month after we started dating. We've been together for 4 years now, and for the last two years, it feels like I have to beg for sex. 🙈 I can say right away that I want sex more than he does. But for him, it's normal to go and masturbate, and when I ask why we're not having sex, he tells me he's lazy. 🤷🏼♀️ On my part, during the relationship, there was an issue where I didn't like the duration (it was very fast), and now there's nothing at all. After a conversation, we came to the conclusion that I need to initiate more often (but the thing is, I used to be the one who always initiated, and now it feels like my body doesn't want to do it anymore, and as funny as it sounds, it's like it has forgotten how). We also have a difference in the type of sex we like - he prefers a gentler version, while I prefer it rougher, but at the same time, everything we do always feels like it's on a predictable track. I know he's not cheating, but how can we overcome this situation? We're supposed to have a wedding soon, but I'm worried because of this whole situation. I literally look like a model, so I can’t understand from a girl perspective how can you be lazy for sex or how you can masturbate to a porno when you have a girlfriend that wants to have sex with you 🤷🏼♀️
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I should have never told my mom that I was questioning my asexuality.
I was talking with my mom just a bit ago. Told her that I've considered myself asexual for a couple years. She then questioned why I feel that way, and I explained that I've just never felt any sexual attraction, nor had any interest in sex or see the appeal in it. She then started going on a rant about how I "just haven't found the right person yet" or "you don't need to label yourself." She then pulled up the argument that "LGBTQ is pressuring you into labeling yourself" and that I should just "be myself." The whole conversation just came off as aphobic to me. I just don't know how to feel about her now.
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I was talking with my mom just a bit ago. Told her that I've considered myself asexual for a couple years. She then questioned why I feel that way, and I explained that I've just never felt any sexual attraction, nor had any interest in sex or see the appeal in it. She then started going on a rant about how I "just haven't found the right person yet" or "you don't need to label yourself." She then pulled up the argument that "LGBTQ is pressuring you into labeling yourself" and that I should just "be myself." The whole conversation just came off as aphobic to me. I just don't know how to feel about her now.
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Am I Asexual?
If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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Beauty standards infuriate me to no end.
Every time I see someone insecure of their image because they’re “too ugly,” “too fat,” “too scrawny,” “too flat,” “too tall,” “too short,” “too average,” “too different,” it just makes me pissed at our culture for imposing these made-up standards of worth. Being asexual, I physically can’t see anyone as more or less worthy or appealing because of their looks, and it’s so frustrating to experience how possible it is to look past peoples’ looks when everyone else can’t.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!! Your beauty shines when you’re confidently yourself—all aspects, all styles, all preferences. Traditional beauty standards are a fake social construct stemmed from centuries of shallow and discriminatory preferences set by people who can’t think with more than their genitals. I know it’s so deeply ingrained in our society, and probably won’t go away, but I just want you to know that it’s all fake. You’re not “ugly.” “Ugly” isn’t real. YOU are real.
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Every time I see someone insecure of their image because they’re “too ugly,” “too fat,” “too scrawny,” “too flat,” “too tall,” “too short,” “too average,” “too different,” it just makes me pissed at our culture for imposing these made-up standards of worth. Being asexual, I physically can’t see anyone as more or less worthy or appealing because of their looks, and it’s so frustrating to experience how possible it is to look past peoples’ looks when everyone else can’t.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!! Your beauty shines when you’re confidently yourself—all aspects, all styles, all preferences. Traditional beauty standards are a fake social construct stemmed from centuries of shallow and discriminatory preferences set by people who can’t think with more than their genitals. I know it’s so deeply ingrained in our society, and probably won’t go away, but I just want you to know that it’s all fake. You’re not “ugly.” “Ugly” isn’t real. YOU are real.
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TIL that when people say someone is hot they actually mean that they want to/could have sex with that person
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Are Alloromantics attracted to strangers like allos are?
If allos can be attracted to strangers and stuff, is it the same with romantic attraction? Are asexual but romantically attracted people also attracted to strangers on sight? Like do they imagine kissing strangers or cuddling them? This is a genuine question because I think I might be demiromantic ?? Also if you're demiromantic, can you explain how you knew?
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If allos can be attracted to strangers and stuff, is it the same with romantic attraction? Are asexual but romantically attracted people also attracted to strangers on sight? Like do they imagine kissing strangers or cuddling them? This is a genuine question because I think I might be demiromantic ?? Also if you're demiromantic, can you explain how you knew?
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