It’s been a year since I came out

It feels so nice being able to put a name to how I feel about sex and intimacy.

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I found a weird doesn't look like right to me ageosexal asexual flag I just want to know if this is a official or just a made up flag that someone randomly made?
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I just found the GOAT of crackers 🧄🥖
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How do you feel about anime?

I'm curious, I can't say this for every anime, but all the ones I've tried watching always have these sexual "jokes" and/or moments that always make me really uncomfortable, I don't even get what's the point.

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I hate when people go like "ooh who got you smiling at your phone like that?"

Like memes aren't a thing that exists and EVERYONE knows about, like you couldn't have read an news article about puppies from a shelter being adopted, or read about your favorite show getting a new season, or get a text from a friend telling you about getting a promotion or ANYTHING else. I swear I despise how fixated society is on romantic relationships so damm much, to the point people seem to think that's the only or primarily thing that could bring you joy. And this is especially done to people who haven't been known to date much in an attempt to "push them" to talk about their possibly love life like it's a novelty or a spectacle.

Man, just shut up

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We Don’t Need to be Fixed
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I don’t think he knows that I am Ace but look at what my Grandpa wore at my birthday.
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Choose wisely
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I had Anton, an ace MC from one of my books commissioned for pride month.
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Seriously guys, we aren't at war. You can chill out.
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Pornhub itself has better standards for what ads they show
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I Just did my ACE bass
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I have never felt sexually aroused by a person in real life, yet I do get sexually aroused from fantasies and porn. Am I asexual or just broken/weird?

I (36 M) have never felt sexual attraction to or arousal around a woman (or man) in my entire life. I have felt attracted to women, but I wouldn't describe it as sexual, especially not in the way others describe it. I never feel sexually aroused by a person i am with or have feelings for. My feelings are strictly emotional/romantic and makes me want to establish and maintain a connection with them. But I have never felt the urge to for example kiss someone.

What causes me confusion though is the fact that I can feel sexual arousal from fantasies. I have had sexual fantasies about real and fictional people since I was a teenager, yet I have never actually felt sexual feelings for anyone I privately fantasize about when I am with them for real.

Same with porn, at least porn about scenarios I find arousing.

So basically I find fictional sex arousing, but not the prospect of real actual sex.

I have been conflicted and felt obligated to do things I have seen people do in movies and series with people I like, because I feel like that I what is expected in that situation. But it is never really something I naturally want to do or feel drawn to in anyway. I keep thinking "oh is this the point where I should put my arms around her? Should I kiss her now?" but I don't actually feel an urge to do it. I might feel like hugging and hold people.

That combined with feeling aroused by fantasies and porn makes me feel like I am not asexual, yet when it comes to real people and situations I am uninterested.

Is this normal? Is there something wrong with me? Am I self-repressing? Can I be asexual irl, but sexual in my head? Does that make sense? Am I still asexual?

Does anyone else who is asexual feel aroused by sexual fantasies? Sometimes I wonder if me fantasizing a lot during my teens instead of being with real women, caused me to only be able to get sexually aroused by fantasies, since that was the only thing I experienced and my brain simply cannot associate real people, situations and intimacy with sex. Like, I only really get aroused by situations and scenarios, not people. Yet I cannot remember ever getting aroused by girls even as a teenager. Never. I never had boners in public or around girls or anything. Even before I discovered porn and begun fantasizing more.

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