Is it wrong to tell someone to take their time when exploring their sexuality??

EDIT: I am ace (sex-repulsed). Stop assuming my sexuality... This really proves how many people can’t think without stereotypes.

As a psychologist, I see a lot of young people questioning their sexuality. They're in a hurry to find a category/group to fit in. And wanting to fit in is completely normal. However, I think it's way too early for many people to know who they are during their teenage years. Haven't even graduated high school, near zero dating experience, no job, no life experience. The American sex-ed is putting such a big pressure on them to figure things out so early on in life. Our brains are fully developed mid to late 20s. I hate to see so many teens, sometimes even tweens, having anxiety over their sexuality. They aren't even halfway to full brain development!! Plus, we are always changing as we age. There's really no point in figuring things out so early. To those people, stop pressuring and telling people that they should've figured this out in their teen years >:-(

As a psychologist, I also talk to some people who want to be different. Some just wanted to be anything but straight. They want to have this breaking news to get attention from friends and family. In where I live, there are some "treats" when a person identifies as part of the pride community in school or the workplace. So, some people wanted the treat and lie about their sexuality. I hate it when this happens.

So, a couple of days ago I wrote this comment on this subreddit:

>You're still young. Maybe you're ace or maybe you're just not ready. Give your mind and body more time to figure things out. Then, you will have more experience and know more about your feelings.

>I really hate how people are so quick to slap labels on themselves and others. Maybe they just want to feel special?

And it got downvoted by a couple of people.

And I realize that this post will probably get downvoted by a couple of people. And I sincerely don't care. It just means that some people aren't ready to face the truth.

I just want people to know, you are not valued by your sexuality. You are valued for the combination of all your characteristics. Even if you haven't figured out the exact term to describe yourself, it's okay. There are many languages in this world; each language has its unique words. English is missing a lot of words. You are who you are without those terms. It's okay to take your time.

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I regret going onto twitter today
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What happens inside my head every now and then

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Found this old convo I had with my mom, her last message still bothers me 2 years later

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Are you happy being asexual?

I (21F) always thought I was ok and prepared to live my life as an asexual person. But as I’ve gotten older and started dating, I’m realising that my relationships aren’t going to look like everyone else’s - and that makes me really sad.

Asexual men seem really hard to find. Allo guys don’t wanna hang around after the third or fourth date because I won’t kiss them, let alone have sex with them. I understand why that can be a dealbreaker, and I don’t judge them for it, but it still hurts.

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The best answer

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Finally Told My Sister I was Asexual and it was disappointing

My sister's (she's eight years old than me--I'm 42) response is the exact response that keeps me from telling others and to keep it to myself because I know who and what I am. "I thought about it for a long time," I said "I'm asexual."

She turned to me briefly (we were in the car) and she said, "Maybe you haven't found the right guy." I shriveled up inside. Her son, my nephew, understood when I admitted it to him and accepted it, at fourteen. My sister is 51 and a nurse practitioner in psychiatry. I hope she doesn't tell her clients that sort of thing.

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Do you guys hold any real hope of getting in relationships?

Idk...it just feels so unrealistic for me. I'm sex-repulsed and it's just a big no. I want to share a home and a bed and build a library and a garden together, yk? It's just so hard to find other ace people that I click with and because I'm semi-attractive, a lot of people refuse to believe I'm ace or see it as a challenge. The options are so limited. I'm young still (18) but I've known since I was 12 or so, and the older I get, the less realistic a relationship seems.

It feels hard to relate to all my friends who are in relationships and going on dates and double dates. I can never go out with the people they want to set me up with or with the people I like because it's always a deal breaker

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WRIGHT and Edgeworth are a qpp power squish! CHANGE MY MIND
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I told my Psychiatrist I was asexual and he straight up told me I wasn’t and said that I WAS IN LOVE WITH HIM %*#!^}\&$?!!!

This is one of those moments you’re so angry and frustrated that THERE ARE NO WORDS.

I told my psychiatrist that I was asexual and he immediately asked me if I masturbate. Headsmack #1.

I said sometimes, maybe two or three times a year, and then he said well then obviously I wasn’t. Headsmack #2.

Then he told me that I was in love with him.

Me. **ME.** He told ME that *I* was in love with *HIM*.


🤬🤬🤬 **WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE!!!!!!!**

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When can a minor realise they are ace?

Just wanted to know! 😃

-an asexual

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Aroace Jedi master trying to guide her Padawan like:

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