Do you believe we’re only 1%?
I’ve read this so many times! “Asexuals are only 1% of the population.” People use this like common knowledge, but when you’re searching for the source - it’s always some small research taken in 2002 or a poll with a small number of participants.
Tbh, I think if it were a really huge poll, the results still would be doubtful.
First of all, to say you’re asexual, you must know asexuality EXISTS. We aces are not so widely popular. I haven’t heard of asexuality for most of my life (and I’m 34).
You must know not only the word but the actual meaning. What asexuality is. But your first introduction to asexuality can be some stupid opinion or misconception. In this case you can just think, Oh, that’s definitely not me, and stop investigating the topic.
Also, you must actively think about your orientation to conclude you’re asexual. And for many aces sex-related themes are not the most interesting stuff. They just don’t question themselves, too busy thinking of their careers, hobbies, or families.
Some people believe they would still meet “The One”. Or think they are ill, broken, or traumatized, not realizing they’re just asexual.
Society constantly tells us sex is such an enormous and important part of life. No wonder that some can’t accept their asexuality. (It can be hard to accept it in your head, and to say it even in an anonymous poll is an even harder challenge).
I think sometimes of people I met years ago. They might have been asexuals, they acted and talked like they were ace. But I had no idea then. And they may live their whole life and never know.
So is 1% is our proportion in the population, or does the number just shows how tiny our representation is in a global discourse?
(Please excuse my English, I’m not a native speaker).
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I’ve read this so many times! “Asexuals are only 1% of the population.” People use this like common knowledge, but when you’re searching for the source - it’s always some small research taken in 2002 or a poll with a small number of participants.
Tbh, I think if it were a really huge poll, the results still would be doubtful.
First of all, to say you’re asexual, you must know asexuality EXISTS. We aces are not so widely popular. I haven’t heard of asexuality for most of my life (and I’m 34).
You must know not only the word but the actual meaning. What asexuality is. But your first introduction to asexuality can be some stupid opinion or misconception. In this case you can just think, Oh, that’s definitely not me, and stop investigating the topic.
Also, you must actively think about your orientation to conclude you’re asexual. And for many aces sex-related themes are not the most interesting stuff. They just don’t question themselves, too busy thinking of their careers, hobbies, or families.
Some people believe they would still meet “The One”. Or think they are ill, broken, or traumatized, not realizing they’re just asexual.
Society constantly tells us sex is such an enormous and important part of life. No wonder that some can’t accept their asexuality. (It can be hard to accept it in your head, and to say it even in an anonymous poll is an even harder challenge).
I think sometimes of people I met years ago. They might have been asexuals, they acted and talked like they were ace. But I had no idea then. And they may live their whole life and never know.
So is 1% is our proportion in the population, or does the number just shows how tiny our representation is in a global discourse?
(Please excuse my English, I’m not a native speaker).
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I'm ace and I keep having sexual dreams... it makes me so uncomfortable.
I started Lexapro for my anxiety maybe a year ago, and something it can do it cause very vivid dreams. Well, that would be fine if it didn't give me vividly SEXUAL dreams. It's probably not possible without stopping the med, but jeez, is there anything I can do to calm down these dreams? Lexapro helps me a whole lot so I don't want to stop using it just for one silly symptom, but most times when I have a freaky dream, I wake up and feel dirty 😭😭😭 it's... agh I don't like it!
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I started Lexapro for my anxiety maybe a year ago, and something it can do it cause very vivid dreams. Well, that would be fine if it didn't give me vividly SEXUAL dreams. It's probably not possible without stopping the med, but jeez, is there anything I can do to calm down these dreams? Lexapro helps me a whole lot so I don't want to stop using it just for one silly symptom, but most times when I have a freaky dream, I wake up and feel dirty 😭😭😭 it's... agh I don't like it!
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Doctor said pap smear would break my hymen (and other things)
I went to our family clinic yesterday to do our annual checkup. I talked to the newer doctor (so not the one I’m used to). Normally this would be fine, but the interaction I had was not the usual one I got each year.
I’m over 25, so she said I should do a pap smear at some point. Which seems reasonable enough, but I’ve never had penetrative sex (which felt hard/awkward to explain to her). I got it across eventually, then she asked if I was a virgin and then said the pap smear would break my hymen and I don’t have to do it for now unless I requested it.
She didn’t have any bad intentions telling me all this I’m sure, but I just felt… I don’t know, bad? About hearing all of this. Does a pap smear tear the hymen?? That doesn’t sound good at all. And I’m told that hymen tearing isn’t necessarily an indicator of virginity, not that I like the traditional concept of female virginity to begin with (some trauma from secondhand stories of SA). I’ve found it to not be a healthy concept for me.
The whole interaction just makes me down in a way I can’t explain. Next time I go, I will ask for my regular doctor, especially since I was asking about getting birth control yesterday and I plan to again. Does anyone have any advice for me?
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I went to our family clinic yesterday to do our annual checkup. I talked to the newer doctor (so not the one I’m used to). Normally this would be fine, but the interaction I had was not the usual one I got each year.
I’m over 25, so she said I should do a pap smear at some point. Which seems reasonable enough, but I’ve never had penetrative sex (which felt hard/awkward to explain to her). I got it across eventually, then she asked if I was a virgin and then said the pap smear would break my hymen and I don’t have to do it for now unless I requested it.
She didn’t have any bad intentions telling me all this I’m sure, but I just felt… I don’t know, bad? About hearing all of this. Does a pap smear tear the hymen?? That doesn’t sound good at all. And I’m told that hymen tearing isn’t necessarily an indicator of virginity, not that I like the traditional concept of female virginity to begin with (some trauma from secondhand stories of SA). I’ve found it to not be a healthy concept for me.
The whole interaction just makes me down in a way I can’t explain. Next time I go, I will ask for my regular doctor, especially since I was asking about getting birth control yesterday and I plan to again. Does anyone have any advice for me?
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