Why are Arab asexuals so rare? Are we just silent?
As an Algerian boy, I’ve identified as asexual for a while now — but I’ve never met another asexual person in real life, especially not from the Arab world.
In a region where sex, marriage, and having children are often seen as essential goals in life, being asexual can feel… invisible.
It makes me wonder:
Are Arab asexuals just rare, or are they just silent because of cultural pressure, fear, or lack of awareness?
I’d love to hear from any other Arabs here about your experience with asexuality. Do you feel seen? Do you talk about it openly? Have you found understanding in your circles?
This isn’t just about curiosity — it’s also about connection. I’d be glad to meet like-minded people who understand what it’s like to live this identity in our region.
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As an Algerian boy, I’ve identified as asexual for a while now — but I’ve never met another asexual person in real life, especially not from the Arab world.
In a region where sex, marriage, and having children are often seen as essential goals in life, being asexual can feel… invisible.
It makes me wonder:
Are Arab asexuals just rare, or are they just silent because of cultural pressure, fear, or lack of awareness?
I’d love to hear from any other Arabs here about your experience with asexuality. Do you feel seen? Do you talk about it openly? Have you found understanding in your circles?
This isn’t just about curiosity — it’s also about connection. I’d be glad to meet like-minded people who understand what it’s like to live this identity in our region.
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How did you realize your ace?
Definitely not questioning myself so hard so….
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Definitely not questioning myself so hard so….
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I’m ace, my partner isn’t.
Hi folks,
My partner and I have been together almost 3 years, and it’s the most wonderful relationship I’ve ever had - we love each other to death. I explained that I was ace very early on and she’s been very accepting of it.
The issue is that although she accepts me for who I am and respects my inability to have a sexual relationship, she’s having difficulty recently with missing physicality. It’s been upsetting her and I feel awful about it. I class myself as poly and I’ve said that I’m more than happy for her to find a second more sexual partner, but she doesn’t feel comfortable with that for various reasons that I completely respect.
Does anyone have advice for this situation? I don’t want to be the reason she feels sad or like she’s missing something but I really don’t know what to do - I’m only getting more and more along the ace spectrum as I get older and I don’t think I could have sex even if I wanted to. I just want to make her happy, and this is literally the only thing that’s a wrinkle in our relationship.
Thanks in advance.
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Hi folks,
My partner and I have been together almost 3 years, and it’s the most wonderful relationship I’ve ever had - we love each other to death. I explained that I was ace very early on and she’s been very accepting of it.
The issue is that although she accepts me for who I am and respects my inability to have a sexual relationship, she’s having difficulty recently with missing physicality. It’s been upsetting her and I feel awful about it. I class myself as poly and I’ve said that I’m more than happy for her to find a second more sexual partner, but she doesn’t feel comfortable with that for various reasons that I completely respect.
Does anyone have advice for this situation? I don’t want to be the reason she feels sad or like she’s missing something but I really don’t know what to do - I’m only getting more and more along the ace spectrum as I get older and I don’t think I could have sex even if I wanted to. I just want to make her happy, and this is literally the only thing that’s a wrinkle in our relationship.
Thanks in advance.
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Is it weird to enjoy masturbating but hate sex with another person? How does that work in a relationship?
I realized late in life (in my 40’s) that I just genuinely hate having sex with people. I always thought maybe I just hadn’t found the right person, so I kept searching and forcing myself to sleep with people even though I dreaded it every time. I finally gave up my search this year after learning that I am a sex-averse ace.
But I still enjoy masturbating, which is what is really confusing to me. I don’t know how to get into a relationship and tell someone I have no interest in them sexually but then turn around and take care of myself every night to go to sleep.
Anyone else have this experience?
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I realized late in life (in my 40’s) that I just genuinely hate having sex with people. I always thought maybe I just hadn’t found the right person, so I kept searching and forcing myself to sleep with people even though I dreaded it every time. I finally gave up my search this year after learning that I am a sex-averse ace.
But I still enjoy masturbating, which is what is really confusing to me. I don’t know how to get into a relationship and tell someone I have no interest in them sexually but then turn around and take care of myself every night to go to sleep.
Anyone else have this experience?
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Acephobic mom thinks my friends turned me queer
I’m 23 now and I still live with my parents due to my disability and uni. Luckily I’ll be graduating into a high paying field in a few years but things haven’t been the easiest in the meantime. 2 years ago I started questioning my sexuality and realized I might be ace. After years of research, ruminating and late nights scrolling this subreddit im pretty comfortable identifying as ace (specifically aego). Part of the process was reading Ace by Angel Chen. I was terrified to even have the book in my house with my family so I would hide it and read it in secret. Then I realized F this, I’m a grown adult for gods sake, I’m leaving it out on my desk because this is my space and I shouldn’t live like a child.
Sure enough she saw it and acted really weird about it. “…do you think you’re asexual…” and I just said I had barely started reading the book.
I confided in my brother later on that week and he admitted our mom had gone to him to rant about me because of how ridiculous it was for me to consider I could be ace, how I’m confused because all my friends were lesbians and were influencing me and isolating me from men, etc etc. I was humiliated to hear this but now I’m just angry.
Since then my mom will never talk about it directly with me but she keeps trying to tell me not to be so hard on men, that’s she’s so sorry I’ve been so isolated due to Covid and my disability and that I’ll find a guy I want to be with eventually. She keeps bringing up how funnn it was having kids and how easyyyy childbirth was and how much I’ll want to when I meet the right man.
