"Hmm, we have a character that is perfectly happy not having sex or any romantic attachments at all. Let's give them a romantic subplot!"
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I'm asexual and I hate it
I feel like being asexual just... really sucks. I try to be positive and accepting of myself and hey, I usually am! But once I start thinking about relationships and my future it just makes me realize how shitty my situation is. While I realize this is mostly my own personal problem, I feel like asexuals in general get the short end of the stick... Sorry for the negativity, especially towards allosexual people. I promise I don't usually feel as strongly about these issues but I'm really in a bad mental place right now. I can only hope I'm not alone on this...
The thing is, allosexual people love to say that sex is the most intimate expression of love and yet so many of them that nuke their entire relationship because there's none involved. It's contradictive, manipulative and gross. If they really wanted intimacy, if they really cared so deeply about connecting with the person they're with, they'd be willing to find a new way to do so. There are so many ways to feel close to a person... Seriously, no matter how I look at them, most allo-ace relationships just seem one-sided to me. Whenever I read about them it's always the asexual person that's making effort, usually by forcing themselves to have sex, while the allosexual person is just making demands. I have yet to see a story that's the other way around. It's extremely unfair. I understand that relationships are all about compromises but they're also supposed to be a team effort... No?
This wouldn't annoy me half as much if only allo people stopped pretending like sex is an Ultimate Spiritual Bonding Experience and asexuals are The Bad Ones for denying them that. Just admit you like sex! That's it! It's extremely common for allosexuals to sugarcoat it this way and I find it extremely insulting. We're no less capable of intimacy than anyone else, you just don't feel like making the necessary effort. And you know, you might say that agreeing to a sexless relationship and forcing yourself to have sex are both equal compromises, but you'll never convince me that simply not having sex is the same as letting someone violate your body. Not when masturbation exists. People just feel entitled to other people's bodies and don't like to admit it.
Granted, asexuals can date each other and I think that's amazing! That seems like an ideal kind of relationship to me and personally I'd love to have something like that in the future. But with asexuality being so rare, I feel like it's very hard to find someone like you without actively looking for them... It hurts me quite a bit that I can't just fall in love naturally without bracing myself for some kind of disappointment and big sacrifices. It feels like I have no chance for normalcy in this world...
I just hate everything about this. I hate entitled allosexuals and I hate myself. I hate how I'll most likely have to compromise my bodily freedom in order to make a relationship work. Not only is the idea unpleasant and awkward in itself but the fact that I'm a woman makes things so much worse. The possibillity of pain and pregnancy makes me completely afraid of having sex and I feel like I'm at a dead end. Once again, I'm sorry for being negative but man, I feel like my life is worthless. The only thing keeping me going is the fact that romantic relationships aren't that important to me. But I still wish things would be different... I can't help but feel depressed about the injustice of it all...
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I feel like being asexual just... really sucks. I try to be positive and accepting of myself and hey, I usually am! But once I start thinking about relationships and my future it just makes me realize how shitty my situation is. While I realize this is mostly my own personal problem, I feel like asexuals in general get the short end of the stick... Sorry for the negativity, especially towards allosexual people. I promise I don't usually feel as strongly about these issues but I'm really in a bad mental place right now. I can only hope I'm not alone on this...
The thing is, allosexual people love to say that sex is the most intimate expression of love and yet so many of them that nuke their entire relationship because there's none involved. It's contradictive, manipulative and gross. If they really wanted intimacy, if they really cared so deeply about connecting with the person they're with, they'd be willing to find a new way to do so. There are so many ways to feel close to a person... Seriously, no matter how I look at them, most allo-ace relationships just seem one-sided to me. Whenever I read about them it's always the asexual person that's making effort, usually by forcing themselves to have sex, while the allosexual person is just making demands. I have yet to see a story that's the other way around. It's extremely unfair. I understand that relationships are all about compromises but they're also supposed to be a team effort... No?
This wouldn't annoy me half as much if only allo people stopped pretending like sex is an Ultimate Spiritual Bonding Experience and asexuals are The Bad Ones for denying them that. Just admit you like sex! That's it! It's extremely common for allosexuals to sugarcoat it this way and I find it extremely insulting. We're no less capable of intimacy than anyone else, you just don't feel like making the necessary effort. And you know, you might say that agreeing to a sexless relationship and forcing yourself to have sex are both equal compromises, but you'll never convince me that simply not having sex is the same as letting someone violate your body. Not when masturbation exists. People just feel entitled to other people's bodies and don't like to admit it.
Granted, asexuals can date each other and I think that's amazing! That seems like an ideal kind of relationship to me and personally I'd love to have something like that in the future. But with asexuality being so rare, I feel like it's very hard to find someone like you without actively looking for them... It hurts me quite a bit that I can't just fall in love naturally without bracing myself for some kind of disappointment and big sacrifices. It feels like I have no chance for normalcy in this world...
I just hate everything about this. I hate entitled allosexuals and I hate myself. I hate how I'll most likely have to compromise my bodily freedom in order to make a relationship work. Not only is the idea unpleasant and awkward in itself but the fact that I'm a woman makes things so much worse. The possibillity of pain and pregnancy makes me completely afraid of having sex and I feel like I'm at a dead end. Once again, I'm sorry for being negative but man, I feel like my life is worthless. The only thing keeping me going is the fact that romantic relationships aren't that important to me. But I still wish things would be different... I can't help but feel depressed about the injustice of it all...
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r/Asexual - I'm asexual and I hate it
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Being a high libido ace is like having a really flashy car but you take the bus everywhere
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r/asexuality - Being a high libido ace is like having a really flashy car but you take the bus everywhere
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Made some stickers for a ‘pride night’ on the ship I work on
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Asexual Instagram star Bianca was murdered by an incel, and her asexuality is already being erased by most people and news organizations. We need to start some kind of tag to prevent her asexuality from being erased from the discussion. We do experience violence, and that must be brought to light.
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I know he wasn't asexual but this a step forward for the lgbt+ community as a whole to get a gay person on a banknote
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New face of the Bank of England's £50 note is revealed as Alan Turing
The note - once called the currency of corrupt elites - gets a makeover with the image of a computer pioneer.
Tinder has an Asexuality Option now
I've been trying it out but it honestly seems I'm the only Ace in my area that's using it. It's anyone else on Tinder?
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I've been trying it out but it honestly seems I'm the only Ace in my area that's using it. It's anyone else on Tinder?
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r/Asexual - Tinder has an Asexuality Option now
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