Are You Aro (Advice)?

**Hi everyone!**



Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.



**Do any of these resonate with you?**

\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.

\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.

\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.

\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.



These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.



\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!

* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)

* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)

* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)

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Is it really that rare to want love without sex?

Sometimes I wonder if I'm asking for too much.

I’m an asexual guy who dreams of love — real, deep emotional love — but without sex or physical expectations. No kids, no traditional roles. Just two people choosing each other every day, sharing life and supporting one another.

But where I live (for example, Algeria), I feel like that’s almost impossible to find. People here don’t even know what asexuality is, let alone accept it. Everything seems to revolve around sex, marriage, and having children.

Is there anyone out there who also feels like this?
Is it really that rare to want companionship without sex?

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Confused about HRT and how it made me suddenly stop experiencing sexual attraction (as well as just being confused about my asexuality)

Okay so I've been a bit confused recently about how exactly I figured out I was asexual and the time between then and now. Because 8 months ago I started HRT and had a sudden drop in libido which made me start to question if I was asexual, I then noticed that I also didn't find anyone visually sexually attractive anymore or have any sort of desire for sex. This has changed a bit now and I think I've figured out that I'm demisexual/greyasexual, however I'm still just really confused how this happened so quickly when I started HRT. I also still cannot find anyone visually sexually attractive which is something I was able to feel very easily before. And I instead find that my sexual attraction and desire to have sex with a specific person is completely based on emotional connection rather than visuals.

I was mostly just wandering if anyone has had a similar sort of experience or could maybe know what is going on, thanks :))

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Went on a hot topic spree and look what I found! My new favourite shirt and it’s ace merch too!
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Newly realised I’m asexual and feeling a little confused and guilty

I (F23) and my partner (F25) have been together just over a year. I recently realised I’m asexual. I’ve never been overly interested in sex and sometimes even kissing, and although I care deeply for my girlfriend and love spending time together, the physical stuff just doesn’t come naturally or often for me.

My girlfriend is sexual, though she’s very understanding. We’ve had honest talks and she says she doesn’t need sex often and reassures me that I’m enough — and I believe her, I really do. I just sometimes feel guilty that I can’t give her what she might want more of. I want to want it more — I just don’t.

At the start of our relationship I was very physical and affectionate, but that faded with time — same in my past relationship. I now realise I might have been masking or misinterpreting my feelings. I’d love to hear from anyone else who’s felt this way. Is it normal to still want to be affectionate emotionally, but feel little to no physical desire? Does anyone else feel like they’re not “enough” for their partner?

I guess I’m just trying to find my place and feel less alone in this. Thank you in advance 💜

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Okay, I'm confused

I just recently started thinking about the fact that I may be asexual. And even after reading some other posts I'm still a little confused 😅 I've never been sexually attracted to anyone but I am Biromantic. I mean I am intimate with myself, but even then I still don't feel anything. Is that normal?



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Ace ring acquired!
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Is my partner really asexual?

So basically: My partner (M19) and I (F19) have been together for 2 years now. In the beginning we were intimate a lot and it was something he always mentioned he enjoyed a lot (although it was always about HIS kinks and stuff, otherwise he wouldn't enjoy it really). Well we almost broke up once because he thought he was gay and therefore he "tried to be intimate with a guy. That really hurt me a lot and we had some issues after that. Sex became less and less frequent until we recently had a talk again. Basically it's about him not feeling sexually attracted to me (which was a talk initiated by me). He has a great problem distinguishing between what's fantasy and what he wants irl. He told me he basically only finds trans women with dick attractive. I told him then that's what he should be dating instead of making me feel unattractive and like a piece of shit. He claims to not know if that's what he really wants and still loves me very much and thinks iam attractive. My first thought was: that boy definitely watched too much porn. Well now he wants an asexual relationship (and monogamous, which is the only option for me, really) and idk how to feel about that considering the fact he basically is aroused by trans women and porn but iam bot enough?? idk what this is but it really doesn't sound much like asexuality to me.

Edit: I have no problem with asexuality at all. I don't quite enjoy sex as much myself. I just have a weird feeling about this.

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Whats yalls opinion on young asexuals?

Im asexual and I discovered it a few months ago, but im 15. I think its fine, but what are yalls thoughts?

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Whats yalls opinion on young asexuals?

I discovered I was asexual a few months ago, and im 15. I mean I think its fine but what do yall think about it??

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I forgot my ring today so I completed my work outfit with my brACElet instead 😎
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SEX IS A CONSPIRACY MADE UP BY THE GOVERNMENT!!!!
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How's this? Does it make sense? A minute isn't very long. 😅

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What sites should I use to find a queerplatonic partner?

I am looking for a queerplatonic relationship but I have Aceapp and it’s an outdated looking site and there aren’t my really people in my area when I use it.

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I saw that were sharing our ace jewelry
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I just got some fidget spinner rings and I made sure I got a black one! Multipurpose!
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What's your favorite thing to do in bed (besides sleep)?

I used to watch a lot of anime and play video games in bed. In college I'd even do homework in bed when I was having a rough day. Now all I do in bed is read books or look at my phone. I rarely ever go in my bedroom outside of bedtime.

I know they recommend not using your bed for anything other than sleep and adult activities, but I kind of miss doing other stuff. What are your favorite "other" activities?

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Será que ahora soy asexual?

Hola, me he estado preguntando porque no tengo ganas de tener pareja por primera vez en mi vida, hay días que me gustaría pero no me motiva lo suficiente. Tuve un matrimonio cruel y un hijito de 9 años al que amo. Mi última pareja fue hace un año y medio y lo amaba como nunca había amado antes, él fue inmaduro a pesar de ser de mi misma edad (37 años y también con una hija de la misma edad que mi hijo) y no pude seguir a su lado pues yo necesitaba apoyo más que desgaste emocional de un hombre inmaduro (con problemas de alcoholismo), quedé muy mal física y emocionalmente, llegué a pesar 42 kg (10kg menos que mi peso normal) sin ánimos de nada no podía ni lavarme los dientes ni bañarme. Hoy estoy más fuerte que nunca, me siento muy bien conmigo misma por mi decisión y por mi evolución, he madurado mucho y amo y doy gracias por cada día que vivo y por mi familia. Pero no me siento con ganas de volver a querer tener un hombre en mi vida pues todos han sido desleales, egoístas y crueles en mayor o menor medida. A veces me planteo bajar una app de citas para ver si vuelvo a sentir ganas al menos de tener sexo. Busco compartir y leer sus experiencias y consejos. Gracias!

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Garlic bread
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The egg cracked and with it came a lesbian
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Is it weird I saw Moulin Rouge Live with my sister?

Im 9 years older than her but we are both adults. I had a blast! Great music and dancing, cute outfits. Ive known about Moulin Rouge, but this was first time for both of us seeing it. After she stayed she wasn't sure if it was weird to see it together. There was alot of lingerie and butts. I didnt think so, and I told her most of the actors were wearing body suits under so theres no skin showing.

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