There is so much personal development of mine she has missed out on because she chose to act like this. Realizing I’m ace led me to investigate autism, gender identity, and my whole life suddenly made sense. It’s still a process but she has no part in it anymore. We have always been really close so I have to remind myself constantly not to overshare with her because I know I’ll just get burned.
The funniest thing is she’s probably ace too and she has no clue. The time I tried to explain it to her she just said “well that’s how EVERYONE feels, I was never attracted to anyone until I knew them really well, I would get super nauseous too! That’s just life!!”. But of course that’s not for me to decide for her.
Anyways. Thanks for letting me rant. Always open to advice and other’s experiences.
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I’m 23 now and I still live with my parents due to my disability and uni. Luckily I’ll be graduating into a high paying field in a few years but things haven’t been the easiest in the meantime. 2 years ago I started questioning my sexuality and realized I might be ace. After years of research, ruminating and late nights scrolling this subreddit im pretty comfortable identifying as ace (specifically aego). Part of the process was reading Ace by Angel Chen. I was terrified to even have the book in my house with my family so I would hide it and read it in secret. Then I realized F this, I’m a grown adult for gods sake, I’m leaving it out on my desk because this is my space and I shouldn’t live like a child.
Sure enough she saw it and acted really weird about it. “…do you think you’re asexual…” and I just said I had barely started reading the book.
I confided in my brother later on that week and he admitted our mom had gone to him to rant about me because of how ridiculous it was for me to consider I could be ace, how I’m confused because all my friends were lesbians and were influencing me and isolating me from men, etc etc. I was humiliated to hear this but now I’m just angry.
Since then my mom will never talk about it directly with me but she keeps trying to tell me not to be so hard on men, that’s she’s so sorry I’ve been so isolated due to Covid and my disability and that I’ll find a guy I want to be with eventually. She keeps bringing up how funnn it was having kids and how easyyyy childbirth was and how much I’ll want to when I meet the right man.
There is so much personal development of mine she has missed out on because she chose to act like this. Realizing I’m ace led me to investigate autism, gender identity, and my whole life suddenly made sense. It’s still a process but she has no part in it anymore. We have always been really close so I have to remind myself constantly not to overshare with her because I know I’ll just get burned.
The funniest thing is she’s probably ace too and she has no clue. The time I tried to explain it to her she just said “well that’s how EVERYONE feels, I was never attracted to anyone until I knew them really well, I would get super nauseous too! That’s just life!!”. But of course that’s not for me to decide for her.
Anyways. Thanks for letting me rant. Always open to advice and other’s experiences.
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Are Asexual people less likely to be money motivated?
I have a friend who is super successful, on his way to becoming very rich, and is hyper sexual and I asked him if all of the work he puts into making money, getting fit, etc is because he wants a wife and kids and he said “it’s not the main reason why I do what I do, but they would be the end results of my efforts”. Whereas, with me, I just don’t care about any of that. I’m quite content with making a bit of money, have no drive to have kids or a wife, and I’m not sex driven. So, I was just wondering, are there any asexual people on here that are still driven by success, despite not having sexual urges?
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I have a friend who is super successful, on his way to becoming very rich, and is hyper sexual and I asked him if all of the work he puts into making money, getting fit, etc is because he wants a wife and kids and he said “it’s not the main reason why I do what I do, but they would be the end results of my efforts”. Whereas, with me, I just don’t care about any of that. I’m quite content with making a bit of money, have no drive to have kids or a wife, and I’m not sex driven. So, I was just wondering, are there any asexual people on here that are still driven by success, despite not having sexual urges?
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Might be a gross question but I just wanna know I'm not alone in this (female asking females)
Is it normal to only feel the urge to masterbate during "shark week"? (that's what my sis and I call "that time of the month" lol)
I can literally go without thinking about sex, having the urge to have sex or masterbate, it doesn't even cross my mind almost like I forget it's some important thing people crave or whatever until I see it on TV or hear someone talk about it, but that hormonal shark week rolls around and I spend most of my time in the bath watching hentai lol It's a mix of release and calming my cramps, but it's like I don't even think or feel the urge until it's that time of the month.. anyone else?
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Is it normal to only feel the urge to masterbate during "shark week"? (that's what my sis and I call "that time of the month" lol)
I can literally go without thinking about sex, having the urge to have sex or masterbate, it doesn't even cross my mind almost like I forget it's some important thing people crave or whatever until I see it on TV or hear someone talk about it, but that hormonal shark week rolls around and I spend most of my time in the bath watching hentai lol It's a mix of release and calming my cramps, but it's like I don't even think or feel the urge until it's that time of the month.. anyone else?
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Men just stop talking to you once they learn you’re aroace
Yeah. You’re like hmm maybe I could be friends with this guy (and you’re a woman in this scenario). And you tell him you’re aroace relatively early on so that he doesn’t get his hopes up if he happens to find you attractive. And he gets all flabbergasted like you told him you’re from another planet and he gets all “but are you sure???” And “what a dull life” and then he just fucks off! Glad to know you only liked talking to me when you thought you could maybe get in my pants!
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Yeah. You’re like hmm maybe I could be friends with this guy (and you’re a woman in this scenario). And you tell him you’re aroace relatively early on so that he doesn’t get his hopes up if he happens to find you attractive. And he gets all flabbergasted like you told him you’re from another planet and he gets all “but are you sure???” And “what a dull life” and then he just fucks off! Glad to know you only liked talking to me when you thought you could maybe get in my pants!
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Ahhh this book shop’s young adult section has a whole shelf of books about asexual characters! :)
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