To all the allosexuals who keep making relationship help posts here:
This sub is a means of finding belonging, solidarity, and community amongst asexuals, not a relationship forum.
To the allosexuals who keep posting on this subreddit about loving an asexual person but having issues with their partner / crushes sexuality:
If your partners asexual and you’re not, no it’s probably not going to work. End of story. The only exception would be you’re willing to give up or greatly limit sex (which most allo askers seem to not want).
Don’t ask us what to do - because we’re probably all thinking along the lines of what I said in the previous paragraph. Venting your fears and frustrations over loving an asexual person as an allo in our forum comes off as inappropriate, quite frankly. We’ve dealt with people finding us weird and inconvenient our whole lives, we don’t need you to come here and tell us how one of us has broken your heart or caused issues in your life, nor do we care to coddle you because of it - we aren’t therapists nor should we really care. If you’re having issues with an ace partner, please just TALK to them. Maybe this is harsh, but I feel like a cross between an animal in a zoo and an unpaid therapist’s intern with the sheer amount of allo posters asking about their situationships.
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This sub is a means of finding belonging, solidarity, and community amongst asexuals, not a relationship forum.
To the allosexuals who keep posting on this subreddit about loving an asexual person but having issues with their partner / crushes sexuality:
If your partners asexual and you’re not, no it’s probably not going to work. End of story. The only exception would be you’re willing to give up or greatly limit sex (which most allo askers seem to not want).
Don’t ask us what to do - because we’re probably all thinking along the lines of what I said in the previous paragraph. Venting your fears and frustrations over loving an asexual person as an allo in our forum comes off as inappropriate, quite frankly. We’ve dealt with people finding us weird and inconvenient our whole lives, we don’t need you to come here and tell us how one of us has broken your heart or caused issues in your life, nor do we care to coddle you because of it - we aren’t therapists nor should we really care. If you’re having issues with an ace partner, please just TALK to them. Maybe this is harsh, but I feel like a cross between an animal in a zoo and an unpaid therapist’s intern with the sheer amount of allo posters asking about their situationships.
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Romantic asexuals, what was your first kiss like?
Just wondering as a romantic asexual who’s never had her first kiss and wondering if it feels amazing!
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Just wondering as a romantic asexual who’s never had her first kiss and wondering if it feels amazing!
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Went from being praised about not having sex to being "weird" when they found I'm asexual
So I go to a Christian school, and I'm sure majority can see where this is going. I'm an atheist, didn't pick my school, but it's whatever. One of my classmates, let's call her Chasity, was sitting next to me during health class. She complained about how everyone seemed to have sex on the brain, and how no one seemed to be waiting for marriage.
I agreed on the first bit, but was indifferent to the second. Then she asked me if I'm a virgin, and I said yes. She smiled and said she was proud of me or something, then asked me if I'm waiting for marriage too. I said no, and told her I was ace, and didn't plan to lose my virginity at all, even after marriage.
Chasity grimaced and said, "Oh, you're one of those. I really don't get it. Sex is human nature, and you don't want it at all? Sorry, but that's really weird." I'm pretty indifferent to this interaction cause being called weird doesn't have the same impact as being called a slur, which I've been called multiple times. I'm just surprised at how quickly she switched.
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So I go to a Christian school, and I'm sure majority can see where this is going. I'm an atheist, didn't pick my school, but it's whatever. One of my classmates, let's call her Chasity, was sitting next to me during health class. She complained about how everyone seemed to have sex on the brain, and how no one seemed to be waiting for marriage.
I agreed on the first bit, but was indifferent to the second. Then she asked me if I'm a virgin, and I said yes. She smiled and said she was proud of me or something, then asked me if I'm waiting for marriage too. I said no, and told her I was ace, and didn't plan to lose my virginity at all, even after marriage.
Chasity grimaced and said, "Oh, you're one of those. I really don't get it. Sex is human nature, and you don't want it at all? Sorry, but that's really weird." I'm pretty indifferent to this interaction cause being called weird doesn't have the same impact as being called a slur, which I've been called multiple times. I'm just surprised at how quickly she switched.
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Asexuals make great partners!
I get that there seems to be some negativity in this sub so I wanted to share something positive about having an ace person for a partner. Ace people are great! They're these delightful little creatures who only crave your love and affection and nothing more. They're easy to please and they really enjoy getting to know you. They won't objectify you or pressure you into something you don't like. They'll love you for you and not what you can offer them in the bedroom. I don't know what all the fuss is about. Dating an ace person is truly a wonderful experience if you just give them a chance! (:
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I get that there seems to be some negativity in this sub so I wanted to share something positive about having an ace person for a partner. Ace people are great! They're these delightful little creatures who only crave your love and affection and nothing more. They're easy to please and they really enjoy getting to know you. They won't objectify you or pressure you into something you don't like. They'll love you for you and not what you can offer them in the bedroom. I don't know what all the fuss is about. Dating an ace person is truly a wonderful experience if you just give them a chance! (:
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Asexuals make great partners!
I get that there seems to be some negativity in this sub so I wanted to share something positive about having an ace person for a partner. Ace people are great! They're these delightful little creatures who only crave your love and affection and nothing more. They're easy to please and they really enjoy getting to know you. They won't objectify you or pressure you into something you don't like. They'll love you for you and not what you can offer them in the bedroom. I don't know what all the fuss is about. Dating an ace person is truly a wonderful experience if you just give them a chance! (:
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I get that there seems to be some negativity in this sub so I wanted to share something positive about having an ace person for a partner. Ace people are great! They're these delightful little creatures who only crave your love and affection and nothing more. They're easy to please and they really enjoy getting to know you. They won't objectify you or pressure you into something you don't like. They'll love you for you and not what you can offer them in the bedroom. I don't know what all the fuss is about. Dating an ace person is truly a wonderful experience if you just give them a chance! (:
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I told my doctor I’m asexual, she told me the term is too vague
I was just at my doctors because of mental health problems. She asked me about friends and partners and I told her that I’m asexual and aromantic. She told me that the term is too vague and people mean different things by it. I got pretty angry with her because I felt the usual rejection of my identity that I have gotten from doctors before. I told her that there is literally a definition of asexual online. Then she told me that I’m being nit picky and argumentative. And what she meant was that what’s interesting is what is behind the asexuality. I also asked her if she would say the same thing to a homosexual person. She said no. So I asked okey, so it’s because they have attraction to other (same sex) people? And she said yes. I don’t get it? Asexual just means you don’t have attraction. How hard is that to understand?
Was I in the wrong here or was she? I’m depressed and in a shitty mood so I honestly can’t tell
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I was just at my doctors because of mental health problems. She asked me about friends and partners and I told her that I’m asexual and aromantic. She told me that the term is too vague and people mean different things by it. I got pretty angry with her because I felt the usual rejection of my identity that I have gotten from doctors before. I told her that there is literally a definition of asexual online. Then she told me that I’m being nit picky and argumentative. And what she meant was that what’s interesting is what is behind the asexuality. I also asked her if she would say the same thing to a homosexual person. She said no. So I asked okey, so it’s because they have attraction to other (same sex) people? And she said yes. I don’t get it? Asexual just means you don’t have attraction. How hard is that to understand?
Was I in the wrong here or was she? I’m depressed and in a shitty mood so I honestly can’t tell
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PrideOoh, bandwagon time! This is what an asexual can look like :)
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Didn’t have any burger buns last night so I had to improvise.
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