The news and their obsession with sexuality

Please remove if this isn't allowed.


I am furious that the articles surrounding the tragedy in Utica, NY are spending a lot of time on the victims sexuality. This was not a hate crime and by posting headlines and stories that make a big deal about her queerness, the news trivializes hate crime, it misses the point about her passing, it distracts from the real issue and generally just appears like trying to support the wrong part of who she was. "Look at us, we are talking about a queer story and it isn't even pride anymore! Aren't we special".

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I know this is not really a rant, rants are normally longer. I just wanted to get this out there and start a conversation.

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What is romantic attraction and what does it feel like to you?

(I'm very tired, apologies if this is scattered)

I've known for most of my life that I am asexual. For the longest time I thought it was bi because I was physically attracted to both males and females, but now I know that this isn't the case.

Thinking about my past romantic relationships, it's hard to put into words what I felt for the other person. Before we got together, attraction was always there, whether it be physical or something about their personality. But when I actually started dating them, I quickly felt trapped and uncomfortable, and just overwhelmed with how romantic my partner seemed to be. Their displays of affection give me so much anxiety because I couldn't respond genuinely. I loved them very much but I could not reciprocate the feeling back. It made me feel terrible.

I understand loving someone very strongly like a best friend, even to the point of wanting to hug or cuddle or kiss them or be physically intimate. But this isn't really romantic for me, it's just a physical expression of gratitude and trust. It's mainly driven by a desire to just be affectionate with someone I value as a close friend. It's a big stress reliever for me. Like petting a cat or something.

Anyway, I can someone please explain to me what romance feels like? What is the difference between romance and love? Thank you.

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“AUTOCHORISSEXUALITY” (Repost)
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Archie comics decides to clear up the confusion on whether Jughead is asexual or not with a good old fashioned Crisis of Infinite Jugheads.
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My kind of nudes!
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It says something, that there's people who would rather enjoy their lives than chase attachment to someone, just so they can get some dopamine
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Big ace energy
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i made a wallpaper for myself! i can repost it without my name later if people want
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Good news guys!
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Finally letting my emotions out

I have a love hate relationship with my asexuality. I try to be prideful like I am with being biromantic but there are some days where it's just so difficult and I legitimately wish I was just straight or bisexual. But I never told anyone, not even this subreddit because I like to be the person who is openly queer and that my friends can go to with questions or frustrations about their sexuality and for some reason I though expressing what I dislike about being queer would ruin that.

Anyway, I was talking to one of my straight friends about enemies and some how asexuality got brought up. I was really tired as the effects of two energy drinks had worn off and I started going off about my frustrations. I was afraid he wouldn't listen or care but I just kept going, I couldn't stop. Be he did listen, there was a couple things he got wrong (he's new to the friend group and hasn't really known anyone from the lgbtq+ community before) but he tried his best to help me. Nothing he said was really profound but just being there for me and listening and telling me I was valid helped so much.

He's a true ally.

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saw this on facebook and thought it was funny and belonged here
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I found the perfect Pokémon cards
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Well, thats a 1000 gems I don't have to spend.
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Got an Ace flag as an early birthday gift!
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When a character who previously states their disinterest in matters of the flesh ends up undergoing a forced romantic subplot and subsequent sex scenes
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High School was a different time for those like us

Me, in high school: How the hell do people *"accidentally"* have children? Just don't have sex, JFC how hard is that?

Me, after figuring out I'm Ace and realizing not everyone sees sex like I do: oooohhhhh......

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Thank you all.

So, this is kinda a hard thing for me to admit because it makes me seem like the shittiest person ever. But... I used to be a raging aphobe.

Part of the thing that helped me change was this forum, because it caused me to read more about asexuality, and not only did I realize that the way I was thinking was wrong and just plain incorrect, I realized that the biggest reason I was so rude and bigoted toward ace people is because I was in denial of being on the ace and aro spectrums.

I get it if I still seem like a bad person, but I just wanted to say thank you to everyone here because you've all helped me change, and not only that, break down the walls and get out of denial about who I am.

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we must be Contained
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"You're not really LGBT. You guys have never been oppressed. You're the straight white men of the LGBTQIA."

A quote from my (extremely heterosexual) sister. I love her, but I really wanted to smack her when she said this. I laughed it off, but it was kinda hurtful, especially with that one girl being murdered recently.

She also says I'm not allowed to say I'm LGBT, because it doesn't have an "A" in it.

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Edit: Sorry, that last line wasn't clear. According to her I'm not allowed to say, "I'm a member of the LGBT." I have to say the full "LGBTQIA" or I'm appropriating homosexual, bisexual, and trans culture or something.

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These idiots are straight out of 70s or 80s

Some dumb ass: Women don't have sexual desire, and men can't say no to sex.
Me: *i'm the living proof of opposite of what you said* Ever heard of asexuality?

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